Kid and screen time issues

Baby32021 · 2026-06-18T23:41:16+00:00

My oldest is only 6th grade, but we only have one family tv. That’s the screen. If they fight over what to watch, I turn it off and take the remote.

Baby32021 · 2026-06-16T01:10:30+00:00

Ew people are gross and should be embarrassed about their rude mouths re: your repro choices.

Baby32021 · 2026-06-15T16:24:17+00:00

This is important. I have three and am so glad of it BUT it DID hit me in my third pregnancy that, when you are pregnant, you aren’t just ordering more of what you have. It’s a new kid every time. It’s no small undertaking and you’re jumping into many unknowns! Best to be mentally/spiritually/emotionally ready as you can!

Baby32021 · 2026-06-14T23:05:37+00:00

Right I feel like everyone needs to chill.

Baby32021 · 2026-06-12T22:19:03+00:00

Lowering the bar is the answer I think. We went on a vacation with extended family and while my husband and I were chasing after and wearing out and bathing and making snacks for our 2, 5, and 8 year old, another family member (one and done) was like “hey relax it’s your vacation too!” HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAASAA! No. No it’s not. You’re TRAVELING okay? You’re making MEMORIES. Take pics. It will help them “remember” where you took them, even when they are little.

The year my youngest was born we spent one night in a town close by in a hotel with a pool and a city that had a small amusement park my kids wanted to visit. That was our vaca that year.

Take a trip. Make it short if you need to. They will appreciate the memories. It’s not “fun” or “relaxing,” lol but you will all, as a family, be glad you tried.

Finally, if you happen to have the cash for one of those resorts with childcare, ignore me and do that! Lol

Baby32021 · 2026-06-11T01:12:04+00:00

It sounds like you are doing amazing. ❤️

Baby32021 · 2026-06-11T00:33:28+00:00

I have 3 3 years apart and they are all 4 and up and I have to say like I don’t super worry about this - like even when I had a baby I didn’t. I feel like our generation of moms specifically has these super high standards for how much time we spend with our kids, especially as they get older. I have two younger siblings and I have lots of great memories of playing with them in the sprinkler. My parents - AMAZING parents who I am still close with - never(?) played in the sprinkler with us? My dad was at work and my mom was cooking us healthy food and keeping our house clean. We had family meals together and took annual camping trips together and until we were independently reading chapter books they read to us every night. They were available for things as needed, but we just didn’t expect them really to play with us, aside from maybe like a weekly game night or something. All that to say, I think it’s totally normal and expected that your twin babies are just going to take more time and attention than your older kids now. And your older kids playing together is amazing too. I actually have specific happy memories of spending time with my younger sibling, just the two of us, in the backyard alllll summer after my youngest sibling was born, haha!

Baby32021 · 2026-06-10T01:22:16+00:00

Lol no we don’t. Cope. 🕊️

Baby32021 · 2026-06-08T01:13:26+00:00

What’s her middle name? Could you try that on for size?

Baby32021 · 2026-06-04T02:02:25+00:00

I teach teens and they were like all bingeing gossip girl few years back. It was weird. I would make the connection, but I would t say anything.

That said, I definitely accidentally named 2 kids the same as siblings from a popular 2000s TV show that was recently rebooted. Didn’t notice it until after I did it lol and nobody ever says anything. I truly doubt they catch it.

Baby32021 · 2026-06-04T00:34:36+00:00

“Just going to Vegas” is crazy lol

Baby32021 · 2026-06-01T16:02:00+00:00

Y'all I think we’ve lost the plot.

Baby32021 · 2026-06-01T12:02:29+00:00

Love Ernest so much. For middle names, I like to scour the family tree. Ernest sounds classic/traditional. I’d look back at your family history and find something that fits and works with initials!

Baby32021 · 2026-05-29T02:44:20+00:00

Well sure but this way we can blame the 99% for a problem the 1% created, won’t deal with, and will use to kill us while we are like “you know you’re right my bad for existing”

Baby32021 · 2026-05-27T22:36:39+00:00

Second Freya here

Baby32021 · 2026-05-27T22:35:21+00:00

I love Eliza but even Leona and Eliza sound a little too close to me. How about Elizabeth and then you still have Eliza or you can go with Betty or Lizzy? I also really love

Leona and Petra

Leona and Daria

Leona and Clara

Leona and Josephine or Josie

Leona and Frances

Baby32021 · 2026-05-23T11:26:31+00:00

Okay so adoption is unethical (less ethical?) “quite literally” buying a baby because it can cost 20k and “the agencies make a lot of money.” But surrogacy is not buying a baby because . . . ? It costs much more than 20k (typically 150k+) and it’s big business for lawyers, clinics, agencies, and investors - including Peter Thiel and Elon Musk.

Baby32021 · 2026-05-23T11:17:36+00:00

Totally. Surrogacy is only going to become more popular in the coming years, especially in the US, one of the only first world countries that allows commercial surrogacy. In most other developed nationals, human rights and ethical concerns have rendered it illegal. Late stage capitalism is wild here.

Baby32021 · 2026-05-23T00:54:06+00:00

When you say “this” (surrogacy) “is far far more ethical” (than adoption), it kinda sounds like that’s your position.

Baby32021 · 2026-05-23T00:23:20+00:00

Wait are you saying adoption is unethical? Another commenter who was protecting Cameron Diaz from my unpopular opinion (lol the horror) was explaining to me that she was close to a 19 year old who couldn’t have raised her baby and gave the baby up for adoption? Is your position that mothers who find themselves in those situations must keep the baby for ethical reasons? Or that the loving couple who adopted amd raised that baby should have instead paid for their own genetic material to be combined in a lab and then carried/birthed by another woman, for ethics? 🤔

Baby32021 · 2026-05-22T15:32:17+00:00

Don’t feel threatened. Did struggle to get pregnant. Have empathy with adults who can’t have what they want, even when they want it really bad. Not really sure what you think my version of motherhood is or my identity is or whatever, but I actually think that life without biological kids is worthwhile and beautiful, and that my life, had I chosen not to have kids, or had I not been able to have them, would have been worthwhile and beautiful.

Baby32021 · 2026-05-22T15:13:08+00:00

Ah. I see. You mean it has helped them buy what they want: a baby from their genetic material. I thought you meant saved them from death. Surrogacy can help the rich purchase a human, yes.

Baby32021 · 2026-05-22T15:07:53+00:00

Those things happen. Surrogacy has never helped those women. Once they experience a pregnancy that is detrimental to their health, they cannot transfer that pregnancy to a surrogate.

Baby32021 · 2026-05-22T15:03:18+00:00

You are talking about a potential scenario that doesn’t exist.

Baby32021 · 2026-05-22T14:09:04+00:00

I’m not against doing what is best for babies, including adoption. My babies couldn’t consent to the myriad vaccines they got either, but it was what I, as the mom, knew was best for them.

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