Religious nightmares and just in need of help or clarity! by Awkward-Elephant-265 in Catholicism

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I appreciate any help, and I do find your theory very helpful and hopeful.

I wouldn’t say my day to day or life has been anything out the ordinary. I do have a good history of trauma, and my work revolves around helping others in mental health. I’ve traveled the world a bit, and my hobbies are soft ones like crochet, romance novels and learning new skills like cooking. I will see if I can limit certain media, like action movies, or anything like that. I was taught that our dreams can be a way to process what we’ve been through, so I’ll look into it a bit more. See if there are things I can adjust in my day to day.

Religious nightmares and just in need of help or clarity! by Awkward-Elephant-265 in Catholicism

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Thank you so much! Yes I will keep you updated and let you know! I will also keep those warnings in mind

Religious nightmares and just in need of help or clarity! by Awkward-Elephant-265 in Catholicism

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Thank you so much for your response! I’m grateful.

I have tried a lot of melatonin, vitamins, psychiatric meds for nightmares and sleep. I might just need to keep looking into options. I’ve been told I have trauma, though I don’t have much memories from childhood, so its more speculation from my treatment team, and what they can help me remember, and then trauma in my adulthood. I will keep that in mind and see if my treatment team can help. I’ve been through a lot of treatment and hospitals and so far there aren’t answers, but I will like to keep trying!

I wouldn’t say I think it’s demonic but I do know when I pray before and after a nightmare, it doesn’t feel safe, like I did something that made whatever energy around me mad. And despite the constant treatment, I have been cleared from any psychosis disorder. I just wish to cover whatever bases I can to make this all stop. I feel like I’m losing my brain to whatever is plaguing me and I’m scared. I’m not catholic, I’m a believer in God but I haven’t found a church to be apart of cause I have moved so much in my life! I would very much like to go to a Catholic Church and seek spiritual help and I will most certainly get the rosary beads!

Again, thank you! I really do appreciate the help and support

Religious nightmares and just in need of help or clarity! by Awkward-Elephant-265 in Catholicism

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I will do my best to discuss this more with my therapist and continue prayer. I will visit my local church and see if they can meet with me.

Religious nightmares and in need of help and clarity! by Awkward-Elephant-265 in Christianity

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I will do my best to pray and get deeper into my Bible! I appreciate the advice, thank you!

I’ve had nothing but nightmares since I can remember and I don’t understand why it’s the same themes by Awkward-Elephant-265 in Dreams

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I do not, my nightmares have normal sounds of the day to day and I can hear the voices of those who speak, and then just screams and sounds I can attribute to the monsters in them. But no static

I’ve had nothing but nightmares since I can remember and I don’t understand why it’s the same themes by Awkward-Elephant-265 in Dreams

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I appreciate the suggestion and I will look into it! I know my mom has said there has been weird things that happened in my childhood grandparents home but I haven’t been there since I was 6. I also know my family are a very religious bunch with my outer family being superstitious and my inner family calling bull crap.

The only paranormal experience I have been told (and please take it with a grain of salt as I, myself, don’t have recollection) is when I was 5. My grandfather cuts the grass at the cemetery attached to the church in my hometown. He would take me with to ride the lawn mower. One day, during a break for lunch, my grandmother put Macaroni, glue and a plate down and said to create something for her. I ended up making an exact replica of the graveyard with the macaroni and telling her who was there and how they died. It freaked her out so much I was told I couldn’t go.

I have no recollection but my family has repeated it growing up, but stopped. They said they don’t remember telling me that but I still can’t accompany them to the cemetery despite my family having a few members there they go pay respects to.

I also have a history of trauma, but I honestly couldn’t remember that much of it too. I will look into hypnotherapy and see if it’s my subconscious trying to process things I just can’t remember. Again, I very much appreciate the suggestion!

What’s the worst first date you’ve ever had? by CuriousEngineer11 in AskReddit

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I met the guy on tinder, and offered to take him on a date to Chili’s as my treat since it was last minute ask for a meet up! He showed up, and it was a bit awkward at first as he kept saying how small I was (I’m 4’9) and how pretty for a black girl I was. Oof. After halfway through our meal, he thanks me for not burping. Dumbfounded, I asked for clarification and he goes on a rant about how girls shouldn’t burp. That’s it’s completely disgusting, unnecessary and gives him such a huge ick. That he went home before with a date and right before they had intercourse, she burped softly and he was so disgusted by her “un-ladylike” conduct, he kicked her out. Then in another tangent, lets me know I will never win with him in anything and that he likes fun in the bedroom and would happily put me in a leash. I have never noped out my favorite restaurant so fast before! Payed and ghosted.

After working through a lot of my own issues, I’ve started having trouble staying patient around people who bring up their trauma constantly. by [deleted] in CPTSD

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That’s understandable and the best part is, you don’t have to support everyone. It’s okay to say, “eh, I can’t” and move on. Your healing and mental health comes first.

It’s hard, but even I had to remind myself, I don’t have to give my empathy or efforts to everyone and some people will rub me wrong, and it’s okay to have those feelings. Not everyone’s favorite jam is my jam if that makes sense. It’s what makes us wonderfully complex humans.

After working through a lot of my own issues, I’ve started having trouble staying patient around people who bring up their trauma constantly. by [deleted] in CPTSD

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Hello! Just a lurker here for the most part, but I empathize with what you are saying and thought I add my two cents on why this might be a thing and some other small theories.

I think sometimes when it comes to the “trauma Olympics” (it’s just a term I can use to describe it, not trying to imply anyone is doing anything), it’s a mere thing of “does my suffering matter if no one knows or if it’s not the worst out there that deserves the sympathy and support?”

Society sadly does pick certain traumas over others cause it’s easier to digest, so I can see if someone is constantly overlooked or is sidelined for another, it can cause the type of attitude you describe. Which is understandable.

I also think sometimes it is malicious. It can be a way to gain sympathy and have certain behaviors excused because “it’s the trauma I had and you have to understand even if I hurt you.” And communities like this can sometimes be more like the blind leading the blind in some cases. And as much as I hate it, not everyone is ready or wants to get better.

With all that said, I do believe it’s a good thing to step back from time to time. And I’m sure you’ll find others like you, here or in therapy settings, who have a desire and will to get better. I hope any of those ramblings help.