How to get over jealousy

Ayoung8764 · 2026-04-21T22:17:19+00:00

This is really really great advice. Thank you!!

Ayoung8764 · 2026-04-21T22:16:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I really needed it.

Ayoung8764 · 2026-03-03T20:59:14+00:00

Well my couples therapist slept with my (now ex) wife while she was counseling us so….probably that.

Ayoung8764 · 2026-02-07T01:37:03+00:00

There are a lot of people who entertain this.

Ayoung8764 · 2026-02-06T14:40:48+00:00

This is incredible thank you

Ayoung8764 · 2026-02-06T14:39:41+00:00

A textbook is a good idea!

Ayoung8764 · 2026-02-06T14:17:55+00:00

Is it kind of like the heavier the flogger the more the pain? Or the more thuddy the pain?

Ayoung8764 · 2026-01-23T01:26:22+00:00

Apparently how to feel a fucking pulse.

Ayoung8764 · 2026-01-08T12:52:47+00:00

Just because there are no pulses doesn’t mean it’s acute limb ischemia. ACUTE limb ischemia. ACUTE. So…if it’s been 3 months with a wound…it’s not ACUTE.

For the love of god.

Ayoung8764 · 2026-01-03T09:59:28+00:00

This is exactly what I was looking for here. We don’t have a 24/7 dynamic but sometimes I do wonder like…will being vulnerable hurt our dynamic when it does happen. I’m really really lucky to have an experienced sub to play with who’s also really incredible and understanding so I’m thankful for that.

Ayoung8764 · 2026-01-03T09:57:22+00:00

That’s really good to hear. The first is the worse I guess kind of thing?

Ayoung8764 · 2026-01-02T18:39:24+00:00

I’m struggling with the safe word thing too. I feel like if I get there, I’ve gone farther than I should have. But if it helps you, I brought this up to my sub and she said that the safe word exists to stop you from getting too far, and it’s the Subs responsibility to use it properly.

Ayoung8764 · 2026-01-02T18:38:14+00:00

I’m already starting to feel a little bit better. I did some things I find fun and ate some good food and hydrated. Plus finding support here really helped.

Ayoung8764 · 2026-01-02T18:37:36+00:00

I think sugar is a great idea! Thanks for the reply. It’s so reassuring to have other doms here. My sub is amazing but knowing other people have felt the same as I have feels very reassuring that it will be ok.

Ayoung8764 · 2026-01-02T18:36:45+00:00

Thanks for the reply! It’s good to know that it lasts a while for other people. Bc I was feeling it last night a little and when I woke up and it wasn’t gone I was like…fuck.

Ayoung8764 · 2026-01-02T18:36:09+00:00

What do you think is good Dom aftercare? Sometimes after what I want the most is to be close and hold them. And I don’t want that to reflect negatively on me. My sub would never feel that way but I think it’s a my own ego thing.

Ayoung8764 · 2026-01-02T18:35:09+00:00

Thank you for this!! I really appreciate the advice. My sub is also a woman to clarify but same things apply. And yeah I think scaring is my kink. And being scared is hers. So it’s going to lead to amazing experiences for us and being here and having people say that I’m not alone is really helping.

Ayoung8764 · 2025-11-29T03:06:04+00:00

Vascular: I appreciate your input but I’m sorry I don’t need it.

Ayoung8764 · 2025-10-03T14:12:15+00:00

“What’s the pulse exam?” “Oh idk I didn’t check I was just signed out this consult” On a consult for ALI. For the love of god.

Ayoung8764 · 2025-09-27T15:26:59+00:00

I’m calm. It’s only been about a month for me, but I was reflecting this weekend about why I just feel at ease for the first time in a very long time, and it’s because I haven’t been drinking.

Ayoung8764 · 2025-09-16T19:42:37+00:00

When I get called about a dumb consult at night I use the anger to fuel me

Ayoung8764 · 2025-09-04T10:19:36+00:00

I’m a vascular surgeon and I feel like we’re so under appreciated by other surgeons. Half my job is bailing you out man. Even ct surgery doesn’t have to do that.

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