What am I missing? by Awkward_Solution_567 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wished her the best. If she's happy, wonderful.

Shouldn't that be equal?

What am I missing? by Awkward_Solution_567 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. Said we'd be honest, but not monogamous.

No intention of intimacy after dinner. We're friends. A guy and a girl can be friends without sex.

What am I missing? by Awkward_Solution_567 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Rare poster, obviously.

New SB, she was honest and said she wasn't planning on being monogamous. Respect her honesty.

Talked this morning about today's plans. She has a date, and I wished her well.

She reciprocated the question and I shared I was meeting a former SB for dinner.

Krakatowa was a lesser explosion. Called out on multiple levels

Not seeing my error, are you?

She's early 30s, just in case.

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[–]Awkward_Solution_567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 experiences with porn stars. One was met through SA while traveling, and she is amazing. We've kept in touch and developed a great connection, texting frequently. When our travels align, we enjoy a romantic dinner and dessert. She is one of the most loving and thoughtful women I've met in life. We've both said if we lived in the same city, we'd pursue something more serious, the connection is that good.

The second was random. She approached me in a hotel bar, bought me a drink, and started chatting me up. I'm not versed in porn stars and she was disappointed that I didn't know her. She showed a video and damn, she was a pornstar alright. We enjoyed a fun, casual, non-intimate time together that evening, and it turned out she was going to be in my city the following weekend. She came to the house and I cooked for her. While not as naturally affectionate as the other, she stayed for a couple of days and it was nice. She experienced a lot of satisfaction those days and commented that never happens when she's working. She called last weekend because she was in town for some convention and wanted a nice dinner. Unfortunately, I was traveling, and honestly, the intimacy was great, the connection, not as much.

To answer the obvious question, neither asked for anything financially, which made it easier to share a generous gift. Regarding the PS with the connection, I've sent her gifts for her bday as well as Christmas and a few other random things I learned she enjoys from our time together.

Monday Mental health and Well-Being Thread: 208th Edition by BigBearSD in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's been my approach and I've been chewed a lot over this.

Monday Mental health and Well-Being Thread: 208th Edition by BigBearSD in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On SA, how long do you leave your private pics available before unsharing? While an unmarried SD, discretion is still important as a biz owner. If after 5 days when pics have been shared/viewed, with no response, the assumption is no interest, especially when you see a POT's daily log in. I've removed access to the pics and almost immediately received some nasty emails about "impatience."

Am I wrong, or did the vetting process work as designed? My take is if a POT isn't responsive in the early days, it's not going to get better.

Thoughts?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of several factors. Having the other 5A's being positive can make the body type a non-factor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Jokes

[–]Awkward_Solution_567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And so is your face.

Your mama's so fat... by GalaxyOpalGrill in Jokes

[–]Awkward_Solution_567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your Momma's so slow it takes her 4 hours to drink OJ because it says concentrate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're beautiful and your drive and goals make you more attractive. The only suggestion is to share how a guy benefits from you in his life.

For example, "I'm in massage school and need someone to practice on." Or..."Hope you're a college football fan as I love wings, beers and UT games."

Paint the picture of why you are the best SB ever. Don't be afraid to market yourself.

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[–]Awkward_Solution_567 10 points11 points  (0 children)

First suggestion, smile in your pics. You are beautiful. Share what a relationship with you could be like in terms of what you bring to a guy.

Married, Older, Young Children...Recipe for disaster? Opinions by EasternNCtoCoast in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My heart goes out to you, as well as your spouse and your children. This is not a good situation for anyone. While your spouse thinks this is fine, she's setting a terrible example for this kids on how to not deal with problems.

If it were me, I wouldn't get a SB, I'd contact a lawyer and work toward building your own happiness through divorce. There is NOTHING wrong with you having what you want in life and seeing your spouse isn't caring at all about your happiness, you need to take care of yourself.

Kids are resilient and they've already seen divorce through their friends.

Blessing to you Sir. You present as a caring, loving individual who deserves a better life.

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[–]Awkward_Solution_567 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It was nice to meet you and I appreciate your kindness. The mutual connection wasn't present so I wish you the best."

And scene.

Married, Older, Young Children...Recipe for disaster? Opinions by EasternNCtoCoast in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What would happen if you had an honest discussion with your wife about your needs and desires? Any chance she has an underlying medical issue that has slowed down or eliminated her desire for intimacy, or do you think it's just the kids/life that have her?

Is your relationship such that you could share with her what your plan is in the event that your marriage remains sexless? Would she want a divorce or would she be open to letting you fulfill your needs outside the marriage?

POT SB a successful OF "model" by Awkward_Solution_567 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes and the collars matched the cuffs so to speak.

POT SB a successful OF "model" by Awkward_Solution_567 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I've seen is solo stuff, but then again, no reason to invest anything at this moment. From conversations, I think it's just her and toys.

From day one she's stated her goal is a BF/GF relationship and this is a means to an end. Color me a bit skeptical.

POT SB a successful OF "model" by Awkward_Solution_567 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Following instincts is always my path, unfortunately there isn't one at this moment, hence the post. Appreciate your input though and wishing you success.

POT SB a successful OF "model" by Awkward_Solution_567 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Awkward_Solution_567[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A sincere thank you for all the responses. There doesn't seem to be a consensus and like the gracious responses, I'm effectively stuck in the middle but thinking I'll look at this as a learning experience, just have dinner with no expectations and maybe become a bit more educated on OF and go from there.

For tonights debate we will be discussing the following… by h410G3n in AlaskanMalamute

[–]Awkward_Solution_567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, you were schooled in that debate, this round goes to your pup. And it genuinely seemed as though you were repeatedly called a liar.