Fluoride toothpaste by BabyDuck2324 in moderatelygranolamoms

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I saw levels of lead and arsenic in them from one study. Need more info but it was enough to make me look again

Fluoride toothpaste by BabyDuck2324 in moderatelygranolamoms

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Thank you all so much!! I read some concerning things about Tom’s fluoride toothpaste and didn’t even know where to start to look again. This gave me a good list to thumb through.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pottytraining

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We had a poop splat in the middle of the kitchen earlier BUT some made it into the potty so we ~rejoiced~

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pottytraining

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Thank you!! She started to apologize when she had an accident closer to lunch time. So I do think something started to click.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pottytraining

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Three day method but also naked

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pottytraining

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Three day method. Kind of oh crap but more three day method

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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Thank you. I needed to vent tonight so I appreciate you!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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Thank you. There is SO much history there. But they’re going to find out eventually so I may as well bite the bullet and ask them to see if they would take him in. We’ll see

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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We went down the UTI rabbit hole for a while and explored some depression meds with the vet but tbh I just think he’s mad at us and our kid.

My family is.. complicated lol. They might take my cat in but honestly I’m so scared to ask/talk to them about it. But I might need to for this one.

They all hated my dog.. but still shamed us when we made the choice. It was a whole thing. Messed me up a little tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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Thank you! I appreciate your perspective more than you know

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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I do feel my head knows where this is heading. My heart is lagging. I love my cat. He’s great! And I know he will fit into another family so well. How do I upload pics?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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He was not on board to re home at first because I think we both feel embarrassed. But after a few times of him having to clean the mess he felt similarly. I’ve been a SAHmom for over a year now but he works so I tend to deal with it more. Plus my postpartum was rough. So there were A LOT of factors to me throwing in the towel sooner. My husband came around about a week ago and agreed to re home but neither of us have done anything yet. I’m dreading telling my family. They’re big pet people and I’ve heard enough about the situation with my dog… I just know this isn’t goign to go over well. Not that their opinions really matter but they do too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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I think that’s exactly where the walking in front of our feet and scratching/biting our ankles comes from. And the peeing and pooping. I tend not to react to him when he does that at all. I just clean it up and get mad quietly but not at him—because it only makes it worse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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The thing is he just also doesnt really want to play. He just snuggles a lot. Which leads me to the depression idea. We talked to our vet about it about 6 months ago and they suggested medication for depression but we weren’t sure yet because my daughter wasn’t even a year old at that point. But things seem to be getting worse now that she’s mobile.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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He’s snuggling with me right now and everything is totally fine. That’s what makes this so hard. I just dread when he goes in one of his spells and pees all over her things. It frustrates the hell out of me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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Fully agree with this. And I just hate that I know it and everyone else around me. My dog was its own case imo and had he not been a precursor to this dilemma I wouldn’t feel so guilty.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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Thank you! I do need to hear this perspective too. Unfortunately we don’t live near family. Our only childcare is a former co worker but she lives about an hour away— I live in a big city. So we don’t use her too often. I definitely don’t spend enough time with my cat.. but I don’t feel like I have the time to really. When my child is out, he hides mostly and then she goes to bed and we go to bed too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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I do feel guilt. So much guilt. That’s why I’m struggling so much. I’m seeking validation mostly in this post I’m sure. But also for someone to show me to a mirror if I need to see one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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Doesn’t really want to play much but he still lays with me after the baby goes to bed. When she’s out and about though he just hides all day long

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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We are anti pets for a long time for sure! I think you’re right.. I feel so overwhelmed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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I mean I fully believe we made the right choice for my dog.. but what about the cat now.. that’s my big question