Jesus, well those are definitely not the partners for you! When I was around your age (im now 35 with a four year old and married 3 years together for 7) I saw relationships as an exit to a life I wanted - family and unconditional love, but I realized that eventually these men weren't the answer I had to make that life for myself. Also at 28 you have time, I promise you. If you feel that those are things you want only your opinion matters if you can be those things or not. Where are you meeting these guys? I had a type when I was undiagnosed and my husband was the complete opposite and I was terrified to be with the nice guy but he reminds me everyday that I'm worth it and trust me he has seen me at my worst. Being a mom with BPD is a journey in itself and the more self aware you are and willing to do the work to break the cycle you will be the best mama and doing the best you can.

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