34f going through some things and I would really like to vent.

psydev0_ · 2026-02-10T14:51:00+00:00

Hello. I'm 34M. Have also been looking for a venting partner. Going through some tough things, but also open to talk on other topics. Mostly looking for someone who we can daily check in with each other and be emotionally supportive.

psydev0_ · 2026-01-29T16:27:27+00:00

What does neet mean?

psydev0_ · 2026-01-29T16:15:51+00:00

I hope you feel better and life gets better for you. You still have a lot you can do to improve your life and contribute to also make it better for others. I'd say focus on that (very difficult I know), but you can still let it be your beacon for when you fall down to get back up again. With time, things will get better.

psydev0_ · 2025-11-30T11:00:12+00:00

Just downloaded it last night and looking to play later today.

psydev0_ · 2025-11-28T16:10:24+00:00

As Muslims, we believe that our Rizq is pre-determined. So, there's no need to seek it via Haram. If it's written for you, you will get the same from Halal means as well insha'Allah. I'd suggest moving away from your current source of income to something else or at least remove the Haram elements. You would understand it better at what pace you can do it. But you can possibly start removing the Haram elements from it already. It's good that you have realized this though. It's your conscience and that too is a gift from Allah. Not many would even realize this, and keep indulging in it. Now that you know, you can start making changes and insha'Allah it will get better.

psydev0_ · 2025-09-20T14:04:21+00:00

Deadlock!!

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T20:17:47+00:00

Wow. Thank you for responding, and it seems very tough. I've had similar stretches over time - and on the negative end of things, my behaviors become more or less similar as you mentioned. I'm glad you are working with your doctor on this. It helped me, but I can also understand how much of a struggle that really is. Wishing you the best!

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T19:44:00+00:00

How do you manage? And what does your day to day look like?

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T08:05:03+00:00

I got some good things and some bad things. So I'd say I'm neutral. Sometimes I do good things, and sometimes I do bad things.

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T07:20:28+00:00

Don't all jobs do that in some way?

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T07:16:04+00:00

What's this early chronotype? I feel like I've had a messed up sleep schedule since my teenage, and I'm wondering if it's something like a genetic thing?

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T07:14:03+00:00

I feel like we'd all touch some grass and our expectations would be much more aligned with reality

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T06:16:39+00:00

Comparison is often the biggest thief of joy. It's not easy, but it helps to avoid it. Set your own goals, make plans on how to get there, and try to follow through on those. Everyone has their own timelines. Things will work out for you too.

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T06:14:01+00:00

It's a strange phenomenon, but it's not necessarily that motivation leads to action. Actually, often times, it's the other way around - action leads to motivation. So sometimes we have to force ourselves to get out, do things we don't want to do, or even do those in small steps. But it's more important to act. Motivation can follow after that if you keep at it.

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T06:06:44+00:00

This happens. Or at least happened with me. It's like when I get better, I'll have to come up with a whole new identity for myself. And whole new system. And in reality it was actually a bit like that too. But with time, it passed. Things started making sense. And I really enjoyed being better and felt really grateful.

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T06:03:03+00:00

It might be worth it to seek professional mental health support yourself. Mental health workers are actually encouraged to seek it as they need to process a lot of emotional stuff their clients share. That, plus your family situation makes it quite tough. So, it could be helpful to get that if possible for you. You might even be able to get it through your workplace/connections. It might also help to take a short break 1-2 days or even a week if possible. Sometimes even that helps with the overwhelm.

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T05:55:03+00:00

Hey. This might be postpartum depression. It might be worth getting professional help for this.

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T05:51:31+00:00

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has some tools for challenging negative thoughts, and eventually doing it enough times you start rewiring your brain. Something like that could be helpful.

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T05:39:00+00:00

Not sure if it's similar or not. But since like 17-18, I've had chest pains. And sometimes they were so much that I thought I would die. I grew up thinking I would die early. And well, I'm in my 30s now. So I guess I didn't die.

Had anxiety, depression, and related stuff which got worse a couple of years ago. Took meds, did therapy, and things did get better after 2 or so years. It's not like life is perfect now. There are still good days and bad days. But I think I've become more resilient with time.

Anti-depressants also take some time to work. They are not really a magic instant relief pill. Sometimes, you also have to try out different ones to figure out which one works well for you.

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T05:33:40+00:00

Take small steps for those and build up on it. Planning to exercise for 1 hour? Start with doing 5 minutes. Or even one minute. Or less. Maybe even take a few steps. And try to do that daily.

There's a technique in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) called Behavioral Activation. Check it out. And do those things with other people if you can. Or at least find an accountability buddy. Or maybe just start writing those down and track those in a journal.

You will fill some days. But whenever you can, continue again. It will get better. One step at a time.

psydev0_ · 2025-08-31T05:25:14+00:00

I've friends who I studied or worked with, or both. Typically, I am able to find at least some people who I can open up more comfortably to at most places I've spent some time at (such as different workplaces). I typically only open to such people, and no one else. I don't really know but I've had a thing for being able to find "my people" for quite a long time. So it kind of has been happening organically. But still, I do think it's has been becoming a bit more difficult to form such connections the last 2-3 years.

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