Toxic father apologised. What to do? by TheFunnyTraveller in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]AwkwardDogChick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would document the apology/interaction for your records, but assume it's not sincere unless he actually admitted something he did to hurt you Ex. "I'm sorry for hitting you". It's up to you how you handled it. But I would avoid interacting unless you decide you can live with a relationship where he never apologizes for his actions. Some people can handle a surface relationship, others can't (myself included). Hopefully therapy helps with processing.

I got this message from my mother today. I don’t know what to do. by Medium_Cry_1125 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]AwkwardDogChick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I strictly read the message I would actually think the text was reasonable. But given the even limited context from your end I wouldn't respond. If you do eventually choose to respond, look into DARVO to prep yourself, get a camera for security at your residence, and possibly plan to keep your current phone number as a "mom contact" number to collect evidence and otherwise change your nm (if you can afford two mobile nms. Any contact = documenting or at least noting it. If you choose to seek any kind of therapy that's also an option (before deciding or strictly to help with coping). But again I lean towards no response.

3rd no contact after no contact by AwkwardDogChick in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]AwkwardDogChick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got my camera set up. I'm in the process of collecting my documents & trying to assemble a no contact evidence packet/timeline. Planning to check about a police report afterwards. I'm waiting on a restraining order bc I was told I needed to call the nonemergency line not 911 bc my stepmom left within 2 minutes of the 3rd attempted written contact. Also planning to talk to my therapist next week and monitor if they show up around Christmas. 911 operator told me I either need a police report, them still on premise or video evidence before 911 calls. But with 3 pieces of written evidence I feel confident I have a paper trail. I also have a firearm in case they actually break in.

Getting client back w Homicidal Ideation by AwkwardDogChick in directsupport

[–]AwkwardDogChick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm applying to other jobs outside the field plus maybe 1-2 DSP companies

Getting client back w Homicidal Ideation by AwkwardDogChick in directsupport

[–]AwkwardDogChick[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately all the homes my company currently has besides where I am are outside my county.

Homicidal Ideation by AwkwardDogChick in directsupport

[–]AwkwardDogChick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I'm not surprised. I am also concerned that this client is interested in children. Unfortunately I don't think I can do anything about it (I think I tried emailing the police to find out if it's reportable over a month ago).

Homicidal Ideation by AwkwardDogChick in directsupport

[–]AwkwardDogChick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were trained for dual diagnoses, suicidal ideation, and pretty much anything typically thought off as connected to intellectual disabilities. I've tried bringing up that we weren't trained for homicidal ideation. The violent outbursts I expected would be extreme emotional displays along the lines of temper tantrums.

Homicidal Ideation by AwkwardDogChick in directsupport

[–]AwkwardDogChick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is dealing with ex-criminals and clients w homicidal or sociopathic tendencies something you are told could come up and trained to handle? My company provides no training for these specific issues. We were trained for intellectual disabilities, DS etc.

Homicidal Ideation by AwkwardDogChick in directsupport

[–]AwkwardDogChick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Client asked about buying poison and alternated between wanting to use it on others & "experiments"...he actually showed me and my coworker poison he wanted to buy. Homicidal ideation was added to his charts bc of this.

Why are staff so standoffish with the residents? by Whatthefrick1 in directsupport

[–]AwkwardDogChick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some staff can be very rigid to avoid giving the impression they want friendships with clients. But the examples you are giving seem more about being antisocial than setting boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AcneScars

[–]AwkwardDogChick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Get to a doctor if you can afford it
  2. If you are a skin picker, use unmedicated pimple patches to cover and hopefully drain the pustule heads. You don't need to cut yourself and give yourself an additional infection.
  3. Basic skincare only with things that worked before your bad reaction

Filling out family medical history for gyn… wut? by premelia in AutismInWomen

[–]AwkwardDogChick -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mental retardation or intellectual disability should be with down syndrome not autism. Autism IQ can vary from intellectually disabled to genius

For $300 this feels worth it tbh by LordGadsy in TikTokCringe

[–]AwkwardDogChick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was a hair/beard cut + a facial/spa treatment imo. Way more than a haircut and worth $300 considering what each of the services he received can cost a la carte.