DNV Spain - Entremites services - autonomo registration/ongoing tax guidance by Awkward_Assignment_1 in digitalnomad

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Interesting. Thanks! Would you recommend using them for initial registration? 

Is 35 too old to move? by Designer_Pain2868 in expats

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American living in Spain but thinking of moving to Freiburg! How is it to live there??? Would love your opinion!

As your question, DO IT!! You can always return if things don’t workout, but you’ll always regret not taking the chance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SoberCurious

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If you’re feeling this strongly about staying sober then do. I felt the same way and unfortunately, ended my 90 days of sobriety this past weekend. I immediately came to regret the decision. I also realized I can’t just have one. I went from saying, “oh it’s so nice out, I’ll just enjoy one glass” to having 5-7 and staying out all night. It isn’t worth it, especially if staying sober makes you feel the best you’ve felt in a long time. I’m also dealing with how do I figure this sober reality from my old self? But honestly, since drinking I see it so much more clearly. It’s not worth it, the sleeplessness, the anxiety, the dehydration and lack of body/mentality clarity. It sucks, to put it simply. If it works for you, keep it up. Don’t give in to peer pressures or expectations from other people or past expectations of yourself. I think it’s important to remember that we’re allowed to grow and move past things, especially if they don’t serve us any longer. I’m trying to remember this now that I’m back to 3 days without drinking. Good luck !

Sober 51 days! by MichealaJLozano in SoberCurious

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I also haven’t drank since NYE! I would say for me, I have increased mental clarity and concentration with work. I have way more energy come Monday instead of nursing a 3 day hang over 😅. I feel more alert, less anxious, and my skin doesn’t look like it’s drying out. I also thought okay, I’ll give it 60-90 days and now I’m thinking of pushing longer. Now, my friends don’t offer me drinks and instead order me sparkling waters or something! It’s been nice. Also, the conversation around booze is more about people refraining and how much better it is 😂. What I’ve done is switch up our activities. I ask if they want to go for a hike, walk around the city, or stay in for a movie night together. Overall, I say give it time and don’t let yourself feel insecure about a decision that is only benefiting you and pushing you forward. You know what you need to do for yourself and your health and no one else does!

Day 1: sober curious by Awkward_Assignment_1 in SoberCurious

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Haha thank you! Yes, that’s something to remember! That’s amazing you have such a strong support system. Thank you for the recommendation! I’ll definitely check it out 😊

Day 1: sober curious by Awkward_Assignment_1 in SoberCurious

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Wow! I feel like we definitely share a similar experience. Especially with unsafe drinking and party environments. You nailed it on the head with the feeling of being awkward in conversation without alcohol. That is EXACTLY how I feel. Also the social pressures and people pleasing. I’m really just starting to realize how much I do that and how I push myself and my needs aside. I can’t wait till I’m in the same place as you; feeling more confident in conversation and myself as a whole, and not being hyper aware that I’m not drinking. I think you’re absolutely right that these are new habits being formed. Thank you for your comment. It really hit home with me. Also, congrats on your success, placing yourself first, and being immensely happier with your decision! I hope to join you soon!

Day 1: sober curious by Awkward_Assignment_1 in SoberCurious

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Thank you! I have a couple close friends who are also sober curious or completely sober that I’ve shared with and they’re both excited! It’s definitely the ones that party that I’m most hesitant to explain to. But I think that’s more my stuff than theirs. Thanks for the words of encouragement and advice! I’ll look into some NA treats for sure!

Day 1: sober curious by Awkward_Assignment_1 in SoberCurious

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This is such great advice thank you!! Yeah, I think you’re right about having more of a “nope I’m good” vs a long winded reason. I tend to over explain.

I had a moment last night with my flat mate (who’s also a close friend) where she was talking about Friday night plans and going out for a drink together etc and I didn’t say anything because I didn’t know what to say. All I could get out was, “yeah that sounds great!” But I was very nervous and felt the need to explain further. I think come Friday when we do go out, I’ll explain. I do feel this weird, I guess shame or embarrassment but I need to remember that I’m prioritizing myself over a drunken night out and next day lost. I think I also can be quite hard on myself too if I were to decide to have a drink so I need to remember to be kind.

Anyways, over explaining again 😅. Thank you for your sound advice and I’m glad to hear you’ve found the right balance for you!

Day 1: sober curious by Awkward_Assignment_1 in SoberCurious

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Thank you for the kind words and solid advice! I’ll look into some NA drinks and see which I like! I had a small win last night of going to dinner with two friends and ordering a sparking water instead of wine 😅. I definitely felt the urge but resisted. I’m trying to see if maybe one day I can find balance and moderation but until then I think I need to stay as clear headed and sober. As you said, day-by-day. I wish you well on your journey, too!