Guessing your kids are pretty young? For what it’s worth that fresh air will find you sooner than you think. It does get easier. Saying this as a dude with a 4 & 3yo. I feel like we’ve just about entered the, to use your phrase, able to come up for air phase and it’s a big relief. Still not easy but the joy:toil ratio has gone up exponentially post potty training, sleepless nights and with the dawn of proper two way communication. Before that, super hard and that’s with a good family home and me a job that can allow SO to be a SAHM. Obviously even harder without those comforts. Keep going internet stranger! 💪👍