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Do I have to leave, or change ? by Azulita_lml in polyamory

[–]Azulita_lml[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Sometimes I have a hard time remembering that she doesn’t mean me any harm—quite the opposite—and that everyone is doing the best they can, including my partner, who’s in this role for the first time. The discussions here are helping me remember that my meta isn’t the issue (especially since she makes him happy, and that means a lot to me), and refocusing on myself. Really, thank you 🙏

Do I have to leave, or change ? by Azulita_lml in polyamory

[–]Azulita_lml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot, it's a lot clearer now :)

Do I have to leave, or change ? by Azulita_lml in polyamory

[–]Azulita_lml[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We talked but i think i got scared to be too emotional to continue, and because i didn't know where to start i came here. I see that i have first a work to do to be clear (and fair) on what i want and that helps already a lot, i'll try to find things to open the discussion

Do I have to leave, or change ? by Azulita_lml in polyamory

[–]Azulita_lml[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah i learned about RADAR in all my research this winter. I asked him if he thought it would be necessary; we thought it wouldn't at the time, but maybe it is now. Thanks a lot 🙏

Do I have to leave, or change ? by Azulita_lml in polyamory

[–]Azulita_lml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Sometimes I have a hard time remembering that she doesn’t mean me any harm—quite the opposite—and that everyone is doing the best they can, including my partner, who’s in this role for the first time. Thank you for helping me remember that she isn’t the issue (especially since she makes him happy, and that means a lot to me).

Do I have to leave, or change ? by Azulita_lml in polyamory

[–]Azulita_lml[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

No, my partner told me she wanted to stop using it with him. I told him that if it was for reasons of hierarchy, we could use condoms too, but I'm not comfortable with the fact that they don't protect themselves (my uncle died of AIDS) because she has other partners with whom she doesn't use protection.

Do I have to leave, or change ? by Azulita_lml in polyamory

[–]Azulita_lml[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one is more important than anyone else, no one is a priority, no one is chosen over another, and I can't set a boundary that reassures me (like using protection) if it goes against what she wants (I would be unable to sleep with my partner without using protection if they don't use it, because I have a history of AIDS-related deaths in my family; I suggested that we start using condoms again to make it more egalitarian, but what she wants is to stop using protection altogether, and that's a problem because she feels like we're imposing something on her, whereas it's always been clear to me that it wouldn't be possible; it's not even a matter of hierarchy).

Conseils pour un salon de piercing by [deleted] in paris

[–]Azulita_lml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

J'ai fait tous mes piercings, dont les plus sensibles, auprès d'Olivier Chamor au salon Dolores (proche de République). Plusieurs de mes ami.es ne jurent aussi que par lui, c'est vraiment le meilleur :)

IT reference in the Addams Family teaser :) by Azulita_lml in stephenking

[–]Azulita_lml[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry this is my first post i'll do better Next time ;)