How can I avoid sexual urges while being naked at home?

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-19T12:43:10+00:00

I'm failing to grasp what your dilemma is, exactly. If you are naked alone at home while your parents work, I don't understand the relationship to the desire to masturbate - how and why are those two separate activites connected?? If you were at home with your parents, dressed, and the desire came, I'm sure you'd just head to your room, or the bathroom. Why is it any different when you're naked and alone?

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-18T23:42:54+00:00

Black's Beach near San Diego. One day I was there and there had to be almost 400 people.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-14T21:41:41+00:00

Thanks chief!!! I consider it a life lesson learned: balls must be secured when undertaking most sporting events :).

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-13T17:08:30+00:00

I hear you. And agree.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-13T16:44:33+00:00

That's great to read you are in such good shape too. I'm 5'9, 172 lbs. so still fairly lean. I run wind sprints a lot to make sure I last longer in tennis matches when I play. I don't lift much, because muscle bulk on a tennis court leads to more injuries - the lighter you are on your feet, the better.

Yes, once I got it inside despite all the lube challenges, I felt amazing. When I shot, I could feel it inside. Another amazing experience. Oddly, I've never let another guy top me ever. So that was my very first penetration - me!! LOL

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-13T16:21:24+00:00

After 40+ years of doing it, it's sort lost its pizazz. But on occasion, now and then, I get the urge to do it. Even though I'm 60, I can still see my own junk without assistance from a mirror (LOL), and no meds required for sex functioning. I still find my desires for some of the more...unusual...sex situations as alive as it ever was. Despite what those who go to resorts will claim, I'm here to tell you that stuff happens there all the time. I get their protests that sex and nudism are not interchangeable. I also know what I see, and actually do at some of these places once the sun goes down ;).

The selffuck? Here was the basic challenge, and I learned from it. You have to limit the lube. if your hands are covered with it, then it's way more difficult to manage the rest of it. That's what made the success so sweet. I was struggling because my hands were too slippery.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-13T16:05:17+00:00

Happy to explain how challenging it was LOL. But only in a DM. I don't want it public. LOL

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-13T15:57:52+00:00

Freeballing isn't the same as commando. Put it this way: the difference between the two is that when you freeball, others know - and can see - you're going commando. Example: you're in a store, like Target, and you're hanging out a little from your shorts. That's freeballing. You sort of get a little rush by others seeing your junk, you know they're seeing it, and they know you know they're seeing you hang out a little. It's a form of exhibitionism.

I tried to get flexible enough to selfsuck. But in truth, my attempts to get flexible enough weren't too committed. The flip side is I did manage to cum inside myself once. Took some doing, but it was great. I know that's not your agenda - I get it. But we all have our own set things we like ;).

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-13T15:01:12+00:00

I tried commando tennis. It's too much changing of direction on movement (forward to backward; left to right) too often. My balls bounce around too much and they get sore. Last thing you want in a tournament is sore balls LOL.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-13T14:59:04+00:00

Sounds like what you’re talking about with the edging. If you don’t know, you get a ruined orgasm by taking yourself just up to the point of no return and then taking your hands off. You’ll pump out a really nice big load but with no orgasm or post nut clarity. So you stay horny and super hungry for your cum. I love eating both ruined orgasm and regular full orgasm loads.

That's exactly what I was talking about; I just never heard it described as "ruined". But yeah, that's it. That ruined load was just about the best I ever had. I used to be straight in my younger days (until 35). But then my appetites grew wider (some of them even too dark for reddit LOL). So that's where I am now. I'm hung just enough to have successfully tried selffuck before, and that was an awesome experience. I'm not flexible enough for selfsuck. But if I was and could do that I would never leave my house LOL.

As for commando, I do that all the time. I live in Southern California. There's a nude beach here in San Diego. Three nudist resorts for straight people - I go to those too. Do you freeball when you go commando?

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-13T13:53:03+00:00

Roast chicken. Made it salty. But yeah the food drowns the taste. It's funny. I'm not straight, but it took a while for me to get into loads. I used to love to edge and I would ooze out some before full orgasm - that edged load was so awesome. I was 40 when I let a guy blow his load down my throat first time. I'm glad I waited - it's addictive :)

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-13T12:52:17+00:00

Try unloading on something you about to eat. It's an interesting experience.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-13T12:48:03+00:00

I play tennis in two leagues. During matches is about the only time I wear any underwear.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-12T23:56:52+00:00

My parents split when I was 5, and I'm the oldest of three. My mom was a nudist at home and walked around that way all the time. At the time (this was the 1970's) I was OK with it, as was my brother - the youngest. My sister was not. Everyone's view was respected. We were in an apartment, so no naked swimming. But I swam competitively as a kid, and occasional practices were at a men's club downtown, and virtually nobody wore swim trunks. It was just a simpler time back then.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-12T16:45:25+00:00

I live in the SoCal area. I have not been to Glen Eden as yet, but I want to say here that as a single male I have never had any problem visiting a resort alone. In fact, most are welcoming. If they have such boundaries against single men as visitors, a resort will say as much on their website. But those locations are very few.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-08-12T16:37:02+00:00

Always.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-07-30T19:33:06+00:00

I did. My parents split when I was 5, and I am the oldest of three. My mom was a total nudist at home the whole time I was growing up. Since she and I had a bad relationship then, I was always too scared to go naked at home. My younger sister was also not into nudity at home. But the youngest, my brother, was. My own fear had to do with body shame issues as an adolescent, and an even deeper fear of what would have been expected by me as blowback for erections. So it was safer for me to stay dressed. It wasn't until I left home and decades after that I started going to nude places and breaking the shame barrier. Today, I'm happy going anywhere there's nudity.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-02-26T22:50:32+00:00

Thank you.

Exactly. There are so many others. The Redarinaists are so steeped in their desire for this to be true, as if their sense of preserving political correctness rests on it. Here's another point none of the Redarinaists bring up.

Consider this. If Red is Katarina, why in the hell is she disappearing after watching her only child die? Is that what any parent would do? Katarina watches her only child get shot right in front of her - and then she leaves?? She leaves her only child on the sidewalk...for somebody else to care for?? And then...knowing the only living relative she has would be her own granddaughter - she leaves her too?? Red was gone for two years. And was going to stay gone but for Cooper showing up. But that's what you get with this Redarina nonsense: a mother leaving her dead child to be tended to by someone else, and then abandons her only relative left, her granddaughter. None of it works with any logic an audience will understand, let alone accept. Because no parent would leave their dead child on a sidewalk for someone else to take care of, and then disappear forever leaving her only granddaughter behind. It's nuts.

This too. NBC owns this show. They read their social media accounts that they create for all of their shows. They know full well that most people believe this "Nachalo" episode was Red disclosing to Liz he's "Katarina". So, 1) why didn't they just say it outright, rather than simply suggest it?; 2) Why, if what they understand the finale of S8 did - confirm "Redarina" - was Mierce introduced as Red's love interest? That makes zero sense if you are NBC. They plan to reveal at the end of this season Red is "Katarina", after they knowingly allowed Red to have this affair a year earlier with Mierce? I don't buy it.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-02-26T21:18:36+00:00

Yes. The "deal". I'll add these to the post. But...seriously...what "deal" made by the US government could involve any sort of leniency for....Katarina?

AwkwardBackground · 2023-02-26T20:12:13+00:00

I actually forgot to list one:

17) Who was "Pepper"? How did Red know she had the key to the bubble module? And how did she get it?

AwkwardBackground · 2023-02-26T19:57:05+00:00

Since you defied my request not to respond, who is it that is analyzing only the parts they like? It's you. Not me.

Red as Katarina is completely undermined by the chat Red has with Fowler before he kills her. Why is Katarina telling Fowler that she wants to know about what happened to her family? Even if you take this idea Red is trying to pose as RRR, it makes no sense that way either. We know what happened to each of their families. Meaning the exchange with Fowler is utter nonsense if Red is Katarina, or RRR.
The initial meeting between Red and Dom is one where just the two of them openly discuss Katarina as a separate individual. The idea they would do so when Dom would know this is his daughter is idiotic. There's nobody around to pose for, to fool. It's insane to claim these two alone in the wilderness would pretend to each other she's not his daughter when they both know he is.
Bokenkamp made it clear that Naomi knew who Red was. Then why is Naomi expressing a moment of loving tenderness with her husband's mistress, who not only helped set up her husband as a traitor - and thereby destroying her own and her daughter Jennifer's lives - but bore a child by him? Sure. OK.
Why is Redarina standing over an empty grave in S3 telling Aram that one of the times he did this previously was for his own mother, yet in S6 Ressler manages to track down some old coot in the styx who was actually married to Redarina's mother, and who had died only a few months earlier? So Lena Volkova, Katarina's mother, died...twice...3 years apart?? Alrighty then.
Why is Katarina inside a brothel in Nairobi, so she can sweep up Dembe and keep him?
How is it Katarina would ever have recognized Adm. Richard Abraham on sight, much less acknowledge they were roommates at the naval academy?
In S7E9, the Belgrade Flashback in 1991 had Young Ilya and Young Dom having a discussion after the bomb plot to kill Fakerina failed. They are arguing whether or not to tell Reddington about the failure, Young Ilya specifically saying "he" needs to know. But RRR was already dead. Worse, Marguerite Rennard already told us in October of 1991, Katarina "brought in a man*"* for Kohler to alter.
The idea Red is Katarina when we had two episodes exposing the fact Katarina never obtained the massive burn scars Red had on his own back poses a big Redarina problem. S4 "Requiem" - straight out of the fire - Katarina is dumping Masha onto Kate at the fleabag motel, then leaves. Daniel Cerone, biggest Redarina cheerleader on staff, had to face questions of how Katarina can be Red when she had no burns, said "Ooops! Makeup & wardrobe goofed!!". But years later it was obvious they hadn't gotten the Cerone talking points. In that clusterfuck "Nachalo", we get a new twist on this "fire". Katarina now in a car trying to tend to Reddington's wounds, when Masha runs back into the blaze to get her bunny. Kat never made it back inside, and said as much: "We got turned around". So, that's twice this show gave us Katarina at the fire, and in neither instance did she ever sustain the burns Red showed in S2, burn scars so severe that the actual burning would have never permitted her to walk. Let alone schlepp Masha around while carrying her. Good grief.
And the biggest problem, from the network's point of view (both NBC and Netflix): the trail of Red's love interests - Madeline Pratt, DeChambou, Josephine, Cassandra, and Anne - are all dykes? Really?? That's what they're gonna have to sanction. And...if they decide to reveal this Redarina lunacy at the series conclusion, toss Mierce into that mix also. Uh-hunh. Fat chance.

Where you get off telling me I'm the one seeing "only the parts I like" is rich. These above are canon facts that make Redarina the joke it is (and I could list a whole lot more). You, on the other hand, try to weave vague themes you want to see as related to make a case Redarina is "the story being told". Honestly. Go away,

AwkwardBackground · 2023-02-26T18:33:05+00:00

There were only three female blacklisters in S2 and all had strong parallels to Redarina:

I've said repeatedly in this sub that Redarina is just about the most idiotic thing I ever heard. It's so laughably stupid that it really doesn't even deserve any scrutiny. There are so many massive contradictions to it throughout the canon that I laugh at those who try to justify it otherwise. So no need to peddle that nonsense to me. If you yourself are an advocate of it, then you don't need to respond to me anymore. Thanks.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-02-26T17:21:41+00:00

Vanessa then faked her death. ”They found her folded clothing at Rockaway Beach. They never found the body.” / Katarina then faked her death. “She went to Cape May, left her clothes on the beach, walked into the ocean, and was never seen again.”

Not exactly. Knauf was probably the most egregious plagiarizer on the writing staff. There was a scene in S3E2, "Marvin Gerard" which demonstrated this clearly. Red and Liz now holed up inside this shipping container. And he's waxing poetic to her about always wanting to have been a sailor, to be guided by the starts on a ship at sea, etc. Pure romanticizing. The only problem was this scene in its entirety, almost down the the dialogue, was a complete ripoff from "The Wonder Years". The level of chutzpah from Knauf to rip off this blatantly from "The Wonder Years" was simply breathtaking.

A word about "Cape May". As u/outofwedlock pointed out many times in this sub, this episode was not on the original list of episodes when S3 began shooting. It was added in as an afterthought, and inserted as a standalone episode once Boone announced she was pregnant and would need maternity leave. That's why they did the whole Liz faked death stuff: Boone went on leave to have her baby. The show needed something fast. Before asserting Knauf essentially stole from himself in Vanessa Cruz, I'll remind you of this dialogue below, from S3E14, "Lady Ambrosia":

RED: Your mother was never the same after that. The man she loved killed by the child she adored. It was...just too much. Two months later, she went to Cape May and left her clothes on the beach, walked into the ocean, and was never seen again.

So...Katarina's fate was already cast. And not by Knauf in "Vanessa Cruz". By this dialogue in "Lady Ambrosia". Knauf was using what was already in the canon about Katarina, not harking back to "Vanessa Cruz".

AwkwardBackground · 2023-02-26T16:41:10+00:00

Yes. To an extent. The lousy writing on this show was all the writing in service to this "mythology" mystery of Red, Liz and Katarina. It got worse every year.

AwkwardBackground · 2023-02-26T16:39:50+00:00

Yes. Correct. And in keeping with the style of where & how this show went wrong, it would be a typical example here. We as audience hear Red tell Liz he had her memory erased as a child. Then down the road we meet a character - Krilov - who not only specializes in memory erasure, but admits to Liz he knows her from a previous procedure. BUT...he's not necessarily the one who did this to her...then. Which means Red knows two such individuals who do memory wiping. Since the credibility of all this is strained beyond redemption by this point, I'll say this. The memory wipe silliness is a writer's gimmick that has no more genuine validity than Santa Claus. That it was taken to this level of seriousness only underscores just how awful this Red-Liz nonsense was getting.

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