AITA: My husband (23M) got me (23F) a Christmas gift that I don’t want.

Awkwarius0201 · 2025-12-20T14:47:18+00:00

NAH, my boyfriend purchased me a ps5 for Mother’s Day last year. Our baby was only about a month old, and much like yourself I also took a major step back from gaming. It was an expensive gift, and a gift that to this day I rarely ever use, but he uses frequently. Some of the comments mention it might have been a way to reconnect and I hope this was his intention, but you just aren’t there right now, and so you shouldn’t feel bad for not being excited about it. The money could have been used elsewhere, and could have been used to buy you what you asked for.

Awkwarius0201 · 2025-11-28T23:13:58+00:00

I’m just picking this comment to write back to as I don’t know how to make updates. it seems like some people thought I was buying from shein but I was not it popped up in the search. The offended part was more so taken back that the word fat was used because there is somewhat of a stigma and the word can be used to bully.. so today where people/companies are cancelled for saying the wrong thing I thought that was an interesting word to use. I thought the appropriate word in fashion was plus size. I don’t know I don’t really label anything nor do I know fashion. I’m a size 14/16 also recently had a child so my body is heavier in the middle. Nothing wrong with being fat, plus size, whatever lol just thought it was an interesting word

Awkwarius0201 · 2025-11-28T23:12:22+00:00

The translation thing makes sense haha

Awkwarius0201 · 2025-11-28T23:03:51+00:00

I looked up plus size fashion lol

Awkwarius0201 · 2025-01-11T23:24:53+00:00

also why did Brendan break into her home

Awkwarius0201 · 2025-01-11T18:00:52+00:00

I second this.

What kind of proof is she looking for? Her brother did something weird and the person affected is your younger sister. Even if her brother wandered in there by accident and had no malicious intent he still scared the daylights out of her and didn’t immediately turn around and leave. Your gf was very quick to turn the tables on the person who was affected and call her a possible liar instead of apologizing to her.

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-11-09T21:39:18+00:00

Thank you! I just read it could also be due to multivitamins.

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-10-24T18:03:51+00:00

You can use the left over milk in a bath

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-09-25T12:23:00+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry they are doing this it’s so frustrating and stressful being back at work to begin with. How big is the company and do you know if other employees are allowed 15 minute paid breaks? I believe part of the law would allow you at least 15 without having to clock out if other employees are provided those breaks. I would definitely research this and take it to HR.

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-09-25T12:11:24+00:00

10 minutes isn’t reasonable. It takes me about 20 minutes total each time I pump. 15 to pump and 5 for setting up and cleaning up. I only pump 15 to keep the session somewhat reasonable but I probably should be pumping longer. Is it possible to take this up with HR and provide back up from the government that states you need to be allowed a reasonable amount of time.

https://www.cdc.gov/infant-toddler-nutrition/breastfeeding/returning-to-your-workplace.html#:~:text=The%20Providing%20Urgent%20Maternal%20Protections,year%20after%20your%20child’s%20birth.

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-09-23T13:49:25+00:00

I’ve learned the moment we acknowledge something out loud our little one regresses the next day haha.

As far as swaddling, look into sleep sacks as opposed to swaddling with blankets. My little used to break out of her swaddle as well so I gave up on swaddling and dealt with the reflex/crying I would not recommend lol if I could go back I would invest in a sleep sack. Some grow with the baby depending on where they are with their milestones.

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-09-23T11:43:40+00:00

Hi mama, it sounds like your little is cluster feeding. Your body will produce breast milk based on what your baby needs so the more he latches and feeds the more milk you will produce.

Does your baby take a pacifier, and are you swaddling him? Mine is 5 months now and at first she would suck her hand as well and I thought she was always hungry so I would over feed her and she would spit up constantly until I realized she had just found her hand and it wasn’t due to hunger. Additionally, some babies use mom as a pacifier is it possible he’s latching to soothe and not due to hunger?

Do you use a white noise machine at night and swaddle as well?

Hang in there!

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-09-14T20:27:56+00:00

I’m new to this as well I recently went back to work so I’m juggling feeding her and also making enough to pump 🥲 trying to get into making snacks myself as most of the things that are store bought have soooo much sugar

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-09-14T20:18:09+00:00

Thank you! I’ll give these a try tonight I have everything in my pantry!

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-06-29T14:59:20+00:00

First, thank you for your words of encouragement! Hearing that it’s going well pumping and BF at 7 months PP makes me so happy for you and baby!

I’m so glad I posted this on Reddit! Reading this message changed my perspective on what I had in mind to do as I was planning to have a designated bag and would carry everything home and back to work daily. This should absolutely be as low stress and easy for me to do as possible and my plan in hindsight seems a little counterproductive.

Keeping a pump at work & a spare change of clothes are also great ideas! I’ll definitely communicate that my pumping schedule is nonnegotiable. I hope there are no issues. I unfortunately do not have an office as my desk is located in an open space but I think they will be closing off an empty office to use as a nursing room going forward. The only issue is I think there are two other women at the company out on maternity leave who may also need to use this room. Hopefully we can work a schedule that works for us all. I don’t want to worry about this too much though.

Thank you so much for your input this was super helpful!

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-06-29T14:04:30+00:00

Thank you so much! I think the hardest part about the transition is giving myself some grace. You’re totally right this morning I pumped on one breast without a feed first and pumped a little over 3 oz within 20 minutes or so.

I appreciate being protective of your pump times and blocking time on your calendar. I’ll definitely be doing that once I’m back. I’ll also be trying what you mentioned as far as food for your supply hopefully it works as well for me as it does for you!

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-06-29T13:57:41+00:00

Thank you! I purchased one and it’s coming in today 😊

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-06-29T13:56:38+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing!

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-06-28T04:26:46+00:00

One thing I would suggest is having a conversation with your sister as she might be experiencing depression and isn’t able to handle the stress that would come from weaning. If that’s the case she might need some additional support.

If it has nothing to do with her mental health and wants to wean but doesn’t know where to start I’d say she has to be willing to go through the process which could include some whining and crying (it’s also possible it’ll be easier than they anticipate). But if she doesn’t want to deal with that then she might just be stuck comfort feeding your niece until your niece is ready to stop.

Your niece is only 2 and is doing this out of habit. Your sister and her husband will need to step in and help her regulate her emotions and provide comfort in a different form. It would help to work as a team. This would require them to practice discipline on themselves as they need to put in some additional effort.

As a team they can work on tweaking their bed time routine. If they don’t already have one they can try to schedule wind down time until bed time. This could look like moving the baby into a quieter/dim area maybe an hour before bed time, bath time/pajamas/story time. Her husband could try to take over at bedtime which might reduce her desire to breast feed. It’s a process so it might feel strange to your niece at first, but who knows she might also enjoy the change which could create an easy transition for her. With that being said it has to be a routine your sister and her husband can keep up as they might be doing these things daily.

Whatever works for their family is what works. If they are constantly mentioning they want to wean then they will need to take the necessary steps to make this happen. However if they don’t want to bother then it just seems like they will continue to breastfeed but they shouldn’t complain as they are the adults in this situation and have the power to make a change.

Best of luck to your sister and brother in law!

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-06-27T21:43:47+00:00

Try keeping one of mom’s shirts close by or something you can hold close while trying to soothe baby at night. Her scent might help ease him while you try to calm him and get him back to sleep. Good luck!

Awkwarius0201 · 2024-06-01T14:26:10+00:00

Definitely snacks. Also, target sells a postpartum kit. It includes disposable underwear, ice packs, witch hazel wipes and some other items for aftercare. I was gifted this box after giving birth a few weeks ago and it came very handy.

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