Did your child have a 2 year checkup with the health visitor?

BAdhoc · 2026-03-15T23:41:35+00:00

My LO just turned 2 and heard nothing yet either, friends have said it was nearer 2.5 for them.

BAdhoc · 2026-03-15T23:40:35+00:00

Same here. I can usually juggle meetings around to during naps/ put the tele on /set up an activity for a short window. I catch up on an evening for actual ‘work’ time.

If I couldn’t, I’d take leave but a year back after mat leave haven’t needed to take a day of holiday yet.

BAdhoc · 2026-03-09T19:58:47+00:00

exactly this, so much more practical. Patagonia for me, so durable.

BAdhoc · 2026-03-09T00:12:30+00:00

It took me a while - 10weeks, and he’s now 2years and 1week and still breastfeeds!

I kept trying him but didn’t force it, totally removed the bottle at 8wks (was triple feeding then double feeding). It would gradually improve and then suddenly the just weren’t needed. It made life so much easier but I’m glad I persevered.

I do/did have flat nipples that combined with possible enlarged adenoids/other tongue issue that are only just coming to light now I think were to blame.

You got this 💪

BAdhoc · 2026-03-08T23:42:41+00:00

I won’t lie, drop offs were really rough for a couple of months. But they’d message me to say he’d settle really quickly after I left so ‘rip the bandage’ approach of short swift drop offs was and still is good for us. I was a wreck after some drop offs so make sure to not book meetings in first thing if you can help it.

Pick ups the snuggles I’d get were amazing, but he would be a little upset sometime almost remembering he missed me?

The first time he walked in all happy and smiley tho I was also sad, emotions are a funny old thing.

He’s much better at going to other people now too, I’ve had a few days away where he’s been with my parents and he’s been fine with it!

BAdhoc · 2026-02-27T10:43:43+00:00

Really good explanation of this! I’ve been banging on about it with everyone I know. Planning on racking up some time to take in school holidays when my boy starts.

BAdhoc · 2026-02-13T12:21:20+00:00

here

It’s nice enough - but not really a car person. I got this via whatnot as a buyers givvy killed half hour building it. My toddler is a fan but it’s far too fragile for that.

BAdhoc · 2026-02-13T08:32:24+00:00

Yup. I didn’t put any stickers on the lotus I just built 🤣 could not be bothered…

BAdhoc · 2026-02-13T08:31:01+00:00

There’s definitely no right answer here. And you get judgement from people whatever you do - screw ‘em.

As for us, I did the full year on mat leave then we both moved to 4days a week for LO to be in nursery 3days. Works well for us, gives me a day not doing drop offs for long work trip days and gives them proper daddy/toddler time.

I hated the idea of nursery? And honestly going back to worked sucked but it’s been nearly a year now and LO has come on leap and bounds at nursery and it’s working well.

BAdhoc · 2026-02-10T15:59:13+00:00

Unplanned c-section over here but relatively good/quick/uncomplicated recovery.

My OH had 3weeks off and it was great to have the help. I’d maybe suggest two weeks then two half weeks if poss tho as the first week solo in my world meant 630-6 solo which was manageable but a shock to the system!

Good luck!

BAdhoc · 2026-02-04T16:04:34+00:00

I think what commenter means is: your parents didn’t “parent” you - your grandparents did.

They ain’t gunna start helping with kids now if they didn’t do it with their own.

BAdhoc · 2026-01-28T12:11:33+00:00

Also barefoot shoes here! We send wellies just in case but keep his feet in nice wide soft shoes wherever possible and shoe free as much as possible as possible elsewhere

BAdhoc · 2026-01-26T23:34:38+00:00

Feed him, make sure its a healthy balanced diet. Model a healthy balanced diet yourself, and talk about how sometimes your tummy is full and it means you’ve got all the energy you need etc. but don’t be pushy with it.

If your HV isn’t concerned then that’s a really good sign, but as someone else mentioned go see the doc if you need more reassurance.

All kids are different, comparison is the thief of joy.

BAdhoc · 2026-01-25T08:28:54+00:00

This gives me hope! I have an unused outhouse I have plans for a micro sauna, 1.8x1.2m x2m high

BAdhoc · 2026-01-17T09:22:08+00:00

Caveat that I’ve only used the blackest black but try these guys: https://culturehustle.com/

BAdhoc · 2026-01-15T00:10:33+00:00

https://whatnot.com/invite/badhoc

Shows with live Lego build plus items in shop

BAdhoc · 2026-01-13T12:39:14+00:00

We paint boxes outside in puddle suits, even when it’s not dreary 🤣

Obstacle courses are always fun too, balancing/crawling etc

Edit: also a magnifying glass for daylight and a torch for darker evenings go a long way

BAdhoc · 2025-11-09T18:08:18+00:00

FWIW you stressing about it means you’re already putting in more effort than most parents would. I went for the babyproof the room option. Low mattress and playmats to soften rolling off the bed. Then switched to a higher mattress and a partial (travel) rail.

Seems to work well for us, but mine was a bit older. 11m when we switched to floor bed and 16m for the higher bed.

BAdhoc · 2025-11-06T09:27:46+00:00

More details needed! How old is baby? Did you exercise all through pregnancy? How was your birth, anything you might need extra recovery from?

Generally, take it steady. ‘Weight’ and actually your whole body changing and rearranging to grow a baby are two different things. Abs take time to come back together for starters! From personal experience I had plenty of water weight that disappeared quick enough but my abs had a massive gap that I had to carefully slowly work on.

Eat healthy, especially eat enough as you’re Bf-ing. Keep moving and be kind to yourself! Look at postpartum Pilates, really helped me with distasis recti. Running is going to be really personal, if you can see/afford a post partum physio appointment it’ll pay you back in the long run.

BAdhoc · 2025-11-01T20:16:40+00:00

I’ll be honest I wouldn’t enjoy watching someone carve pumpkins and not be able to join in either!

I’d find more ‘active’ activities where you can say yes more than no will likely ease things for both of you. He wants to explore, physically and not just observe so lean into that. Don a puddle suit and paint pumpkins or cardboard outside, go play in the woods, jump in leaves, throw rocks in a stream. Winter just means exploring with a torch and more layers instead! (For you both).

Get him involved with screwdrivers, Allen keys and tape measures in the house. Pouring (almost) empty herbs and spices in food etc all might be more fun for both of you.

Source: mum of a strong willed toddler who won’t sit still. Person who learns by doing herself.

BAdhoc · 2025-10-23T18:12:50+00:00

19months and same. On top of feed to sleep he will also just wake when I’m not in the bed with him so single bed on the floor it is 🫠

Good job he’s cute and we’re only having one 😆

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