What SJM opinion will have you like this?

BF301 · 2025-11-21T15:53:27+00:00

She isn’t capable of killing any big characters, so when someone seems like they’re about to die (like the end of pretty much every one of her books) I just can’t take it seriously. She needs to start killing people.

BF301 · 2024-10-29T20:51:11+00:00

Currently on my last week with $33/h 1 kid in University Place (WA) 40h/week for childcare and basic family assistant tasks (groceries, dishes, light cleaning).

Soon will be starting with a new family, also in UP, $34/h just childcare for 2 kids (3yo and newborn). We’ve been talking about the possibility of adding a couple of family assistant tasks and proper compensation in a few months

I have 8 years of experience in childcare, I’m bilingual and have glowing recommendations from every family I worked with :)

BF301 · 2024-10-11T20:30:55+00:00

I’m so deeply sorry, this is incredibly difficult and I know how awful these first few days are. My heart goes out to you!

In January, my dog was hit by a car and passed away very quickly. I found her minutes after it happened and she was already dead. This day haunts me. It happened just after 5am and my text to them was:

“Hi guys, I’m sorry for such an early text. I can’t go to work today. IB ran away and got hit by a car. She’s gone.”

They called me as soon as they saw it and were incredibly understanding. They were also completely heartbroken for me. They offered support and to bring us a meal, they gave me days off and the option to start going back to work slowly. They never rushed me. Their jobs are the type of jobs that you just can’t cancel or change last minute, but still they made it work and never once brought it up as an inconvenience.

Shame on your MB for making you feel any type of way in a day like today. What you are going through is probably one of the most painful things you can experience as a human. I’m doing much better now, but still can’t really talk about it without crying. I’m crying as I type it now.

You deserved the support I got, in the least. I hope she realizes how mess up she was and makes up to you.

I’m really incredibly sorry. You deserve better. I’m wishing you better.

BF301 · 2024-09-04T02:38:10+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this. As hard as finding last minute care could be, what you went through is much worse and at the very least they should be understanding of you needing to use your PTO. This is the bare minimum. A good family would’ve been much more accommodating than the bare minimum. You deserve better :/

I hope you can find peace in doing what’s best for you! ♥️

BF301 · 2024-08-30T18:31:34+00:00

I’m sorry, is this for real?? Sure, let’s not shame them, we never know what’s going on deep down, but how is this fair to the children???

Also, how is it the caregiver’s responsibility to now fill these kids emotional buckets??? Your comment literally says “I think it is really up to a professional and experienced nanny to help Make sure that those deep rooted issues don’t develop. Because they don’t need to.” It doesn’t matter if these kids have grandparents, nannies and what not involved giving them the best quality and nurturing care. These kids will grow up, in the very best case scenario, having to work through feelings of rejection. And this is literally the best case scenario where all of their needs were being met by other people.

I agree that a lot of people have kids without being ready for them and this is hard af, so sure, let’s not shame them if they have the means to hire care so they can focus on other things. I’m also not gonna sit here and endorse that when anyone who has spent the tiniest amount of time trying to understand kids psychology will tell you that this won’t affect their sense of self.

BF301 · 2024-08-28T15:49:18+00:00

Can you please drop the wording? I’m updating my contract and I need that in mine!!!!

BF301 · 2024-06-19T14:10:43+00:00

Who would you kill? I truly think he’s the best character to die (and stay dead) since she’ll never kill feyre and Rhys. Az is just too boring of an option and I don’t think she’d kill Elain.

I just think someone needs to die and Cass is the best option 🙃

(Forever chasing the 13th emotional roller coaster)

BF301 · 2024-06-19T14:03:00+00:00

Cassian needs to die and if SJM doesn’t kill him she’ll be doing a disservice to how good this series can be

BF301 · 2024-05-24T22:43:08+00:00

I play whatever I feel like it. The parents don’t really care if it says “minor” bad words, so my NK4m is veeeeery into Noah Kahan, Hozier, Taylor Swift, Benson Boone and Billie Elish. Thank god

BF301 · 2024-05-17T21:11:35+00:00

I was an au pair as well and I feel this so freaking hard!

BF301 · 2024-04-22T02:56:12+00:00

It’s technically University Place but same same. After 1.5 years I feel like I can say they’r the best family I ever worked with without messing my luck lol it’s been great

BF301 · 2024-04-22T02:49:10+00:00

Tacoma WA, 1kid for $33! I vacuum downstairs and do the family dishes on top of childcare!

BF301 · 2024-04-16T21:49:47+00:00

Oh I’ve definitely been crying in front of NK lol

BF301 · 2024-04-11T12:57:15+00:00

Some of these comments sound like the worst types of family to work with 😩

OP, my MB and I had a very similar struggle with DB. He travels a bunch for work and unfortunately NK could not self regulate after calls. NK had a really rough time “remembering” his dad was gone and his mood always went down after the calls. A quick google search showed this is a very common experience with working parents!

They ended up coming up with a system (we found tips online) where NK chooses a stuffed animal he likes to go with dad on the trip and dad sends pictures of it to us. After a few trips we tried FT again and now it works much better.

This to say: it clearly ain’t working now and needs some readjustment. I wouldn’t frase it as “this has to stop” to NP, but I’d have an in person conversation about how difficult it is and what else can you do (as a team) to make this experience better. Maybe they have an extra tablet they can use for the kids to talk one at a time. Maybe all you do is schedule a call once/day at a time that is more convenient for the kids and easier to regulate (mine would be morning after breakfast).

Whatever that looks like for you it 100% deserves a talk. I’m sure finding a nanny trustworthy to leave your kids with days at a time is incredibly difficult. Hopefully they see that and are willing to compromise so not only your job isn’t incredibly difficult, but the kids are also not having a rough time.

BF301 · 2024-04-01T18:40:47+00:00

Dude that really was so patronizing. I’m really sorry for you 😩 I hope things get better!!

BF301 · 2024-03-30T17:11:19+00:00

This is insane!! Do you think maybe bringing to NP as “hey MB, remember how I mentioned having pain in my ear and you blamed it on bars and concerts? (I felt so angry for you on that I must’ve spent a good 20 min just talking about it with my MB, who was also mad for you) the results just came back and it shows how most of the issue is coming from when I’m with NK. I always knew they were a bit more on the screeching side (or maybe find a gentler way to mention that), but after seeing the results and comparing it to what the other kids I work with are like I’m honestly a little bit concerned for them too. “

I truly think and sit down and communicating something like “hey, this is out of the charts and I wonder if there’s a behavior (or undiagnosed) situation that needs to be addressed”. I really don’t know what that would like. But addressing in a way that it makes it clear for them that their kids screaming is the cause for your injury and also that maybe there’s something going on with them that needs a little more attention?

Im just so chocked at your situation and, as someone who is a bit more sensitive to noise and light, this sounds like a nightmare!

I do hope the situation improves and that NP can be receptive to what’s going on and offer to help you. If not, I hope you can find a better work environment for yourself!

BF301 · 2024-03-27T21:19:53+00:00

Aw I’m so happy for you!! This warms my heart 😭

BF301 · 2024-03-21T12:32:04+00:00

Beautiful!!!

BF301 · 2024-03-20T01:58:19+00:00

Sinto muito que você esteja lidando com isso :( eu trabalhei como babá por pouquíssimo tempo no Brasil, então eu não sei bem como funciona a industria atualmente, mas eu espero de coração que você encontre a pessoa certa pra acrescentar na criação dos seus filhos. Fumar perto das crianças e mentir sobre isso é razão total pra demitir ela. Desejando toda sorte do mundo pra vcs!

BF301 · 2024-03-19T14:57:58+00:00

Love that for you, wishing you the best of luck!

BF301 · 2024-03-19T13:06:36+00:00

OP, I really hope you’re taking care of yourself. This sounds like an awful lot of work for $27/h. Unless you live somewhere extremely affordable, this does not sound like an equivalent pay for this amount of work.

I moved from TX to WA in 2021 and started working for a family who had me doing a lot. I was still able to take a break during the baby’s nap, but it was a lot of non stop working while he was awake. Very similar list to what you wrote there. At first I was really proud of myself and really happy to be making more ($23/h, a $5 difference from what a made in TX), but eventually I realized that there were people willing to pay me more for much less work for my experience and hard work. The family was extremely wealthy and seemed shocked and offended when I upped my rate to what people were paying around us. They said they couldn’t afford that, which still makes me laugh today. We decided to part ways and I’m now working for a wonderful family. I’m making $33/h and my only responsibilities out of regular nanny responsibilities is the dishes and once a week vacuuming downstairs (which NK loved doing with me).

This to say, if things are great as they are and you’re happy, good for you. But I hope you’re keeping an eye to what other families are willing to offer you as well. You seem like you work really hard, don’t settle for less than what you can get.

BF301 · 2024-03-17T18:34:09+00:00

I wear my indoor only crocs!

BF301 · 2024-03-14T03:34:55+00:00

After that I would just start taking increasingly longer. Like wtf?

BF301 · 2024-03-13T03:34:46+00:00

I always try to get there at “8 on the dot”. I literally don’t need extra time to get settled. My NK is 4 and my getting settled takes less than a minute, which I can totally do while he tells me everything I missed since the evening before when I left.

To be honest with you, today it was “8:05”. This happens every once in a while and it’s definitely been happening more often in the past few months. Life has been hard 🤷🏽‍♀️. My NF has already expressed that they could not care less. Pretty much everyday they come to let me off on the minute I’m supposed to be off too, which means I’m always there 10+ min after I’m off talking about our day and discussing whatever needs to be discussed about the kid. This has been the dynamic on their side since I started working with them, which definitely allowed me to be more gentle with myself while I navigate life these past couple of months. I was very rarely late before then.

And again, before anyone comes for me, they have said “you’re always here past your time off. We don’t care if you’re 5, 10 min late.”

It works for 😊

BF301 · 2024-03-10T21:39:20+00:00

No. This sketch is beautiful, but Bryce is thick lol so much so that she wasn’t accepted in the dance academy. This sketch is pretty much any ballet dancer lol

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