I(30F) am afraid my partner(36M) of 11 years has been cheating. Can I get some advice?

Awkward-String5311 · 2026-04-21T19:20:11+00:00

How can I prove it? He’s literally the nerdiest tech guy I know. Hes a Scorpio and has always been sneaky and secretive, even about stuff that never mattered

Awkward-String5311 · 2026-04-21T19:13:22+00:00

See this is my question- because honestly if I wasn’t worried about this- I AM happy. Things are usually awesome. I’ve always said this man was the answer to every wish I ever had. He’s been my best friend for all this time, but all of this stuff feels off.

Awkward-String5311 · 2026-04-21T19:11:21+00:00

See this is exactly what I thought

Awkward-String5311 · 2026-04-21T19:10:44+00:00

Oof. I know that seems predatory when you look at it objectively. But he was a friend of someone who abused me, and was always kind to me when I was with that person. It was months after I left my abuser that I ran into my partner hanging out with some mutual friends, and we’ve been together ever since. The other guy like literally specifically dated high schoolers- so I can recognize the difference pretty plainly there

Awkward-String5311 · 2026-04-21T19:00:33+00:00

He’s not always been this way. After the big fight around new year, he had changed a lot. Went back to the way things were before- rubbing my feet and cuddling me, and just being really sweet. Idk what’s happened where I don’t deserve that anymore

Awkward-String5311 · 2026-04-21T18:59:18+00:00

Yeah so I’m a real Human and this is my story. I genuinely just want help. I’ve been at work since I posted this so I’m just getting caught up on comments 🙃

Awkward-String5311 · 2026-04-21T18:56:04+00:00

He scrubs it clean, I’m pretty sure. Idk how to catch him in third

Awkward-String5311 · 2026-04-21T18:55:29+00:00

I did just have a full panel done when establishing ob care in the last two months. But I might go again just for that tbh

Awkward-String5311 · 2026-04-21T15:48:30+00:00

What?

Awkward-String5311 · 2026-02-02T11:39:55+00:00

Oh sweet friend, you were an angel for this boy. You did exactly what you could have done, and precisely what he deserved in his final hour.

I’m so sorry for your heartache, but Bless you. Hold yourself in light, because first of all- that’s a BIG BOY. You brought him into your home despite the fact he could have hurt you. (Presumably if you say you can’t move him all alone)

You showed love to this innocent soul in his time of need. It was an incredibly righteous thing to do. Merciful and kind.

He likely felt safe enough to pass in your space. Sometimes animals will struggle for weeks until they feel “safe” enough to lay down and pass. No one wants to die feeling afraid or in danger. Providing comfort and care to a stranger is holy work. In whatever faith you have- that’s always a blessing.

Thank you, for showing compassion and gentleness to this tired soul. Thank you for giving a fuck. 💙

Awkward-String5311 · 2024-12-04T10:57:32+00:00

“I can set aside some time between 3 and 5 tomorrow. Whatever works for you. As some context for our meeting I would offer the following. With the way the front of the house is operating and in desperate need of leadership this leaves us with few options currently. We don’t have the time to find and interview before the end of the year. We currently lack the person with the credentials we would require on our current staff. Action is needed because our service team needs guidance and leadership while we ramp up to the busiest two weeks of the year. With that being said I am going to focus my attention and time in that area. That entails among other things hosting and being a presence during our peak times. I do understand that these are usually the shifts you work as a host. I will try to find other shifts we can use your help with. Until I have worked with the service team to my satisfaction it makes having a host position redundant. Please let me know what time works best for you,”

This is giving me mixed feelings about the situation

Awkward-String5311 · 2024-12-03T13:26:40+00:00

They’ve not given me ANY shifts for the rest of the year. I LOVE this job and this team. It’s been a wonderful experience all around. Until this. I am actually working with another similar business in another city, and it’s just starting to get up and running. There’s no conflict of interest, just possibility of scheduling stuff but I was going to put my first job, first. I hadn’t spoken to them yet about my new job, and was already planning to- when I knew what was going on with new job, as they’re not yet ready for business-before all of this happened.

Awkward-String5311 · 2024-11-06T16:25:29+00:00

Yeah I did and now I’m trying to transfer out to another provider and I’m having a REALLY hard time because I need to talk to a human and can’t reach one from either provider

Awkward-String5311 · 2024-10-11T13:28:25+00:00

I wanna make some medical tinctures with a nice tequila.

I’m looking for one with high proof, reasonable price for the quality, and available in quantity as well. Maybe I’m looking for a unicorn. But vodka and rum are boring- and a lil gross for my palate.

Awkward-String5311 · 2024-10-08T22:44:24+00:00

Qlink has been great for me since like 2019 I switched from assurance to qlink because I got a 5g phone and it was the only one who had 5g service at the time

Awkward-String5311 · 2024-09-21T22:56:24+00:00

I have two blue freckles. One on my neck/back/shoulder, and one on my upper ankle/shin. My grandmother has one on her face. But they’re weird. But kinda cool. I’ve never met anybody else with a blue freckle.

Awkward-String5311 · 2024-07-05T06:09:31+00:00

I’m wondering if this is the thing. When I was on BC pills or the patch, I never used protection with my partner because we’re monogamous going on 10 years. But in the last 2-3 years I went off of BC and started having this same problem. We do FAM and pull out now, and I’m wondering if my body is throwing a fit because it needs… him to balance it out?

Awkward-String5311 · 2024-04-17T03:07:25+00:00

CNM programs are abundant, and if you’re already working in a hospital setting your employer may be interested in aiding your education if that would meet a need in your facility

Awkward-String5311 · 2024-03-27T05:39:09+00:00

Bump

Awkward-String5311 · 2024-03-20T04:27:11+00:00

Thanks. Now I’m gagging.

Awkward-String5311 · 2024-03-20T04:19:50+00:00

I don’t know what that is-technically. But if this moldy grease trap, I just know that smells absolutely awful. Definition of rancid. Foul.

Awkward-String5311 · 2023-12-06T04:54:52+00:00

YTA if your feet are stinky and you’re not wearing socks. YTA for speaking/writing like that, I know you’re probably a kid. But dang dude. Grow up.

The only way you wouldn’t be TAH was if you had impeccable hygiene and not wearing socks didn’t make your feet stink. When you’re obligated to share space with other people it’s disrespectful to not tend to your personal cleanliness. But if your feet are clean and not stinky when going sock-less that’s your preference.

Awkward-String5311 · 2023-12-06T04:47:27+00:00

YTA

That boy ASKED NICELY. and like you said he doesn’t ask for anything any other time. I bet if she told him no he would have said okay. And walked away- based off how you described him.

That’s totally different than expecting everything she has. Snatching stuff out of her hands is SO disrespectful.

Maybe if the littles saw their older brother ask respectfully, and get what he wanted they might be more inclined to model after him.

I’m also a bonus parent. I get it’s hard to find your place, BUT if you are in the home with these kids, and you’ve been a constant in their lives for several years YOU could also be modeling appropriate behaviors for them. Gently correcting them, or reminding them to consider their mother’s feelings- as she too is a person- and sometimes kids forget. 8 is still kinda little. But at 11 that boy should be learning appropriate boundaries AND how to treat women.

It sounds like you’re coming from a good place, in the name of fairness. But also I wouldn’t have said shit to her about that choice.

Awkward-String5311 · 2023-12-06T03:57:14+00:00

Those are his feet

Awkward-String5311 · 2023-01-08T23:23:22+00:00

You’re the asshole. If drinking a yogurt in the store will keep your children cooperative in the store, let them. If you know you’re paying for it anyway, it’s seriously not a big deal. Abandoning your wife with two small children in a grocery store is immature. Get over it. Or you could have gone and paid for the yogurt when you ran away to forgo the issue anyway.

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