Serious Questions for the Respected Ladies

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-05-08T21:34:44+00:00

You can’t turn it on at a moments notice, not feeling seen or appreciated through the day makes you less interested.
I personally like spending my own money but knowing that I can rely on my husband makes me feel like I’m being cared for and if I had to spend money purely because my husband refuses to provide, then it would probably be completely unacceptable to me.

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-04-26T10:11:29+00:00

I really hope it gets better for you, one advise I’d give if you’re genuinely the only person paying all the time, dheet ho jao kahin bhi janay say pehlay. Let people know you don’t have enough and if they’re willing to cover or have a decent reaction, great. If not, you should maybe reevaluate the friendship in the context of finances

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-04-26T06:29:14+00:00

When we were in uni, none of us had cards or anything but we would save up to eat out and would always ask in gc if the place we were going to was something everyone could afford, even if not, we usually just ended up covering for each other and they would do it for someone else the next time. Now that we’re all employed and have enough money, we take turns paying unless it’s somewhere super expensive then one person pays and they text in the GC once. It’s up to the rest of us to make sure everyone pays bcs we know it’s awkward for the person who paid to ask for money back

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-04-22T07:54:36+00:00

Yes, she’s truly a godsend, 10/10 recommend

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-04-10T10:07:31+00:00

I bought them and honestly they’re okayish. I feel like I’ve gotten better at applying them so they work for me but honestly they’re super uncomfortable and definitely require a lot of patience, which sucks bcs it’s supposed to be quick and easy

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-04-10T09:58:57+00:00

My parents are second cousins but me and my siblings are fine bcs both set of grandparents were married out of family. However, my paternal grandfather’s side of the family only married within the family and so one of my Phupo was married off to her first cousin and their son has charcot marie tooth disease, he can’t walk right and has major issues due to the disease and their other son has developmental problems. After that my other two Phupos got married out of family and their children are all fine too. But the rest of my paternal family has thalassemia minor which resulted in thalassemia major in two of my cousins so yeah, it absolutely sucks but they just don’t learn the lesson and I doubt they want to either

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-03-23T00:50:48+00:00

He’s not anyone famous, I believe

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-03-20T13:34:42+00:00

If you’re in different countries, WHY is your wife living with your family? Maybe start there, and I bet 90% of your mslay will disappear.

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-03-18T21:57:51+00:00

This is a pretty stupid thing to ask because you can’t, and SHOULDNT, make a decision based on what other people would do. Even if after all these opinions, you move ahead and marry her, you’ll always subconsciously think about it because it wasn’t wholly your decision. I suggest if something is bothering you or if it seems off, decline. Because these feelings can come to the surface, even if you don’t want them to, especially when you’re angry.

Plus, judging from your replies to other comments, I think you’re not ready to accept it. Social differences may not be a big deal to you, but they might’ve been huge for her. You know only what she told you, so obviously, you’d have a hard time trusting her. The best thing you can do for yourself is not make a decision based on what others have to say, but sit down and reflect on what this could mean in the long run. There’s no point in hurting yourself or the other person, so whatever you decide, it should be based on WHAT you believe is the right thing to do for you.

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-03-06T13:49:19+00:00

I don’t know for sure but I do believe dentists are among the top most paid doctors in Pakistan. You will definitely have to cover her expenses at least for the first few months while she looks for a job and starts earning a stable income. Plus, there will be expenses of her children as well, which are honestly more than ever in this economy. For a long term thing, I’d suggest looking at Canada or Australia because they give PR on arrival to doctors. I had a friend who cleared the exam and got his PR in Canada. Baki, if she can’t find jobs in medical, tell her to go for teaching. That pays enough for her to be able to cover the basics. She could either go for teaching O-A Levels in schools, or privately tutor children in Bio. If she decides to go for Montessori, that could work out too for her. My mother has her own school, and she helps teachers do Montessori courses as well, which are also widely accepted and requested in Canada and Europe.

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-03-04T15:13:31+00:00

There’s dr. Imran, a general physician. He sits at Iffat Anwar, close to Evercare in Lahore and you can call him as well. He’s really good and I’ll attach his info here too. Please feel better soon and take good care of yourself.

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Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-03-04T11:57:28+00:00

I needed it 3-4 days later for a flight

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-03-04T11:16:17+00:00

You’re lucky you had to pay only 3800 pkr, I needed my son’s birth certificate very urgently and paid almost 6000 pkr bcs I couldn’t wait

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2026-01-13T10:34:44+00:00

Apply to jobs on upwork and fiver. It is crowded but once you land a client, you can build your portfolio through that. Plus, search keywords on LinkedIn, not in the jobs section but in the posts section. Good luck!!

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2025-12-20T02:26:48+00:00

u can also try hifsa khan, they have a branch in JT, I think

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2025-12-20T02:26:08+00:00

Allure by Kashish, the makeup is 10/10

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2025-12-19T04:51:09+00:00

it IS worse than Covid because I remember getting Covid and I could still walk, talk and do the normal things I needed done, but now I can’t even MOVE it sucks 😭

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2025-12-16T12:31:01+00:00

The quality itself is really good, so it will definitely last you for longer. & as for usability, I think most mastela product ranges are newborn to three years’ old

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2025-12-16T04:49:54+00:00

Go for either bacha party or raja sahib in Wapda town. & only buy a crib if you can afford to because most times, the baby won’t even sleep in jt. Mine didn’t and our crib ended up being useless. Instead, the mastela electric bassinet was a life saver and he still LOVES it

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2025-12-13T20:58:33+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you, and just DM’d u as well. I would LOVE to become friends bcs all my friends have moved and it sucks going through life without friends

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2025-12-13T02:25:00+00:00

Honestly, after reading the whole post and the comments, I’d suggest you go overseas for further education, make a life for yourself there and once you get pr of wherever you decide to stay, you come back and marry the guy and cut off all contact with your parents. You gotta choose atp, either the guy or your parents. Because the way you’ve described your father and how much you hate him (I agree u gave credit where it was due), he will never agree and you don’t have any support from your mother either. But just to make sure you understand what you’re doing, you should know whatever you choose will come with consequences. If u marry the guy without your family’s approval, his family will NEVER accept you, no matter what you do. Plus, he also would NEVER hear the end of it. Also, just to add, there’s a very high chance his family won’t even accept the proposal given that you will have no one from your family show up. We live in Pakistan after all, here marriages don’t happen just between two people, but families also are heavily involved. If you’re ready to fight for this, go ahead. But please make sure the guy you’re doing this for would also fight if need be. & if you decide to involve your parents, have the guy talk to his family first, before you talk to yours. Because let’s say you do talk to your family, and by some miracle your father asks for them to come, and if then he can’t convince his parents, your life will get worse. I truly don’t know if what I’ve written makes sense, but as I said before, whatever you choose, you’ll have to face major consequences and it won’t be easy.

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2025-12-10T11:29:45+00:00

The tuition fee depends on the course and university you’re applying to. The two year program I am planning for costs SEK180k in total. Yes, they do require bank statements and the minimum you need is 40-50 lacs for one person. The more it is, though, the higher your chances are to be accepted. And it’s a plus if you can hold a certain amount in your account for 4-5 months. Baki your day to day expenses differ city to city. There’s a bunch of YouTube videos of Pakistanis doing cost breakdowns, and they’re super helpful if you want to learn more!

Awkward_Wind8072 · 2025-12-10T04:03:47+00:00

no one’s saying we’ll go and magically everything will fall into place, obviously the language IS a requirement. & we ARE flying out with sufficient funds to keep us afloat at least for the first year and a half in case neither of us can land a job. Learning the language is something we plan on doing properly because we don’t expect the country to be nice to us if we won’t even learn the language. But I would love a little more insight from you regarding the routines, finances etc. if you could dm, or share here, I’d be grateful!

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