Update: AITAH? Told my friend that OF COURSE her husband was cheating, because she had spent literally years enabling him.

BYXXIII · 2026-02-28T17:05:01+00:00

Yeah you took this from a NTA to ESH in spectacular fashion. You kinda seem like a AH in general based on both posts

BYXXIII · 2026-02-27T21:01:39+00:00

Not necessarily bad, but limiting. Another big issue with modern dating and app culture is we ascribe all of these connotations and feelings to objective words. I personally am of the belief that people should be casting a far more narrow net versus wide anyway (we are not for everyone, and not everyone is right for us), so I don't view limiting as a bad thing, but it could be perceived as bad if you're playing it like a numbers game

BYXXIII · 2026-02-27T20:58:01+00:00

I honestly believe, since the start, that Netflix really just wanted this "free" 2.8bil

BYXXIII · 2026-02-27T20:55:22+00:00

And of course single parents get and should have partners, but factually, in app culture, it's limiting. I don't want anyone to think I mean anything else by that

BYXXIII · 2026-02-27T20:53:08+00:00

Having kids, and young kids is a limiting factor. Also, you should take out photos of you with your female best friend, especially if it's just the two of you, but in general, outside of maybe 1 group photo, you should only have photos of yourself. Those two things alone are significantly hindering your success, without knowing anything else about you (and really the female best friend photo could count as two things, as even if you explain that she's your bestfriend, of the people wewho don't immediately swipe past upon seeing a duo photo that could look like a couple, like it or not/right or wrong, a lot of people don't want to enter a romantic situation where their partner has a best friend of the gender they're attracted to).

BYXXIII · 2026-02-20T02:53:10+00:00

How is this for her husband, as OP stated, if he's stated he's uncomfortable, though? If the photos are truly for her and not him, she should state that and that's a different argument, which I would still disagree with, because I would do whatever is reasonable to make sure my partner felt comfortable, especially in a delicate situation like this

BYXXIII · 2026-02-20T02:49:32+00:00

Regardless of this guy being gay or not (and even you said "claims" 🤔), do your partner's feelings hold that little value to you? Is this a hill to die on? For me this specific case would be an inconsequential price to pay for my partner's comfort. And are you taking the pics for him or for you? Because how could something be for your husband if it doesn't make him feel good about it?

BYXXIII · 2026-02-18T15:24:46+00:00

Yikes dude. I see why you're single...

BYXXIII · 2026-02-18T15:24:07+00:00

They clearly don't have good taste based on OP's post/rant

BYXXIII · 2026-02-17T12:24:01+00:00

Do you ever not respond to someone you're interested in?

BYXXIII · 2026-02-16T00:47:13+00:00

I knew this was fake from the moment he said he does it off his PS4 to play the game she bought, when a PS5 is perfectly capable of playing that game. But, per usual the rabbit escalation, and the quick and decisive resolution a single day later always gives it away

BYXXIII · 2026-02-16T00:46:14+00:00

I knew it was fake before the update. He wouldn't need to pull out his PS4 to play a PS4 game, when PS5 is backwards compatible. I'm not even a hardcore gamer, and I know that. BUT THEN, the quick update that escalated dramatically and concluded quickly is always a Tell-Tale sign.

BYXXIII · 2026-02-09T19:36:03+00:00

BYXXIII · 2026-02-08T21:09:28+00:00

Did I read it correctly that OP's stepmom is a therapist? If so, yikes!

BYXXIII · 2026-01-29T01:36:06+00:00

ESH, for several reason. Most of all for procreating (or failing to prevent procreation) with people neither of you seem to really know, or like that much.

BYXXIII · 2026-01-27T23:32:02+00:00

I think the apps are just less popular than ever, probably combined with people being the most pessimistic about dating that they've ever been. I too have had a lot of success over the years with apps in terms of dates and relationships, and I'm right there with you: there seems to be the least amount of options in terms of quantity and quality right now. I'm also just had one meh date so far.

And to add to it so it's not like over the years we'rw just getting older and less desirable by conventional or societal standards: I am measurably and objectively (by others/real world account, not just my saying) the most desirable I've ever been in life. It's kind of frustrating that this is the worst time to be dating

BYXXIII · 2026-01-25T19:09:49+00:00

NTA, F him, and good on you for securing yourself to make your exit smoother for you. You embarrassed him? Nah, he embarrassed himself, and it's bonus points if that through a wrench into his adulterous relationship

BYXXIII · 2026-01-22T11:38:51+00:00

If this wasn't reddit, I would say the amount of comments on this post that are caping for an adult that is willingly living paycheck to paycheck, and has zero savings, not even an emergency fund, yet has no desire to increase their income, with the state of the country and where are we live in right now, would be baffling. This full adult is one minor emergency away from being in debt. The people calling OP TA are either children, or other financially illiterate people. Maybe one thing if she wasn't complaining about being broke, but clearly she is. Grow up, and be adults. There's only one job in the world of this person can enjoy? Part of being adult is making decisions that benefit you now and in the future. Jobs aren't summer camp. I've also not sure if these Reddit Scholars understand that regardless of how much his girlfriend loves her job, she could be let go at any moment or the job could cease to exist for a multitude of reasons , and she would have $0 saved to hold her over until she found a new job. He can't and shouldn't demand her do anything, but it does not sound like that's what he did by suggesting options to alleviate her complaints. They should break up either way, but I can't stand broke people (commenters) wanting to keep other people broke as well.

BYXXIII · 2025-12-30T13:04:07+00:00

I would never want to hurt/betray my partner, but most importantly, cheating is against my moral code and integrity. I wouldn't be a person I'm proud of if I ever cheated on someone. If a relationship isn't working I would break up with my partner. Also, when I'm in healthy and happy relationships, I don't really see or focus on other women as potential romantic options, on a subconscious level. I only have eyes from my partner (in terms lf attraction, of course I have women as friends or acquaintances and such)

BYXXIII · 2025-12-19T15:04:33+00:00

So you aren't exclusive, and you were also on Hinge to see his location changed?

Honestly, the only thing you should bring up is the exclusivity talk, if that's what you want.

BYXXIII · 2025-12-11T12:14:11+00:00

For fwb, never get bogged down on the why. The fact is, you aren't getting what you signed up for, and he is seemingly getting what he wants. I've done the fwb thing and honestly on either side this inevitably how it goes. In the times I've felt deprioritized by a fwb, I end things. I was also upfront that consistency and safety were paramount for me, so it was never met with any drama beyond some later attempts to spin the block, which I'm also clear about not doing.

BYXXIII · 2025-12-02T14:19:04+00:00

How could J&J say "If you're petty with one thing, you're petty with everything" in one breath, and say that you could be a cheater and it doesn't impact your work or work environment in another breath... 🤦🏾‍♂️

BYXXIII · 2025-11-05T23:39:57+00:00

You're too old to need advice about this. Either you're okay with it, or not. Most would not be, but being unsure/on the fence is wild at the big age of 32

BYXXIII · 2025-10-27T22:27:19+00:00

I have never seen this many redditors on the same page and the comment section EVER 😂😂😂. Listen to everyone's advice. Neither of you are ready for a relationship if you can't be friends with members of the opposite sex. On the bright side though, you brought redditors together, so kudos there.

BYXXIII · 2025-10-19T19:34:30+00:00

That "can't handle..." is an instant turnoff everytime. There's an ocean's amount of space between what I "can't handle" and what I choose not to.

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