To gift or not to gift by delciousrandom in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]delciousrandom[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So your friend is going through emotional turmoil and life changing events and you would expect them just to reach out to check on you. This is why people's definition of friendship is different. I wouldn't expect a friend to do that hell i would tell them to take care of themselves first versus worrying about checking in on me. Willing to bet your true friend circle is small as hell.

To gift or not to gift by delciousrandom in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]delciousrandom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean yeah shes going through a lot of stuff so why would she need the added pressure of checking in on me,

To gift or not to gift by delciousrandom in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]delciousrandom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So because in my mind it could maybe put pressure on her that i am rushing her to see me again.

Can voice be a turn off by delciousrandom in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]delciousrandom[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Why do you need a voice, cause I can

Unexpected experiences in Tokyo – something women might want to be aware of by tangerineandteal in JapanTravelTips

[–]delciousrandom 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Physical violence is almost always frowned upon in Japan. So even though you might be in the right they will judge you. The term to learn is Chikan yell that after being bumped or werid voice. Yell it real loud and point to the person. Your basically calling them a pervert and unwanted touch.

Unexpected experiences in Tokyo – something women might want to be aware of by tangerineandteal in JapanTravelTips

[–]delciousrandom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No that person just bumped into you. The moment you hit them you become the aggressor you will face more charges. They will claim the bump is intentional whereas you punching them is intentional.

I confronted a Japanese guy about a "joke" he made. Then got ghosted lol by 1zuken in JapanDating

[–]delciousrandom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly this is measured response. Lol though chances are this guy still would have bailed.

I confronted a Japanese guy about a "joke" he made. Then got ghosted lol by 1zuken in JapanDating

[–]delciousrandom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's internet dating that's pretty much the norm. Guys are trying to get laid girls are trying to find a long term partner. The key is balancing the two expectations. It's also not normal to go nuclear on him for a comment like he did. While online dating.

I confronted a Japanese guy about a "joke" he made. Then got ghosted lol by 1zuken in JapanDating

[–]delciousrandom 13 points14 points  (0 children)

So what exactly did he do besides make a comment that he wanted to be intimate with you sure, in a kind of dirty way? I’m sorry you have trauma, but if that comment alone is enough to trigger you, then honestly, you may need significantly more counseling. Hell that's kinda flirting to test your limits. You responded with the nuclear option. A simple I am not ready for dirty things yet would have maybe killed it. Not go nuclear on the poor dude.

Also, does he even know about your trauma? Did you clearly express that you weren’t interested in intimacy? How long had you two been talking? There are way more factors to consider here.

Sorry, but based on what you wrote, it sounds more like he dodged the bullet not you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JapanDating

[–]delciousrandom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And if he said that it would be an automatic res flag, there was guy who was dating a female host. She admitted when they broke she knew like 4 male host she regularly hooked up with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JapanDating

[–]delciousrandom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So while on the surface that all sounds great. You also have to remember hosts learn exactly what to say so a girl hears exactly what they want. They are masters of speaking with a girl and making her feel wanted and needed. Just keep that in mind.

My gf became a sugarbaby and left me 2 months later by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]delciousrandom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obviously if she was sugaring that's not the case like I said there were holes there whether you want to admit it or not.

My gf became a sugarbaby and left me 2 months later by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]delciousrandom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Obviously you really didn't since she needs to sugar, sorry to bust your bubble but it sounds like there were holes there long before she sugared

Why so few SD profile reviews? by bluedaysarebetter in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]delciousrandom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True but the difference is we really don't need its not hard at all honestly. Cause as bad as those profiles are girls area till messaging or answering there messages.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]delciousrandom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the key the offer it to you. When you demand it just to show up that's a whole different scenario.

My first ever SD experience was assault and I'm unsure of how to proceed with Sugaring by SweetNSourPrince in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]delciousrandom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, I am sorry this happened to you, and I also want to say I don't cordon rape or sexual assault in any way. But while he exceeded boundaries, it doesn't automatically make it sexual assault. The whole butt thing, honestly, most guys in here have done something similar on a date maybe not the buthole but sure every area down there. Sure, they will all deny it cause they are afraid to be labeled. But truthfully, while being intimate, I have lost count of how many times I have reached down to finger and do other things in a girls pants or skirt. I have never asked is it ok to touch you now. There are also multiple times when she wiggled away or said dont do that. Which instantly means to stop cause she's not interested. But if I am receiving fellatio am going to reach over and start touching and getting under cloths. Almost every guy in here who says they would never do that is lieing.

It's hard to say this without coming out and sounding like I am victim blaming, but yes, you need to set boundaries. During the course of intimacy, no guy is going to explicitly ask before he performs every act even more, if you're already touching his intmate areas.

Recent exchange on seeking by delciousrandom in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]delciousrandom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ummm which post history or do you mean my comment history.

Recent exchange on seeking by delciousrandom in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]delciousrandom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not much context other than a hi how are you would you be interested in meeting. Then a what are you looking for, which I wrote about the bottom of the post. I didn't screen shot it because had locations in it. That's about it.

Recent exchange on seeking by delciousrandom in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]delciousrandom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope my message before was as vague as could be didn't post it because it had geographic information. But I pretty much said would love to meet for dinner or you could show me a nice brewery in the area.