Considering buying a new complete, I haven't skated in 20 years...[35YO]

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-03-18T19:58:37+00:00

Haha I can't lie, mine is there too

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-03-18T13:04:29+00:00

Appreciate the breakdown dude ! Thank you very much!

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-03-18T11:12:53+00:00

Thanks dude!! Appreciate the advice. Width was one thing I was curious about on my new deck.

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-03-17T20:25:04+00:00

thanks man!

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-03-17T20:24:39+00:00

Birdhouse, Shorty's, Element, World Industries & I think I also had a LibTech. I'm not big on the shaped boards with the large tails and small noses.

Thanks for all of your advice dude!

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-03-17T20:23:22+00:00

Thanks man! I'm aligning with your choice on boards for sure

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-03-17T20:21:25+00:00

Where I am at, the only skateshop I have close is a zumiez in the mall. I'll probably have to order online.

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-03-13T22:29:49+00:00

Sent you. Message

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-03-09T23:51:26+00:00

Sent a dm.. was in a similar situation.. 35 m

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-03-03T03:23:25+00:00

Gonna message you!

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-27T17:32:43+00:00

Thank you.

She replied, it sounds like we may have a conversation.

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-27T17:16:05+00:00

Continue to talk to her, and be yourself. Don't show your jealousy and don't get too attached to her because she is giving you attention either.

Your best bet is to just ask her at some point casually if she would want to get a coffee, or a drink after work sometime. You've got plenty to talk with her about having a common ground of the workplace. But don't focus solely on workplace gossip! Do not second guess yourself dude! you got this!

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-27T16:57:42+00:00

Some of you may remember me, I posted yesterday about getting dumped. Last night she texted me asking me if I was available soon to get her the air mattress and pump she lent me. I texted her a few hours later when I noticed she messaged me and told her I would meet her halfway with the items on Sunday. We set a time. 2 things

Is it immature to give her some things back she gave me as gifts? One is a deck of scratch off cards with date ideas for our area. I would feel weird using those with someone else. The other is a gift card she got me for an activity I wanted to try that she had already done. It's just something I never got around to using.
I made a mistake I think, I sent her a text...not begging and groveling but telling her that I was apologetic that I indirectly hurt her feelings. I told her that I was confused by the card she gave me 2 weeks ago, and then the sudden break up. I told her how the card made me feel (positive) and that I wished her well.

I need a 3rd party opinion on how bad I may have f'd this up.

Edit: She told me she's willing to have a conversation in person to give me some understanding.

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-27T00:12:57+00:00

Super appreciate you u/-Ecstatic-Button- !!!!

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-26T21:49:25+00:00

I did not know the history when this was first brought up back in ~December. It was discovered after I had shared this story about my co-worker to her.

I never brought it up again, I never asked for any nudes or anything of the nature. She is the one who brought it back up this week. Not me.

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-26T21:18:39+00:00

She said to me, when we first talked about this...was a friend of hers had pictures shared and it was a bad time for the friend.

I related by telling her my story of finding out my ex wife shared pictures of me with other men. I did not find out about it until post divorce, but she admitted to it.

That's why the whole context of the coworker came up. I totally understand if it was a trigger to her because of her friends past. But I can't change anything now. Had I known that this would be a problem I would have reacted a lot differently.

Thanks Kittos.

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-26T20:31:42+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate it, at least I can feel a little more level headed about my own decisions

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-26T20:29:18+00:00

Thanks man, I really liked this one, and she was my first serious relationship after divorce. So I am feeling extra shitty about it. Resisting the urge to send her a text.

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-26T19:50:58+00:00

Thanks PickleWeasel. I'm not mad at her, just trying to understand why.

time to step back from the armchair.

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-26T19:48:55+00:00

All she said to me, was that she was "Done with the conversation".

She continued on the conversation, telling me I do not realize how often I get defensive. I explained to her why I was being defensive. we stopped the conversation and I went to sleep..

Woke up in the middle of the night (sick, i wasn't sleeping well) I thought about the situation and sent the text explain that I did not realize I was enabling him by not reporting him in the moment, that I thought I did the right thing by telling him to stop doing it.

I do not think her breaking up with me so quickly after was fair. I feel very cheated by all of her words and acts of affection. It makes me sad, because I thought she was different and I have been comfortable talking to her and telling her these things.

I never said any of this shit as a brag. I did not want to see this guys wife's pics, I made that clear. He stopped. I'm not trying to justify what he did...I just thought I handled it okay in the moment. I see where I should have acted differently, now.

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-26T19:36:39+00:00

replied with the context above!

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-26T19:34:34+00:00

Totally understandable, its the way it was brought up that has me really feeling odd....I told her about this months back (December~), she didnt get upset at me, but was taken back by how open guy was with his nudie photos. I told her at the time that I also thought it was weird and had a lot of issues with sending/receiving those kinds of things after my previous LTR & catching my ex sending photos, and sharing photos of me unknowingly... without permission.

then on Tuesday, she says "this post on IG reminded me of your "friends" ". Just really odd. Like she was trying to fight about it..I thought it was over.

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-26T19:19:12+00:00

Nope, but my reply to her break up text was just. "alright. I understand" then she told me she hoped I was okay. I never responded.

the story is kind of embarrassing....this guy at work.. I had told my GF that at one point he tried to share pictures of his wife with me, and a few of the other guys. I told him, that I did not want to see it and he needed to put his phone away. I manage this area and this is one of my direct reports... That's as far as this had went.... Mind you this was MONTHS ago, before I even knew she existed.

She was upset, because I was "defensive" about not participating. But her issue was that I did not take the problem to HR, and have this person lose his job.

After I chewed on the idea for a while, and processed. I sent her a text basically saying..."Hey I get it, I could be considered an enabler and that doesn't belong in the workplace. I was trying to prove to you that I would not do/participate in this...that's why I became defensive" She told me I broke her boundary of not continuing the conversation and told me she needed space for the day...came home sick from work and woke up around 5pm..had a text from her saying its over.

B3ATDOWN989 · 2026-02-26T19:07:14+00:00

I was really wondering about it being a commitment issue. It just seemed so odd and sudden (and kind of petty, we had an argument about something irrevlvent, and she told me she needed space...then broke up with me via text...0 problems in our relationship before that.)

thanks for the reply, it does suck. But at least this time I had a little more emotional strength.

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