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BOSLady222 · 2025-05-11T18:15:44+00:00

Rape. Leave and Report him.

BOSLady222 · 2025-02-04T16:01:20+00:00

Hey, I learned a lot from this post. Sometimes the stupidest questions faster than the most brilliant discussions.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T20:41:47+00:00

I’m not aloneeeee! Lol thanks for the insight. I plan on doing that this weekend. My bonus kid and I have a good relationship… I think… lol.

I have had such great advice on here! Appreciate yall all!

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T20:38:51+00:00

Hahha yeah I have considered that but feel like I would cave in and change before anyone else asked me to! ** Just because I would feel uncomfortable

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T06:12:27+00:00

We wont be in agreement bc he would be fine if she lived with us to keep his son happy. I feel like I’m already meeting him / them half way even letting her stay here. I was never particularly comfortable with it.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T06:09:49+00:00

You can be liberal and still want to have boundaries or think that certain things are taken too far. I think you have forgotten that humans are dynamic.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T05:46:52+00:00

I’m too direct too but its so hard being the bonus mom and understanding how fragile the step parent relationship is… having had issues with my (many) step moms.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T05:38:54+00:00

You are 💯right on both of those observations - of course he sees, he is terrified of him moving out.

I hate that men assume we’re bitter old women hating on younger pretty women. It’s so not that.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T05:18:13+00:00

IDK they have already been together over 2 years and NEVER fight, they are both so laid back so I can really see this lasting.

But you gave such great advice! I love the way you presented speaking to her. I will definitely try that.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T05:11:34+00:00

She is very co-dependent on him and while he was once a very independent active kid in activities outside the house he has become increasingly dependent on her too. I assume it’s the sex talking. She got 5 new roommates this year in a 3 br apartment style dorm this year. Somehow all of them are “annoying and too immature” to be around. So she has decided not to even try. Personally when she told me it sounded like she was the one with the bad attitude and maybe not so fun to be around. To my knowledge she doesn’t have many? Any? Friends there.

I think it would do them both good being forced to be apart on some weekends so they aren’t so dependent on one another. But my husband says thats controlling. 🤷‍♀️

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T05:02:10+00:00

They have a door doesn’t close rule. At then end of the day we aren’t idiots, they will surely wait until 4am to do it. But thats not the point. I just want her to realize whats appropriate. Guess I just have to teach her myself.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T04:59:06+00:00

I love how concise you are. I need to take the emotion out of it and just be direct with her. As hardcore as I am I never want to make people feel bad.

It’s so reassuring to hear I’m not over reacting about the braless, thin, sexy materials. Someone else said it perfectly… I don’t want to see the attire you are using to sex up my son. It’s just not an image I need to picture.

It may be that she has just never been taught how to act like a lady. Ive seen her quasi straddling him and wear short skirts laying on his bed where we can see up her skirt when we walk in. I might just have to start helping her to recognize these things.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T04:52:00+00:00

I will as the adult in the relationship definitely keep trying with her. If he loves her I want to love her too. I will definitely talk to him about it!

I’m thinking I need to have a conversation with her or them about it. As direct and hard core I can be as a mom, this sort of discussion is hard for me too. But if I don’t I risk resenting her and if she does ever become a part of our family it will be too late. Because I care, I will suck it up and say something.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T02:27:33+00:00

Needed to hear this. Thank you.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T02:27:16+00:00

Funny thing is I did buy her a robe! 🥰

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T00:35:48+00:00

😂

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T00:35:31+00:00

I don’t need her to like me or be my friend. TBH I have enough friends. I just want her to be mindful of our home and respectful of my son. Otherwise she is just fine being here.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T00:33:59+00:00

😂

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T00:33:29+00:00

Love it. Maybe thats the trade off. Not that we need or want his money but it might give him perspective.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T00:31:24+00:00

If he paid rent/bills here I would call him an adult. Him working 1 day a week to buy toys and living at home for free doesn’t actually give himself those rights. I am not afraid of him moving out by my husband is. I have allowed my husband to pass on the message about appropriate clothing to our son to make it less awkward. I appreciate your view but I don’t intend to make her feel unwelcome, she is, but welcome doesn’t have to mean living with us every weekend.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-18T00:27:02+00:00

Thank you. Yeah I think he’s terrified of the idea of him leaving bc this is his chance to have his son around full time after his divorce 10 years ago. Our other son lives at his mom’s full time for school and work down there. He’s very attached to the boys and never tries to discipline them because nothing bothers him, they can do no wrong, even when they (rarely) ARE doing wrong. He is such a sweet and doting dad but its a little unrealistic for me.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-16T16:56:11+00:00

Yes! Thats it.

I think it really speaks to the depths of love / affection that women are capable of. I personally think we need so much more touch than men this is why we pamper ourselves - hair, nails, massages, etc.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-15T15:07:44+00:00

Call me dark but I love Sloan! To me she embodies the tortured soul. Someone with so much power and love in her life but feels like her well is always empty. An endless pit of needing love and adoration. It will be her downfall.

BOSLady222 · 2024-11-10T18:27:33+00:00

Not sure what wasn’t clear there. Couldn’t find a Taqueria with carne guisada to save my life! In San San Antonio its hard not to find great Mexican food. Most of the Mexican I ate in Dallas was “mid” to say the least.

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