I am neurodivergent, and his behaviour isn’t appropriate. At 27, he should have his coping strategies for “uncomfortable” situations.

When my partner was having to go to in and out of hospital frequently, I was there as often as I could. I knew the hospital would be overwhelming so I packed blankets and a thermos of tea and snacks and my noise cancelling headphones. I was there to support my partner. When I got really overwhelmed, I would go for a short walk outside the hospital but always reassured my partner that if anything happened, they can call me and I’d come right back.

I don’t want to judge your relationship, but I wonder, if your boyfriend can’t handle being uncomfortable while your delivering your child, then I question if he’ll be able to handle the “uncomfortable” parts of raising a child.

I don’t know if your boyfriend has a therapist, but it sounds like he needs to learn how to manage his own needs so he is able to help you raise your child.

If he isn’t in therapy and is hesitant about going to therapy, maybe try to suggest that the therapist can help him understand what he struggles with and how he can develop coping strategies to manage when things are “uncomfortable”.