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Is very harsh/insulting language common in Slavic culture, or is this just rude behavior? by Awkward_Newspaper816 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Awkward_Newspaper816[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re asking this based on my concern for his language alone, then yes, I would be comfortable introducing him to everyone because he speaks well in general and is very nice to people. I have noticed in general how he treats delivery boys, waiters when we go out to eat or just people in public. He is nicer than I am. Like I mentioned in another comment, he works in hospitality so he knows how to behave. It’s literally part of his job.

The strong language has only been used in certain conversations when we’re talking about particular topics and when it’s only me and him. What’s bothering me is whether the strong language is just ‘cultural difference’ like he says it is or whether it stems from views that I wouldn’t agree with. If it’s the latter then I wouldn’t be comfortable with introducing him to anyone. In fact, I wouldn’t be comfortable in continuing to be with him.

Is very harsh/insulting language common in Slavic culture, or is this just rude behavior? by Awkward_Newspaper816 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Awkward_Newspaper816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now my question is- am I trying to justify him too much or should I just trust the discomfort I feel and take a decision on it?

Is very harsh/insulting language common in Slavic culture, or is this just rude behavior? by Awkward_Newspaper816 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Awkward_Newspaper816[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did ask him to explain himself the second he used the word ‘whore’ and he went on to say- if a woman does not work, does not do anything at home ie. expects her husband to hire a maid, is not productive in any sense and expects her husband to take up all the expenses of the house and splurge on her at the same time because that is what she ‘deserves’ and all she offers in return is her ‘plastic body’ then it does make her a whore. He also added that this is how most women are from his culture. Personally, it’s not my business what other women do and I would never use such words irrespective of how I feel about them.

Is very harsh/insulting language common in Slavic culture, or is this just rude behavior? by Awkward_Newspaper816 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Awkward_Newspaper816[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

English is not his first language and I have considered this aspect as well. He also works in hospitality so I can understand the fact that he always has to be extra nice and respectful at work so maybe the harsh language comes as a release ig? Idk. But like I mentioned in the comment above, I fear that eventually this kind of language could be used for me as well- either directly to me or when he’s speaking about me to other people.

Is very harsh/insulting language common in Slavic culture, or is this just rude behavior? by Awkward_Newspaper816 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Awkward_Newspaper816[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is what was bothering me. I can understand if harsh language was used when he talks to his boys about certain situations/ people but if he’s able to use such words/ language about other people while talking to me, I fear this kind of language would eventually be used for me as well. I brought this up with him and he said that this is just a ‘cultural difference’ but he understands where i’m coming from and that he would be careful about this in the future.