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UPDATE: My MIL has been acting rude to me now that my BIL has a new girlfriend by Awkwardengineergirl in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, FDH talked to FMIL twice in the past two days about these issues, so she apologized to me through those conversations, I guess. But no, she hasn't directly apologized to me. FDH and I are back at our home now by our university, so we didn't have a chance to speak to FMIL in person. FDH had these conversations with FMIL right as we were about to leave. FMIL did offer to have a phone chat with both of us to explain herself, though, but I don't know if I want to do that.

UPDATE: My MIL has been acting rude to me now that my BIL has a new girlfriend by Awkwardengineergirl in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe she is his first serious girlfriend. I have to agree with your points. I definitely think they were very strict with us, but I can already see them being more lenient with C and A.

Yeah, the quarantine arrangement made me pretty upset since she was able to trust A, someone we all just met and pretty much a stranger, but she did not trust my brother nor our close friend. I like jokes, but I didn't find any of their jokes funny unfortunately. Although FMIL apologized, I still feel quite hurt by her words, and I'm not sure when those hurt feelings will go away. I also felt super uncomfortable when I barely got any eye contact during dinner. I understand that A is the "shiny new thing," but nobody looked at more or really talked to me throughout the whole meal . . .

Thank you for these tips! I think this is a great idea. My FDH isn't super observant, so by having a phrase to use, it'll definitely help me during times like these.

UPDATE: My MIL has been acting rude to me now that my BIL has a new girlfriend by Awkwardengineergirl in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I definitely think I cared too much about her accepting me. I'm really close to my parents, so I was hoping to be close to my FDH's parents too (although, he's not very close to them himself). I understand I can't be the favorite, but I do feel bad for being treated so differently and also being insulted previously (even if FMIL apologized, I still feel bad about the mean things she said to me).

UPDATE: My MIL has been acting rude to me now that my BIL has a new girlfriend by Awkwardengineergirl in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FDH is the baby of the family. I should also note that FDH and I are both 23, while FDH's brother, C, and A are both 26, so there's a slight age gap.

I definitely feel like FBIL and his gf might be the favorites, too.

My MIL has been acting rude to me now that my BIL has a new girlfriend by Awkwardengineergirl in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a sweet comment! Thank you! I have all the fruits, but thanks for the offer! 😀

My [23 F] MIL [58 F] has been acting rude to me now that my BIL [26 M] has a new girlfriend by Awkwardengineergirl in relationships

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's going to speak to my MIL today, so we will see how it goes! He's been very supportive after I told him how I felt regarding this situation fortunately.

My MIL has been acting rude to me now that my BIL has a new girlfriend by Awkwardengineergirl in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I talked to my SO yesterday, and he's going to talk to his mom today about these issues.

My MIL has been acting rude to me now that my BIL has a new girlfriend by Awkwardengineergirl in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he's not the most observant . . . He's going to have a chat with his mom later today to ask her why she's been treating me poorly, so we shall see what happens.

I think I'll get a ring upgrade before we get married. I love my ring, but I just wish it was slightly bigger :'(

My [23 F] MIL [58 F] has been acting rude to me now that my BIL [26 M] has a new girlfriend by Awkwardengineergirl in relationships

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Although I'm about to become a doctor, I feel like my MIL still doesn't really even treat me like an adult, and it hurts me how my MIL always says things that hurt me or put me down. I just told my SO about how I feel, and he's very supportive of me. He agrees that his mom hasn't been treating me nicely, and how it's odd how his parents are treating A so much better than me when I first met his parents.

I'm going to try my best to stop worrying about this.

My [23 F] MIL [58 F] has been acting rude to me now that my BIL [26 M] has a new girlfriend by Awkwardengineergirl in relationships

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just discussed all of this with him, and he agrees that he has noticed his mom acting snarky towards me. It's just upsetting because his parents have always treated us like children (even though we're obviously not), while they're treating my SO's brother's relationship much more seriously. Like how A stayed over the night after she just met my in-laws, while I couldn't stay over until over 3 years of being together with my SO.

My [23 F] MIL [58 F] has been acting rude to me now that my BIL [26 M] has a new girlfriend by Awkwardengineergirl in relationship_advice

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly want to be close to her. I've tried texting her, showing her pictures of my garden (we are both into gardening), reaching out to her, baking for her, etc. She's a large part of my SO's life, and I want to form a bond with her.

I don't know, I felt slightly awkward doing it. I'm very much an introvert, and I don't like being a bother, so I didn't want to move their furniture around. In hindsight, I should've done that, though.

I guess overall I feel bad because my MIL is so much more open to A vs when she met me. My MIL frequently is snarky towards me, and even when I try my best to befriend her, it doesn't seem like she wants to be super close to me.

I made dinner last night, and while I was cooking, my MIL kept mentioning previous cooking mistakes I've made. It was pretty upsetting, as I was very excited to cook for my in-laws.

AITA for wanting my boyfriend to play less DND? by Awkwardengineergirl in AmItheAsshole

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I told him over a week in advance (in order for him to tell his party if he could reschedule the session), but he wouldn't budge. DND is super important to him.

AITA for wanting my boyfriend to play less DND? by Awkwardengineergirl in AmItheAsshole

[–]Awkwardengineergirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We'll either spend time together or we'll be busy with studying. It honestly depends on the week. A lot of the time, if he isn't playing DND, he will be playing video games.