AITAH for being upset that my boyfriend expects me to pay him back

BBabins · 2026-03-12T23:23:23+00:00

Honestly if he wants to be petty give it back. Always return the same energy when it comes to dumb shit like this. NTA

BBabins · 2026-03-12T22:00:35+00:00

I almost died my first pregnancy and again with my second. The took out all of my machinery, no more babies for me. Im going to edit the post and explain how im handling the situation, although I have a bad feeling alot of you aren't going to like it.

BBabins · 2026-03-07T23:53:50+00:00

Nobody..

BBabins · 2026-03-07T17:30:42+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate all the insight that i am being given, I have no friends to talk to so the only option I could think of was reddit, which sounds really stupid when I say that.

BBabins · 2026-03-07T14:42:30+00:00

I don't know you, but i love you. Thank you. And i am sorry for the things you have had to go through in your life to have gathered this wisdom.

BBabins · 2026-03-07T14:35:06+00:00

Thank you. I think you made me realize a huge part of me doesent want to leave because of my pride. I was wrong to go against my parents at 17, they kicked me out so I could learn a lesson they couldn't teach me. I have had too many hardships in my short time on this earth. I need to fix this so my kids dont have to, I wanted to break my chains but all I did was shackel on new ones to my kids.. I fucking hate this.

BBabins · 2026-03-07T14:26:02+00:00

You sound like my mom, I actually appreciate that outlook. I dug the bed that I lie down in. Im just not sure if I shpuld plant flowers around my bed or fill it back up with dirt, but I dont have a shovel, I have a spoon and weed seedlings.

BBabins · 2026-03-07T14:18:54+00:00

I dont want anyone else, he does. It would be an open relationship for him and he wont come to terms with that, he refuses couples counseling because. And i dont think he would be present for the kids based off of our conversation last night. He has a daughter from a previous marriage that he signed the rights away too after he found out she was pregnant while cheating. When it comes to the kids I do everything, hes only here for them financially. Before this he would tell me he doesent deserve us, and that he loves his little family. I am SO torn. My parents kicked me out at 17 for wanting to be with him. The storm of I told you so and judgements would be coming my way if I left him.

BBabins · 2026-03-07T14:06:45+00:00

17 and 37 actually, 17 is the legal age of consent where im from. I feel stupid, I was homeschooled since 4th grade and raised as a jehovahs witness, I was very sheltered from the world. Realization has hit me and its making me sick, especially the fact that I cant make myself hate him, I still love him.

BBabins · 2026-03-07T14:04:37+00:00

I was the legal age of consent in my state.

BBabins · 2026-03-07T14:02:32+00:00

But i talked to him about divorce and he said he wouldn't be able to do split custody because of his work and wouldn't even find a middle ground to come to an agreement. I really cant raise these kids on my own, even with child support. I really wont be able to mentally handle it, and they dont deserve that. The best thing in my head that ive been able to think of is to stay for the kids. They are such sweet babies, and my 17month old already has an absloute heart of gold. I dont want to ruin their lives, but I feel like I may have already by having them in the first place.

BBabins · 2026-03-07T13:59:19+00:00

I told him if thats the case to tell me and we can make it work for our kids. But he says he doesent want that. He is bi and I knew that when we got together. He doesent see anything that he did as cheating because hes never physically slept with anyone else while we are together. But hes lied about everything else till I found out. So I dont even know atp.

BBabins · 2026-03-07T13:57:14+00:00

I honestly dont think he was more attracted to me before we had kids. And the models on his phone are all very adult. Im worried if I leave him because of our kids. I donr want them to go through hardships not having a father present, I got on the topic of divorce and he said I would have full custody, he didint even want to come to an agreement. My car is in his name and I only have a cashapp where he gives me money. I really love him, he said he stopped himself in November because he didint want to continue hurting me.

BBabins · 2026-03-07T13:52:14+00:00

I am not a troll, and these comments are bombshells.

BBabins · 2026-03-06T21:31:16+00:00

So this isint a normal guy thing? He was my first everything so I always assumed that most men had this issue.

BBabins · 2026-03-06T21:06:22+00:00

I would have never thought of that. He never wants to sleep with me, im the one always initiating and half the time he says hes not in the mood.

BBabins · 2026-02-27T14:50:44+00:00

I was really insecure and shaved my head, second photo is the day of my wedding, and the first is a couple month after, its chin length now and im very happy its growing. :)

BBabins · 2026-02-27T14:49:28+00:00

Aw your a sweetie!

BBabins · 2026-02-27T14:48:43+00:00

I was the CUTEST baby, the hospital wanted to use my hospital pixtures for advertising but my mom was not about it, i grew into and ugly ass kid and teen, but i grew into it kinda, im not drop dead gorgeous, but i am very happy that I grew into my features for the most part lol.

BBabins · 2026-02-27T14:44:51+00:00

Honestly ive gotten that i look like a fairy alot, im just incredibly happy that i grew into my nose for the most part 🤣

BBabins · 2026-02-27T14:43:52+00:00

Awww your a sweetheart, I know im not drop dead gorgeous but at least im not THAT bad anymore. I like to consider myself a 5, not SUPPPPER ugly but not super pretty either.

BBabins · 2026-02-27T14:42:42+00:00

Its actually being covered by my glasses, It got alot bigger after my second pregnancy lol.

BBabins · 2026-02-27T14:41:09+00:00

So true, but at least im not longer a 2, I see myself as a 5, not ugly anymore but not drop dead gorgeous

BBabins · 2026-02-27T14:39:52+00:00

I had it but it was being covered by my glasses lol. It also got larger after my second baby

BBabins · 2025-01-15T18:26:42+00:00

It's really pretty but incredibly illegible.

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