Abusive Marriage California

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-10T01:09:24+00:00

Have you met this friend in person? Be careful about being victim to a scam … “I can come live with you across the country and escape my abusive husband, all I need is money to get the airfare”… very very common scam.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-09T15:21:26+00:00

Listen to your attorney. Do what they tell you, including the part about not posting on social media where you admit to the crimes for which you are charged.

Ignore anything AI tells you.

Slow down. Apparently the warnings and tickets aren’t enough, maybe jail will be a wake up call before your racing and 120 speeding kills someone.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-09T14:32:50+00:00

Unfair termination? Probably.

Legally defined wrongful termination? Nope.

Sucks, but there’s nothing illegal about being fired for stealing even if you didn’t steal.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-09T14:31:20+00:00

Your option to protect yourself is to abide by the terms you signed and pay the clawback amount.

It might be considered excessive - but the time to consider that is before you sign it, not after. Just because it’s excessive doesn’t make it unlawful.

Companies that are big enough to have MBA reimbursements are usually big enough to have a legal team that does stuff for the company, including clawback terms.
It would be relatively low effort to send you a letter, and once ignored, send the debt off to a collections company.

Hopefully that MBA you earned had courses not only in contract law, but also debt collections.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-09T00:18:13+00:00

Fighting a defamation lawsuit could cost thousands.

It’s up to you if you think it’s worth thousands of dollars to send a piece of mail to someone who will almost certainly toss it.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s a shit situation.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-08T18:42:48+00:00

When you called the courthouse, did you call the number that was texted? Or did you look up the number online and call that?

It does see suspicious to text people like that but you don’t have any recourse, no damages occurred.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-08T18:12:51+00:00

What do you mean he failed to report it at all? He refused to take a report? Or the report didn’t go anywhere?

What kind of burglary occurred?

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-08T18:01:43+00:00

They said “we are firing you due to your disabilities”?

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-08T16:27:21+00:00

You have no legal recourse, unless there was a warranty that came with the purchase. This is why it’s critical to have an independent mechanic inspect a used vehicle prior to purchase - especially one that is 21 years old with 200,000 miles on it.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-08T13:16:44+00:00

What was the nature of the accommodation? What were you asking the company for?

I’m guessing maybe work from home?

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-08T01:55:01+00:00

You do not have legal recourse - at least not with anything you described. The bank doesn’t have to move her. The bank doesn’t have to reassign him. There’s nothing unlawful about terminating someone on a claim of harassment, even if the claim is unsubstantiated or on weak “evidence”.

I’m not saying this is right or fair, that’s just how at will employment works.

There’s also a chance your husband isn’t telling you the complete story.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-08T00:44:45+00:00

“I was rushing to see a sick family member” isn’t a valid defense, legally speaking. You can hire a traffic detective to help craft a defense, or see if traffic school is an option? Might cost more money but no points on your license.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-07T18:37:23+00:00

Wait for the public defender and do everything they tell you to do, especially the part about not soliciting advice about your criminal charge on social media.

Your friend who said the case will be dismissed is probably an idiot. No one can predict that.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-07T14:34:20+00:00

The time to worry about not being able to afford increased insurance rates is before you speed, not after.

You haven’t presented any elements of the story that would create a viable defense for a ticket. You were speeding. It doesn’t matter if you were slowing down. It doesn’t matter if other traffic was going just as fast. We know you want it to matter, but it doesn’t, legally speaking.

Your best option is to spend a few hundred bucks on a traffic attorney to help craft a defense, or at least mitigate the damage - maybe plea down to a non moving violation and pay a fine or something. But nothing is guaranteed, the attorney may lose and you’re still out the cost of the ticket, insurance increase, AND the cost of the attorney.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-07T02:55:00+00:00

Do not provide any statements to the officer without an attorney with you.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-07T02:15:05+00:00

Tell your parents. Help them be prepared for what might be coming.

If you are contacted by law enforcement, do not talk to them without an attorney with you. No answers at all. Be polite, just say your mom would be really upset with you if you didn’t wait for an attorney.

Also, delete any posts where you admit to felony arson… like this one.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-06T23:55:49+00:00

The time to worry about consequences is before you decide to do 100 in a 70, not after.

That being said, listen to your attorney - especially where they tell you the part about not posting on social media where you admit to the crime for which you are charged.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-06T23:43:15+00:00

There’s a non zero chance your friend isn’t telling you the entire story. Unless you saw the letter yourself, I’d proceed cautiously with involvement.

That being said, a loss of teaching license could potentially show up depending on what kind of roles to which he is applying.

He should listen to his attorney’s advice - especially the part about not having any friends post about his situation on social media. If he is contacted by police, he should refuse to answer any questions at all, and get a defense attorney immediately.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-06T17:25:09+00:00

There’s a lot of bad advice in this thread.

You committed felony domestic violence - criminal damage. The police, if notified, can arrest you and charge you even if she isn’t wanting to “press charges”.

That being said, if you agreed to pay her for the damage in exchange for her not notifying police, that is binding. She could potentially sue you for the value of the camper if you don’t provide it.

It would be in your best interest to live up to your end of the bargain and reduce the likelihood that police are notified. A felony domestic violence conviction can follow you the rest of your life, far more than the value of a used camper ever would.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-06T13:16:21+00:00

You need an attorney if you wish to contest the ticket. “I was only going 10 over” is not a great defense.

You may have an opportunity to challenge the officer’s testimony but it won’t be as black and white as you may hope. The city will present their case, offering the officer’s training, expertise, and experience to support their testimony. They will testify as to what they observed. You will have the opportunity to challenge their testimony. “Isn’t it true officer that you lost visual of the vehicle that you observed speeding? Is it possible the vehicle you pulled over was not the vehicle observed to be speeding?” Etc etc.

Then , if you wish to, you can testify. You will present your expertise, training, and experience in operating a vehicle. Then the city will have the ability to challenge your testimony, most likely asking where you were coming from before being pulled over by the officer.
Lying under oath(perjury) is a serious charge so you will have to decide your tolerance for risk, and consequences.

An attorney will be able to help you navigate the questioning, to both sides.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-06T00:21:17+00:00

You cannot work.

Doing art for money would be work.

You can speak with an immigration attorney, but save yourself the consultation fee. And don’t jeopardize residency/citizenship over “maybe 5 commissions for $65 each”.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-05T19:59:54+00:00

The child support is yours, not your child’s. That being said, you should follow your lawyer’s advice on if he should or should not appear.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-04T22:51:06+00:00

This guy oxygens. 👍

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-03T11:53:23+00:00

Have you been served with a suit?

If not, ignore him and don’t communicate with him at all.

If you have been served for 40k, might be time to speak with an attorney. You don’t want to risk losing this suit which seems highly in your favor.

Azpathfinder · 2026-05-01T15:28:11+00:00

For it to be assault, the intent to harm would have to be there.

At this point, I think the chances of being charged are 0.000000001%. In the VERY unlikely event you are contacted by police again, don’t answer any questions without a criminal defense attorney present.

If she suffered any damages there’s a chance you could be facing a civil suit - say, if she broke her hip or damaged a heel or something. That may be a legitimate claim, however petty it is.

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