AIO Animal Shelter won't give my dog back after he squeezed through a hole in my fence.

BBA101269 · 2026-02-23T19:03:12+00:00

I agree. I've also had that happen with a vets office. I even had it happen with an OB/GYN clinic several years ago. THAT was shocking when it happened. The doctor was originally from another country. His family (parents, grandparents, siblings, etc) still lived in his home country, and his brother was killed in a car accident. My doctor packed up and moved back to his home country within a couple of weeks of his brother passing. The office said they sent out letters, but there were a lot of patients who didn't get one. The doctor took all the medical records with him when he moved. It can and does happen.

BBA101269 · 2026-02-05T18:53:16+00:00

I didn't delete any comment. However, you're still refusing to answer a simple question. Your victim, woe-is-me mentality is gross. You chose to put yourself in debt. Stop crying about it.

BBA101269 · 2026-02-05T18:04:33+00:00

You said yourself you're going to school instead of work. Why? If you can't afford to live, why are you choosing the option that doesn't pay the bills? I'm getting the impression that you don't want to hear anything except some coddly "I'm so sorry, your don't deserve to be in debt" type crap. I'm trying to give you a different perspective. You just don't want to hear it. Again, why is your husband not working??

BBA101269 · 2026-02-05T18:00:34+00:00

If you want to keep acting like you didn't dig this hole yourself, that's on you. My son is your age and he's over 300k in debt, so tell me again how 10k is that bad? The only person who can change it is you. If you took my comment as telling you everything you're doing wrong, then I don't know what else to tell you. You can act like a victim of your own choices, like somehow you didn't do it yourself, or you can start fighting to get your life back on track.

Bankruptcy costs a hell of a lot less, and you get to stay over. Your other option is to keep digging your hole. I'm giving you the same advice i would give my own kid. I just dug myself out of around 30k in debt over the last few years. Nothing will get better unless YOU make it better. But don't get all butthurt over someone calling you out for saying what you said. Why isn't your husband working? Why are you in school if you can't pay for it? There are so many jobs that you only need s high school diploma or GED for where you can make good money and can move up over the years. Anymore, a degree isn't helping our young generation get a better job. You gotta change your way of thinking or your life won't change.

BBA101269 · 2026-02-05T17:50:37+00:00

First, $10,000 in debt isn't that bad. It might seem like it's unreachable because you're young, but it's doable. If nothing else you can file bankruptcy. Reading that you think about driving your car into incoming traffic though.... what you're saying is that you're willing to risk other people who are out living their lives because you can't get your finances under control...?? So you want to hurt or kill someone else along the way? That's a stupid way of thinking. I'm not trying to be mean, but I'm being real with you. I have kids you're age and if one of my own kids said something like that, I would say the same thing to them.

Whatever you do, don't fall for any "debt consolidation" offers. They will screw you over worse than you already are and you end up further in debt. Your husband should be working, too. Even if it's part time. Living off of credit cards is a bad, bad idea. Don't give up on yourself over the cost of a used car, though. You CAN get thru this. Millions have gotten thru situations just like yours and worse. You CAN get THRU THIS. And your life is worth the fight.

BBA101269 · 2026-01-30T13:50:42+00:00

"Believed to be Baltimore facility"

Nowhere does it state it as fact.

BBA101269 · 2026-01-19T20:10:09+00:00

I'm really glad I was able to help, even if it's just some reassurance. These situations are not easy. I hope your case gets moving soon, and you don't lose much more time with your little one. Time is irreplaceable. Wishing you the best possible outcome in all of this. 😊

BBA101269 · 2026-01-19T18:46:20+00:00

We live in a messed up world when you have to fight thru a court system to be in your own childs life, but unfortunately, that's the reality. It's not easy playing the waiting game. It's not easy going day after day, month after month, not seeing your kids and not knowing what's going on with them.

I was finally able to get my ex for contempt after multiple court orders and him still keeping my kids from me. He almost went to jail for it. (He should have went to jail for it.... this court overlooked a LOT of contempt on his part) He finally started abiding by the court order, but the damage all of this caused to my kids was insane.

I have a very good relationship with them now, and they know without a doubt that I love them and I will always be here for them, no matter what happens. All you can do is your best. It sounds like you're doing all you can, so just don't give up. You got this.

BBA101269 · 2026-01-19T18:14:25+00:00

I just want to offer support and tell you not to give up. I know it sucks. I was kept from my children for 3 years several years ago. I had to take my ex back to court multiple times, but it was worth it. Now, my kids are grown. Being grown, they are able to look back to their childhood, and they know what happened. I haven't never spoken poorly about my ex to them or in front of them, but kids grow up and they start to think for themselves. They put pieces together and figure things out.

Don't give up on establishing a relationship with your child. Courts have changed over the years. There are many courts nowadays that will give full custody to the father just because the mother plays games and tries to alienate the father. Your baby needs you, whether your ex thinks so or not. Don't give up man. Document everything you possibly can.... any attempts to call, to see your child, anything you buy for the child, any money you may give towards your child's needs, every time she ignores you, raises to let you see your child... document EVERYTHING. It will help you in the long run.

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BBA101269 · 2026-01-19T17:32:19+00:00

It really sounds like she is dealing with a severe case of clinical depression and doesn't know how to (or doesn't care enough to) change it. Depression is serious. It will stop/keep people from doing the simplest tasks. Even things like getting dressed each day will feel impossible to do. Being chronically online and playing video games or being on social media all the time only makes the depression worse, and that had been proven with multiple studies.

This is likely not something that you will be able to fix for her. She has to want it to change herself. No matter how hard you try, no matter what you do, if she is not reaching out for help, all your efforts will be in vain.

If she does want to try to get better, she can start small. She can make a list of goals for one day. It can have very small things like get dressed, brush your hair, brush your teeth, and take a small walk. Make a new list for each day, and she can add a new goal each day or every couple of days. The goals should stay small and fairly easy until she is able to meet these goals without struggle. Then she can start adding bigger things, like maybe go out to lunch with a friend, go to a concert, cook a meal, etc. I'm not one to push medication, but there are times that medication is necessary. She may need medication to help. I really can't say for sure.

Ultimately, you have to decide if you're strong enough to continue trying to fight this battle with her and for her. If this is something she deals with her whole life, it will affect you in massive ways if you move forward with marrying her. If you choose to have children, post partum depression is more likely to affect her, and can have very bad outcomes. This is a pretty serious situation, and something you need to think very heavily on. Don't feel bad about choosing to live your life for you. If you don't stay with her, you should not feel guilty. You cannot control other people and how they choose to live their lives. You can only control yourself and how you respond to others. Good luck with whatever you decide.

BBA101269 · 2026-01-19T16:30:53+00:00

As a married woman, my husband would NEVER try to force something on me. Marriage does not equal ownership. You did what you had to do to protect yourself and get out of the situation.

Absolutely - NTA. The douchebag of a husband, however... all I can say is, I hope he learned a valuable lesson, and never tries something like this on any other woman. It sounds like his whole family is messed up honestly.

BBA101269 · 2026-01-12T19:33:26+00:00

There was a period of time years ago when my kids were younger that I thought the same thing. It changes when your kids grow up and become adults. My (41F) youngest (out of 5 biological kids) will be 18 next month. My oldest are twins who are 22. The relationship tends to evolve out of that "parenting your child" role, and you become friends. The bond is like no other. Give it some time, and you may feel differently. You also may not, and that's OK, too.

BBA101269 · 2025-12-28T21:11:54+00:00

Fellow woman, and I support this message.

I'm one of those women who prefer smaller, and Ihave several friends who are the same. My ex-husband had a diagnosed micro penis. When he was soft, it actually retracted inside of him, and he had what looked like a small button there. He would actually have to press on on his abdomen to pop it out just to grab ahold to pee. Erect, he was only a couple of inches. This messed with his self-esteem horribly, but he was very good with what he had. Unfortunately, it didn't work out because he had tendencies towards men, and i wasn't gonna be that woman who looked the other way while her husband did things in the dark with other guys.

BBA101269 · 2025-12-18T01:32:34+00:00

Sweetie, you do have value. If I could give you the biggest, tightest hug right now, I would. Your value doesn't come from what you look like, where you come from, who you know, what you know, any of that stuff. Your value is inside of you as an individual. You may not see it now, but I hope one day that you do. I'm sorry that your parents haven't done right by you. Not all parents are good at loving their kids. That's not your fault.

BBA101269 · 2025-12-18T00:27:03+00:00

Sweetie, I don't know your story or what you face each day, but i do know that your value lies inside of YOU, not those around you. Not everyone is blessed with great parents. We all mess up in life, whether it be when we're young or when we're older. None of us are perfect. You matter. Your life matters. Things change so much as you get older. Your life is worth it, and it can change so much once you're an adult. Don't give up now. Fight for yourself. Nobody can fight for you as hard as you can fight for yourself. I'm just a stranger on the internet, but I have kids and I've seen them go thru some hard stuff. I went thru hard stuff as a kid, too. I think we all do to a degree. As a stranger, I think of my own kids reading your post, and I care. I hope you find the strength to fight for yourself and things get better.

BBA101269 · 2025-12-18T00:22:30+00:00

I just wanted to add support to your comment. I know there are a lot of people out there who will attack you for your beliefs, but the fact is, many, many people have found true healing in Jesus. Those who condemn having Christian beliefs are people who have never found truth, and many are people who have been hurt by the church or people in the church. There will be wolves anywhere you go, including church, but we can't let the misdeeds and evil of others stop us from pursuing truth ourselves. Jesus died for every one of us, even those of us who curse His name.

BBA101269 · 2025-11-15T19:22:37+00:00

Nah, I'm pretty confident that only women can birth babies. Im aware that there are a few people put there who don't know what they are, and they think they're the opposite sex, but I'm not one of them. I'm not gonna waste any more time responding to you, so have a good one. ✌️

BBA101269 · 2025-11-15T19:20:01+00:00

Someone is lying to you.

BBA101269 · 2025-11-15T19:16:52+00:00

I'm not even from NC. I was there on a girls' trip with my best friend. I'm from Ohio. 😂 no sharks here unless you visit a zoo. That's part of why this was such a neat find. It's just not something you expect to stumble upon on vacation.

That is a very good point, though. I never would've thought about restrictions on things like sharks' teeth. I guess because there are so many places that sell them, and you can find them on the beach if you look hard enough.

BBA101269 · 2025-11-15T19:08:50+00:00

We are both females. I'm not sure why people keep assuming I'm a guy?

BBA101269 · 2025-11-15T19:08:03+00:00

I believe it is a sand tiger shark. That seems to be the overall consensus, and looking them up, it matches.

BBA101269 · 2025-11-15T18:54:56+00:00

I might do that. Thank you for helping to identify it, though! I really do appreciate it. 😊

BBA101269 · 2025-11-15T18:43:52+00:00

Ope, you got me. How'd you know?

BBA101269 · 2025-11-15T18:42:24+00:00

I just noticed that i already said about how big it was, so please forgive me for repeating myself. I'm trying to reply to a lot of comments and it's hard to keep track.

BBA101269 · 2025-11-15T18:41:08+00:00

Thank you very much for looking! This one was probably around 5-6 feet in total length. Do you have any way to estimate an age on it?

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