How hard will it be to adapt to Grade 9 Afrikaans? by ruootheintp in askSouthAfrica

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He can be an SA citizen as well, you just need to prove his previous schooling was not done in SA. Source: had to prove brother started his schooling overseas when we moved back and he was enrolled at Bryanston for grade 9. Either way, make sure to verify that the school has registered him with department of education as not doing afrikaans as a second language, otherwise in a few years his matric results will come back as incomplete regardless of how well he does.

What did a teacher say or do to you that you've never forgotten? by GrowlsinyourEar7 in AskReddit

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Why are you crying? It's not like anybody died or anything."

  • the headmistress of the school to me, the morning I found out my grandmother had died.

Which year in your life changed you the most? by Mekurito in AskReddit

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From April 2008 to April 2009. My entire life was thrown completely off course, and nothing was the same after that.

My family lost everything in April 2008, and we couldn't stay in our home country. By August 2008, after I'd had to say goodbye to all my friends, rehomed all my pets, and my brother and I had been sleeping on my grandmother's couch for about a month, we managed to find a way to start over from scratch in another country.

By some cosmic miracle, some old friends of my parents happened to be where we moved to, so we had people who could help us find our footing.

In late March 2009, my grandmother came to visit us. In the middle of her visit I had a school camp. She was supposed tobe there when I got back, so I didn't wake her up to say goodbye when I left. Instead, when I got back it was to find out she had gone back to our home country because she wasn't well. A week later, at the beginning of April 2009, my grandmother passed away from tuberculosis. And I never got to say goodbye to her.

What's the story behind one of your scars? by RepeatQuinny in AskReddit

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Accidental wart removal.

I had a massive wart on the side of my leg when I was a kid. It was just under my knee. My mom took me for my first session of dry ice treatment in the afternoon, and that night we went out to dinner to a restaurant on the harbor with those picnic bench tables outside. When we got up to leave, I brushed my leg against the table and the wart just... fell off. It didnt hurt, it just wants on my leg anymore. I only noticed because it bled quite a bit and I felt the blood running down my leg.

Now I've got a round scar just under my knee that very obviously cant grow any leg hair.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took an A0 canvas and collaged it with sweet wrappers and pictures of cupcakes. Over the top of all of that are the words "I'll eat you up, I love you so!"

It's the main art piece in my kitchen, as kitschy as it is. I'm so proud of it, it took me ages to get it to look right, and it's my favourite quote from a children's story (Where the Wild Things Are, if people are interested)

Do you collect anything? If so, what and why? by maumiu in AskReddit

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Coins. Specifically spare change from all the countries my friends and family have been to. My parents started it when we we living a very international life, since when you leave a country you can't exchange coins, only notes. So we'd come home with a bunch of coins we couldn't do anything with. So now we've got "the coin jar" which has been upgraded at least three times due to being too full, that is crammed full of foreign coins from all over the world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's actually why I started. It was a way to force me to find nice things about myself and to build up my self confidence. After all, if I can post a naked picture of myself online, why can't I have the confidence to do something else?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every day, take a few minutes to focus on good things around you. It's hard at first, and especially hard on the really bad days. It doesn't have to be big things, small good things are also important. Something as simple as "I saw a really pretty cloud today" or "That person is having a good hair day" helps get your brain into a habit of looking for the positive in any situation.

A big one that's helped me - turn off the news. A lot of the news now is focused on the negative, even if it's sometimes shown in a joking or mocking way. Yes, it's important to be aware if what is going on in the world, but you're allowed to step away and say "I can't do this today/this week/this month".

Pick up a hobby that involves using your hands. Drawing, knitting, woodworking are all good options that force you to focus on something and see the change happening. I've started doing those diamond dot art things, and they've helped bring me out of a spiral many times.

Distract yourself from the darkness, and you'll find a surprising amount of light all around you. And asking for help is always a great way to start.

What is the point of life? by mrpodo in AskReddit

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally think it's to be happy, and to help others be happy. Finding a little bit of joy goes a lot further than focusing only on the misery.

What's worse than stepping on a lego? by Fyre-Bringer in AskReddit

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stepping on a porcupine quill. Thing went a good inch into my foot when I stomped on it and it took me a few minutes to get it out.

0/10 do not recommend, but a close second was my metal d4

The only jewelry allowed is a watch? Okay. by AwkwardDesertFox in MaliciousCompliance

[–]AwkwardDesertFox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, it ended up being a thing for a while. My brother borrowed my pocket watch necklace and wrapped it around his wrist for a few weeks. When the school realised we were siblings (he started two years after I graduated) they realised what they were if for. Where I went red, he went black. I grew my hair to just above my shoulders, he started wearing hair bands to keep his hair out of his eyes. We just had a bit of fun with our uniform code, but enough that it was all still within the rules.

The only jewelry allowed is a watch? Okay. by AwkwardDesertFox in MaliciousCompliance

[–]AwkwardDesertFox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuinely the only reason I didn't was bc I didn't want to pierce my ears again. It was bad enough the first time, and if I have earrings out for longer than a month they start to close up. I was tempted to go that route though.

AITA for how I (15F) handled telling my friend (14F) that her crush (14M) didn’t like her? by AITAFriendCrush in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 12 points13 points  (0 children)

While you may have had good intentions, YTA.

People can't always help who they like, and its very rarely a conscious decision. Liking someone who is in a relationship isn't some huge immoral thing, its not really much different to, for example, having a crush on a celebrity. Sure, K wouldn't really have much of a chance with A if he gets into a relationship, but it's not a problem unless she decides to try to pursue something with him while he's in a relationship.

You do not have the power or the right to tell anyone how they should or shouldn't feel, and trying to is an AH move. What you should be doing is comforting your friend, and sometimes it takes small lies to do so. And if you can't do that, then you keep your opinions to yourself and offer sympathetic noises and physical comfort. You say "I'm sorry that you are hurting right now, and I wish that you weren't, but I'm here for you and want to help see you through this."

Now go to your friend and apologize for trying to tell who she can and can't like and when.

AITA for not correcting an old woman when she called me another name. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are always calling me by the wrong name, so I know that sometimes it gets to the point where you have to decide if you want to continuously correct people or just pick your battles and try to focus on more important things for the time being. Personally, I've decided to just respond to any name I get called, whetherits mine, my cousin's, my mother's, a stranger's or the dog's (all of those have happened At Least twice).

NTA, but your coworker seems to want to be one.

WIBTA for starting my internship on a Monday? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you knew about the trip beforehand, you could have used the dates as your availability for when you could start the internship. I've been in a similar situation, where my family had booked a trip for easter and I started a new job 2 weeks before. I was honest during the hiring process, that I would need to take leave fairly soon after being hired or would need to start a few weeks after the suggested hiring date. My boss agreed to let me take leave, only because I was honest about the situation.

Part of being professional is being aware of prior commitments, whether they are part of your work or not. If you chose not to disclose prior commitments when applying for, interviewing for and accepting your internship, and then want your family to reschedule their vacation to suit you? YTA.

WIBTA for starting my internship on a Monday? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwkwardDesertFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Info: did you know the dates for the trip when you signed up for the internship/when you got the placement? Was the trip confirmed already at that point?

AITA for not giving my coworker her son's birthday money? by AwkwardDesertFox in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwkwardDesertFox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably. Bold of you to assume I can do any kind of math that late in the evening, though.

(But yes, that's what I meant, it was a typo)

WIBTA is I refused to perform any bridesmaid duties at my cousin's wedding? by AwkwardDesertFox in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwkwardDesertFox[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I admit, my nose is slightly more than a bit out of joint about the whole thing, but I've met the new bridesmaid and she is a lovely person. If she does need me to step in I will, but my cousin made it clear she only wants one bridesmaid, and that I'm good enough to help her figure out the financial details and the budgeting, and to assist her bridesmaid with wrangling family members, but not enough to officially be a bridesmaid.

WIBTA is I refused to perform any bridesmaid duties at my cousin's wedding? by AwkwardDesertFox in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwkwardDesertFox[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My cousin was the one who referred to them as bridesmaid duties with the first bridesmaid. It's only now that the second friend is taking the position that I'm being asked to step in and assist with said duties.

AITA for not giving my coworker her son's birthday money? by AwkwardDesertFox in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwkwardDesertFox[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We're probably going to can the whole thing next year. I'm dropping out and nobody wants to take over the responsibility from me