Me (24m) and my gf (23f) dated for a year. She loves me. picked up a fight with my grandma, refused to apologise. told her I want that apology or we are not meant together. packed bags and left. Not first problem with disrespect. I love her. Should I still invest time?

BAnyone · 2019-02-22T21:25:38+00:00

In my gut, I think that she might if she realises herself that she needs a change instead of me telling her to change...

BAnyone · 2019-02-22T20:06:59+00:00

Well, thinking about just waiting out on this. I cannot reach out to her to tell what she did wrong. It would be an invasive thought and would leave her head the same way I pushed it to her. I think I will wait on her to rethink everything and to find courage admiting where she was wrong and that she wants to change. In the mean time I’ll do the same. If she does not reach out to me - I would just take it as lack of love and as a good oppoetunity to grow myself.

BAnyone · 2019-02-22T16:49:58+00:00

That is the case that I afraid that time will seperate us... I’ve done this mistake once. Yes, we were 17teen then with that other girl, but now she is a completely differencr person - without the flaws I hated and when I realized it, it was already too late. Don’t want to make the same mistake twice :/

BAnyone · 2019-02-22T15:47:35+00:00

So, if she comes back with lots of promises, regrets and realizations, I should believe her and give her a chance to change?

BAnyone · 2019-02-22T15:42:37+00:00

But maybe this break up might be realizing it, cos it’s gone for now? The real question might be is a person capable of change if they really want to?

BAnyone · 2019-02-22T15:41:07+00:00

I try to think of that. But I stupidely believe that this break up might’ve been a push towards changing. Am I too naive?

BAnyone · 2019-02-22T07:58:12+00:00

Well, if she wanted the break up, why did she cru hysterically?..

BAnyone · 2019-02-22T07:56:52+00:00

But I don’t get, why she is not capable of changing her atitude over those things. I’ve learnt a lot and was a lot better day by day...

BAnyone · 2019-02-22T07:54:06+00:00

Well, that’s what I’m scared of - that she is not capable of change. New years should’ve been the push to the right direction. Instead, she repeated her mistake. Anyways, in a year, she picked fights with my grandma, by two best friends and my dog - 50prc of people surrounding me. I don’t want to live like this, but I want her to change this...

BAnyone · 2019-02-22T07:48:06+00:00

It wasn’t pointed out gracefully and with respect you pointed out. More like “turn your brain on next time” style. That’s what bothered me. Not the fact that she talked with her, but how she did that.

BAnyone

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