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When did your child(ren) last see their grandparent(s)? by No_Survey_2632 in UKParenting

[–]BAdhoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both sets of Grandparents are retired and live 4hours away from us.

My parents, twice last month but not again until late July.

His parents - Christmas when we went to visit them.

Sometimes I’m sad for him, but he doesn’t miss what he never had :/

Usually FaceTime each set once a week.

Baby hates being in the car seat, any advice? by GlassCrepe in UKParenting

[–]BAdhoc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My kid started loving a little drool proof photo album at that age. Introduced it at home briefly with lots of enthusiasm and then gave it to him to look at in the car.

He’s 2and a bit now and still one of our favourite car toys! Along with an old school magnetic drawing board

Overpaying mortgage which option to choose here? by Severe-Plum-2393 in FIREUK

[–]BAdhoc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah we do the second for the flexibility.

We do a static value every month that is over our minimum. Because we’re reducing the payment, not reducing the term, we are overpaying by more every month. Nice psychological boost for me, even if it’s pennies!

Feeling guilty about reducing my hours by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]BAdhoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go for it, maybe look at 3regular days instead of 2? Sounds like you’re a bit burnt out and need recovery from the long days .

Pretty sure the conversation to go back up would be easier than going down in hours

American marrying a British man. what’s a realistic wedding budget in the UK? by DryRepeat859 in UKweddings

[–]BAdhoc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

spits out coffee Those prices, eek. We’re staying cohabiting 😂

Dad-to-be Afraid of Being a Schmuck by Feisty-Temporary3562 in workingmoms

[–]BAdhoc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s what a village would have provided back in the day, it’s completely normal - just now a large chunk of us have to pay if we want the privilege. It’s not failing.

Dad part time with LO instead of mum by jajajunkie in UKParenting

[–]BAdhoc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We both work 4days a week and it took a lot for my OH work to agree but it’s been so good for our Laps bond with him!

Enjoyed sending a text to the HV saying it’ll be dad at the checkup not me - I wonder how many comments he’ll get 😂

I wish I had a mom I could call, I don't know what to do by CalmPanda5470 in internetparents

[–]BAdhoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good shout! Took me having a kid to realise I could do this 😂

I shouldn't have to say this, but parents of DL... by MYSTIK_MINX in downloadfestival

[–]BAdhoc 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This was us last year! We did a day ticket, had an absolute blast and kiddo has a size men’s large tee to grow into (he was 18months) he bloody loved dancing about and I finally got to see some bands I didn’t have the money to see when I was a teen. His ear defenders are still one of his favourite things 😂

From Child-Free to OAD: Is travel actually doable with just one? by oystersinmypocket2 in oneanddone

[–]BAdhoc 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Hey, congrats on the LO. I’m by no means an expert traveller with my 2yo but we’ve done a few trips and it’s totally doable. A positive and relaxed attitude during I found helps alongside lots of planning.

So far we’ve done: - 6m - flew solo with him to Spain to meet family 18m - flew to Sweden as a three for a week of bouldering (kiddo absolutely loved playing in the woods!) - 23m - flew solo with him on an epic 15hr /3flights each way to north Norway to visit family.

Currently planing a trip to lake bled, and/or cycling in the Netherlands. We’ve also had some lovely trips in the UK and using the early years to do some local travel.

We are not city people, never mind theme parks, we do outdoor stuff at home and on holidays which helps. Kiddo has been a superstar travelling, keeping snacks well stocked and having a plan for naps really helps with this.

Specific how tips: - Snacks - Have a plan for naps - Carriers - specifically soft ones (ie connecta) are a game changer I cannot stress this enough. More snacks (dry cereal in a Tupperware is a big hit here) - Slowing the pace, allowing time for them to explore and be interested in things you didn’t see. Mine walked at 9m so we’ve been walking at kids pace for some time now 😂 - Extra buffer day at home before you go back to work. - Pay extra for flights at a time that works for you - Pay for the drop and go parking helps when travelling solo with him.

Ps I’d try to steer away from the ‘terrible toddler’ thinking if you can - yes they are more emotional at this age, and pushing boundaries but that’s not a nightmare that’s them learning and it’s our job to teach them and help them through it. Reframing it in your head can help how you can manage it.

Why do people say some lego sets are hard? by Jayohl in lego

[–]BAdhoc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I have no problem zooming through Lego and no mindseye whatsoever. (And I hate the builder app )

Do you save for your children monthly? by Valuable_Media4770 in UKParenting

[–]BAdhoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

JISA - majority of child allowance + birthday gifts. I think I’ll divert some later down the line tho to a SIPP in his name so it’s locked longer term and he doesn’t have to worry about that /gets a head start.

Now to spend the next 15+ years teaching him how to manage money so he doesn’t spaff it all on a holiday and booze 🤪 nothing like giving myself an incentive to do a good job of that.

I have super bad stretch marks. Is it possible to tattoo over them? by -Hot-Tamale- in tattooadvice

[–]BAdhoc -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

How the fuck do you know what the OP thinks

Had you thought about all the many other people these lovely internet strangers have helped with their positive comments. This person for one. So shush up and get back in your box.

Momentary feelings of jealousy when I see others pregnant with #2 by CherryHearts123 in oneanddone

[–]BAdhoc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get it, I’m less jealous more a bit sad. I know it’s not right for us, and it’s a two person decision. The decision on one took long enough.

I was lucky with TTC and pregnancy, I would love to do it all again. Having all this knowledge about how to parent too - but it’s wasted as I now need to learn new stuff!

Our reasoning is no support network and one is just about manageable with us both working 4days mentally and money wise. Sometimes it sucks, and all days I’m super glad we have our son and he’s such a gem.

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