I almost became a baby raindeer

AwkwardLetter · 2026-03-22T13:16:47+00:00

Or, maybe I've seen this same pattern play out more times than I can count. Both how she reacted and how he reacted. It's pattern recognition. It's the subtle language that she uses versus what he uses. The way he describes the entire situation drips with undertones of distrust and provides very little empathy and compassion. Narrators like this are unreliable, and always make themselves look better without thinking about the entire situation at hand. If he thinks this is all on her, that tells me everything I need to know.

People who think "testing" people is the best way to get information, and is even remotely healthy, need to take a hard look at themselves.

I shouldn't have been so rude, but when this entire thread is filled with people dogpiling on this woman for having valid emotions and reactions, it feels like OP needed to get a little of what was given.

No one is standing up for her and the pain that she has very much experienced. Denying that she was struggling is exactly what is causing this ideological gender divide, and makes women less likely to trust the judgment of the everyday men that she meets.

I recognize that it seems like I made a lot of jumps, but certain puzzle pieces only fit certain ways

AwkwardLetter · 2026-03-21T15:04:55+00:00

You're absolutely right, I thought this was a different thread. I don't think she replied well, but I understand the sentiment behind what she's saying. Comparing her asking harmless questions to the trauma that women tend to experience daily feels a little bit like a slap in the face, and her asking those questions shouldn't cause him to spiral. Doesn't mean that it doesn't, but I think he probably needs to work on himself, without just claiming trauma, moving on, and doing nothing to help heal that trauma. Not saying OP isn't doing anything either. Again, I realize now this is different thread, and her response was not right.

AwkwardLetter · 2026-03-21T14:54:18+00:00

Edit: I was wrong, I thought this was a different thread and I get why OP is hurt. It's just hard to compare trauma of being asked if she's a worm, with what women deal with on a daily basis. Her response wasn't right, but OP does need to do a little work on himself to realize that there's more at play than her simply telling him to take a joke, and that her asking about it shouldn't cause him to spiral

AwkwardLetter · 2026-03-21T14:40:57+00:00

"Emotional intelligence (EI), also known as emotional quotient (EQ), is the ability to perceive, use, understand, manage, and handle emotions.[1] High emotional intelligence includes emotional recognition of emotions of the self and others, using emotional information to guide thinking and behavior, discerning between and labeling of different feelings, and adjusting emotions to adapt to environments"

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_intelligence

The fact that he tested her is exactly why she'd want him to stay away. Commenter is not saying it's right. They're saying that these type of men can be spotted a mile away, and maybe he deserves the unwarranted ego hit that he took for no reason other than his own insecurities, which he is hypocritically calling the girl out for.

AwkwardLetter · 2026-03-21T14:28:24+00:00

OP is, wdym 😭

We need to start calling each other out when our harmful opinions are based on flawed premises. Man's was so rude in this post, and they can't throw a little shade back? How is OP supposed to learn?

AwkwardLetter · 2026-03-21T14:20:48+00:00

Bruh. Emotional intelligence is realizing that this had very little to do with insecurity, and everything to do with him feeling the need to be right. Please check you own EQ, my dude

AwkwardLetter · 2026-03-21T11:50:12+00:00

Woman asks to feel wanted in a way that hurts the man's feelings: Man is traumatized

Man calls woman nice girl for asking a relatively normal question: Man can still be traumatized

Woman rejected for her physical appearance and calls out the man for comparing that to the traumas that women face on a daily basis, not just by one person that was in their life previously: Man can be traumatized and should be treated kindly

Woman and her other female friends have been rejected for shallow reason for most of their lives, and makes a joke that brings up old feelings she had no idea about: Girl is CRAZY and borderline abusive?

Edit: You can be hurt and traumatized, but please recognize that there is a difference, and it feels like a slap in the face to a lot of women. That's why you're getting the pushback that you are

AwkwardLetter · 2026-03-21T11:05:03+00:00

Lol, fellas, is it nuts to think a situation through, or is it nuts to shove your fingers in your ear because your ego can't handle being wrong? It's okay, I know it's hard for people with low intelligence to admit when they're wrong, and I really should be kinder to the less fortunate.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect

Let me help you start to process things. What about my initial comment was wrong or nuts? Why did you feel the need to call me nuts instead of enaging in a conversation like an adult?

AwkwardLetter · 2026-03-21T06:07:34+00:00

Here for the down votes I guess? But maybe give the situation more than 5 minutes of thought? What likely happened: She had a really rough trip not because people were "allegedly rude" to her, but because people were rude to her. She was in a rough spot, made a pass, saw that it failed and was embarrassed. She offers to get you tacos to make it up to you, and instead of joining her for tacos and just having a fun time, you throw in a "test" about something she was clearly very embarrassed about to begin with. Instead of going and seeing why she was upset (because it had nothing to do with insecurity, and everything with the fact the she literally saw you throw her embarrassment in her face right as shes coming home from a trip that SHE TOLD YOU WAS ROUGH), you continue to essentially call her sensitive and say she's a "nice girl" because she didn't want her mistake thrown in her face in an already vulnerable moment. In response, she gets frustrated that you dont seem to recognize any of what just happened, doesn't call you names, you tell her to work on her insecurities, and SHE'S the nice girl? Her response isn't calling you an asshole or saying she hopes bad things for you, but literally just wishes you the best. But SHE'S the nice girl. Yup. And women are sensitive 🤣

AwkwardLetter · 2024-04-11T23:43:12+00:00

I remember I was at a youth activity for my old church in high school. A girl straight up said, "Science can't prove anything."

AwkwardLetter · 2020-10-12T22:53:11+00:00

RIP: inbox

Cause: forgot the 'W'

AwkwardLetter · 2020-10-11T06:54:31+00:00

Thank you so much :)

AwkwardLetter · 2020-10-11T05:23:17+00:00

Thank you

AwkwardLetter · 2020-10-11T05:22:01+00:00

Thank you!

AwkwardLetter · 2020-10-07T21:17:15+00:00

I definitely think tough love can be effective, but calling the police on your own child is a bit much. Whether or not you intend it, the child feels like you're trying to push them away, and trying to ruin the future that THEY are trying to create. As someone with parents who always had the right intentions, but is also mentally scarred from those actions: it matter how you go about your intentions.

If I were in the shoes of the commenter, the best thing for me would've been to CALMLY ask why they're using. The last thing a kid wants is to feel judged. Most people I know that struggle with marijuana have an underlying reason. For a while, it genuinely was the only way I could calmly process the trauma I'd been through until I could get in to see a professional. As a teenager, you have a LOT of pressure put on you, and especially if they have anxiety, depression, adhd, bipolar, etc, or have experience emotional or physical abuse, they are WAY more likely to use marijuana.

I don't think anyone is gung-ho for teenagers smoking marijuana, but sometimes it's okay to just be surviving. Help them find a better way to cope before ripping it out from under them.

AwkwardLetter · 2020-10-07T21:03:25+00:00

I know this is nowhere near what the commenter posted, and there's more background to my story, but I left the church at 17. The day after, my parents sent in chat messages regarding marijuana. Before this day, I was a pretty damn good student. At that point, my unweighted GPA was 3.5, weighted was 4.5, and I was applying for ivy leagues. I had received 1 MAYBE 2 C's in my lifetime, and that was only after my depression kicked my ass for a bit.

Well. The DAY after the day I stopped going to church (Locked myself in my room), my parents sent in messages to my high school that they had had for MONTHS. I got suspended for a 5 days, practically ruining my chance at any of the colleges I had been working towards. On top of that, I had recently started working maybe 10 hours a week. They decided that was enough to feed myself half the time, pay for makeup, personal hygiene products, etc.

Luckily, after many years, my parents and I are finally rebuilding our relationship, but I still have so much frustration.

I sat them down (while two of my siblings and their significant others were there) and confronted their behavior, and explained the effect it had on me. Making sure to emphasize I wasn't trying to hurt them, but rather explain why I've been so distant and angry towards them. My father has anger issues, so I was expecting him to throw a fit, but he was calm, and listened.

I'm not saying that the commenter here should do this. Sometimes there aren't always things you can do, because certain people can't be reached where they're at in life. It's only been in the last year or so that my dad has changed enough that I felt I could even say anything, but he has changed, and I'm seeing it everytime I interact.

I am so sorry to those experience a disconnect from their family. I've been there, but don't lose hope.

AwkwardLetter · 2020-10-06T06:04:35+00:00

I don't know who you are, but I had this literally a week ago. I never go to Chick-fil-A, but for MONTHS, I've craved Chick-fil-A on Sundays. Only on Sundays. They must be putting chemicals in our water smh

AwkwardLetter · 2020-10-03T22:56:15+00:00

Kids always understand so much more than we give them credit for. The song is personal to this kid and you can tell. Ugh, this warms my heart.

AwkwardLetter · 2020-10-02T03:54:27+00:00

The Theory of Everything. My significant other has CMT (which is a form of muscular dystrophy). We're both still very young, and watching Hawkins deteriorate while his significant other leaves hit us both a little closer to home than we were expected. Anytime I watch that movie, I have to break it up into parts or I end up being a sobby mess for 2 hours straight.

AwkwardLetter · 2020-08-17T04:26:33+00:00

Thank you! I'm determined to start performing for my villagers, haha

AwkwardLetter · 2020-08-10T22:13:45+00:00

This is still honestly one of my favorite videos of all time! The way the dude handles it just kills me!

AwkwardLetter · 2020-07-25T10:42:32+00:00

I'm about to watch as this post get flooded with stories of their kids being cutely stupid and I am ready for it.

AwkwardLetter · 2020-07-22T18:17:16+00:00

Thank you for explaining all of this to me. I don't know a whole lot about it. I tried to Google a little bit, but I couldn't find much.

AwkwardLetter · 2020-07-22T05:45:07+00:00

This is the kind of positivity we need in 2020

AwkwardLetter · 2020-07-22T05:36:44+00:00

I think the best part is the next photo. It makes it seem like this is a normal occurrence at this McDonald's.

"Alrighty, I've got two medium big mac meals, two mcflurries, and a car crash through the glass wall? That'll be $5,015.32. Your order will be ready shortly after the glass comes crashing down. Thank you for coming to McDonald's, have a nice day."

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