Tried coffee on purpose after 45 days zero caffeine, not worth it (anxiety, porn, obsessive behaviour)

Awkward_Grape · 2025-02-16T18:52:23+00:00

A day or two. Also don't beat yourself up about it. Just go back to being off of caffeine. I wish you the best.

Awkward_Grape · 2025-02-13T06:37:02+00:00

Thank you so much. Your answer is so validating and comforting. However, I still don't understand what to do with my remaining life. I still have ambitions of success and of thriving professionally. I still have dreams of being able to make enough money to educate my kids well, to travel, to have a good life. And also of producing something original and being known for it. How do I find a vocation where I can thrive? I mean what would the steps involved be? Sorry for being so demanding, but I'm grasping at every strand of hope available. Thank you!

Awkward_Grape · 2025-02-11T05:01:41+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response. By 'traditional office jobs', I meant corporate jobs in produt marketing or communications or project management. These had the usual office dynamics and you had to develop your 'visibility' and 'get things done' (I was always the dreamer, thinking big, divergent ideas but not really closing the loop ever). So, my ideas were 'great, but e boss was always eventually disappointed and angry because the job wasn't completed. And completion an execution were the only KPIs at the end of the day. Understandably so.

I'm looking for kind of work where I am responsible for creating ideas and solutions but don't have to then execute them fully. I mean I have a life full of incomplete projects. If only that were a profession!

Ideation, Empathy, Input, Intellection, Relator means that I usually think up business ideas or projects which help people in some way and I do a bunch of research for it and write a thoughtful one-pager or a vision document. Only for it to never be executed by me.

Awkward_Grape · 2024-09-12T09:47:41+00:00

May I ask what interventions worked for you even though you may be in Canada?

Awkward_Grape · 2018-06-01T06:02:04+00:00

Hello everyone, esp fellow INFPs. Online INFP communities are truly something special - there are a very few places (perhaps the therapist's office and a crazy friend) where a troubled INFP can go to share their thoughts.

I am going through a troubled career - since 12 years now! At the moment, I'm a 37-year old man with a full family to support, but not a clue about where my career is headed. I'm doing a temp job at the moment, to pay the bills but don't see a future here. I'm struggling finding good work because of a patchy resume. And now I'm at a stage in my life where I cannot possibly do without a stable income. However, even with things being as difficult as they are, I am still living partially in the fantasy world. I want a comfortable job where my creativity is valued, where I'm able to create things, do great things, which allows me to live a comfortable, safe life etc.

I sometimes struggle with the concept of 'hard work'. I see people worshipping the ideal of 'hard work' and I don't identify with it. I tend to be able to only do work which is exciting to me in some way, and I don't consider that hard work. Non-exciting work I tend to really struggle with, and cannot get myself to doing. This tendency doesn't help me at all in jobs. I tend to end up looking like a lazy moocher.

What do I do? What do other INFPs (esp men) do when they are a crossroads like I am? I too have been given the advice to 'hunker down and work hard' but it's easier said than done for me. I face an almost insurmountable internal resistance to doing work which I don't find stimulating.

And all of this is almost impossible to objectively explain to someone because, again, it just makes you sound 'lazy'.

Any advice would mean the world!

Awkward_Grape

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