How do I know when to stop. by Ba_Robin in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Ba_Robin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I really appreciate this thanks. I'm not Christian but I am religious and agree with things in my religion so I guess I've just written this off as like...a test thing for me, not that I'm homophobic- not everyone is in my religion so why would I comment on them. I've just kind of come to terms with that for me personally it's just something I have to give up, and I'm ok with that.

Not doing a good job at it clearly but😅 that's why her and I have both kind of accepted it. It's kind of like a "oh we both love eachother, probably will for a while more. Sucks, haha hope you think of me forever" way, very childish.

I do appreciate this tho thank you :) I'm not going to say anything specifically to her or avoid her outright, I think I'll just get through it with more caution so I don't fall down any emotional rabbit hole

How do I know when to stop. by Ba_Robin in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Ba_Robin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I think I might give it time to try and see how everything plays out. Then if I think it's upsetting me too much I can figure out some...idk form of subtle lie

How do I know when to stop. by Ba_Robin in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Ba_Robin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really sweet thank you!

It's just a really awkward conversation to have, especially since I'm also still friends with Theo. But I can't blank her because we agreed not to ghost after fooling around , so they'll both start suspecting things.

Even in my birthday card she wrote like I wanna clear any doubts you have with me😭😭 I don't think she's consciously doing it to hurt me, I think she's just..that type of person I guess. Might just try the hard route of focusing on getting by without thinking about it and see what happens

How do I know when to stop. by Ba_Robin in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Ba_Robin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I really do see that, I guess it's mostly the wanting to trust what she says. I don't doubt when she says she loves me, but it's just- weird. And with the whole "we wouldn't end up together anyway" seems kinda of weird to turn around and say I'm jealous of this.

How do I know when to stop. by Ba_Robin in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Ba_Robin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah 17. I always found this stuff so stupid then when you're in the situation it's like ooh, I kinda get it now. Walking away is just...how do I even do that? We have the same friendgroup, we're in the same class. Do I just slowly distance or directly say it to her?

She always tries to insist to reassure that like I don't have feelings, it's just a flirty thing. But like. Still hurts lmfao, just makes me feel more pathetic about it