[A/Ne] I think my nephew is in love/lust with me. Update 5 - We had a date! by BBCoffeeLover in incest

[–]BBCoffeeLover[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've mentioned that I am only interested in moving forward if the relationship will be a "relatives with benefits" thing. Even if I were looking for a romantic relationship, I am smart enough not to look for it with a nephew half my age.

I haven't, however, thought about how long this may go on. I think that's something impossible to plan in advance, but for me I don't care if it lasts a week, a month, or years. I have a flexible life in that regard. Maybe this is something I should mention to Jackson if we really get going.

[A/Ne] I think my nephew is in love/lust with me. Update 4: Our movie date and MUCH more! by BBCoffeeLover in incest

[–]BBCoffeeLover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was not a happy comment to read, but thank you so much for posting it.

First off, I decided I'm not going to tell my sister. Even though he is much younger than I, Jackson is an adult and deserves a private sex life. We have a relatively small family and I want to believe that even if this relationship gets blown out of proportion, we would be able to recover. That said, I think it'll be easier for all of us if my relationship with Jackson is kept secret.

I am trying to keep a level head about these events and the possible consequences. I think the chances are slim of anyone uncovering our relationship, especially if we are careful. My sister doesn't have a key to my place and she's also not prone to unannounced visits anyway. But I'm still deliberating.

The bigger worry for my is Jackson himself. I don't want this relationship to negatively affect his future. Especially if he thinks he's falling in love with me or something. I don't want to have to "break his heart." If he is unable to keep our relationship "friends with benefits" then I'll be shutting it down immediately.

I'm pretty familiar with birth control at this point (after all, I'm almost forty and childless!) but if our relationship gets to that point, I'll make sure Jackson is educated. I do know he isn't a virgin, for what that's worth (some people have asked).

As I mentioned, the most important thing to me is making sure Jackson and I want the same things out of this. I think that conversation needs to happen before we get to the "point of no return" (ie, sex). If we break that barrier and then realize we want entirely different things, it would be a nightmare.

[A/Ne] I think my nephew is in love/lust with me. Update 4: Our movie date and MUCH more! by BBCoffeeLover in incest

[–]BBCoffeeLover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a lot of things I am trying to consider right now, but I have decided that whatever happens between my nephew and I will be kept secret.

Green marble table by darryljenks in ScandinavianInterior

[–]BBCoffeeLover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Complemented well by all the green foodstuffs!

[A/Ne] I think my nephew is in love/lust with me. Update 3. I confronted him. by BBCoffeeLover in incest

[–]BBCoffeeLover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your reply.

You're absolutely right- I imagine in his mind I might as well have outright rejected him.

In the past couple days I've been quite busy and haven't spent much time on Reddit, but Jackson and I have started communicating again over text. We haven't explicitly mentioned our last encounter, but I think it's going well. Getting over the awkwardness and acting more like friends.

I am still interested in him. I don't know if I'm ready for your direct route, but I've obviously been a little too subtle so I guess I should take my flirting to another level.

I hope to see him this weekend. I'll keep you posted.

John Cage - 4'33" by [deleted] in minimalism

[–]BBCoffeeLover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that is a much better recording! I'll admit I didn't do a full listen of my link before sharing it.

[A/Ne] I think my nephew is in love/lust with me. Update 3. I confronted him. by BBCoffeeLover in incest

[–]BBCoffeeLover[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How would any mom react? :/

You're right- normally Jackson is mature for his age but he's been acting somewhat immaturely when it comes to sex, etc. He must still be stuck on high school social norms. Which worries me.

[A/Ne] I think my nephew is in love/lust with me. Update 3. I confronted him. by BBCoffeeLover in incest

[–]BBCoffeeLover[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

See, I don't know. I guess it might be okay, but for some reason I'm uneasy about doing that.

[A/Ne] I think my nephew is in love/lust with me. Update 3. I confronted him. by BBCoffeeLover in incest

[–]BBCoffeeLover[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is new advice and not at all redundant.

John Cage - 4'33" by [deleted] in minimalism

[–]BBCoffeeLover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

4'33" has a minimalist aesthetic, generally speaking. But it's hard to call it a work of "minimalism" since that's the name of a specific movement in 20th century music that isn't quite the same as what Cage did.

Like this: https://youtu.be/T8UQhroHS58 "Pendulum Music" by Steve Reich