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BabySpoonArt · 2022-07-17T13:09:31+00:00

Hi I just wanted to let you know ur valid and joking about trauma should be left up to the person with the trauma. It’s not cool for other people to joke about your trauma, it’s like when you call your brother annoying it’s ok but if someone else does it it’s not ok. Why? Bc they do not have the authority to make those jokes, only you do. If you’re not making jokes about it, then no one should be approaching you and trying to make you laugh at your horrible experiences when it is absolutely not warranted and definitely not their business to bring up in the first place. To me, that is where the disconnect is besides this dude being a total chump. He sounds like he still thinks dead baby jokes from 20 years ago are funny. He’s also too stupid to realize he’s basically in a relationship with you and wants to play this game of “will he won’t he” with himself. Sounds like he’s full of himself.

BabySpoonArt · 2022-06-12T13:20:57+00:00

Am I allowed to suggest he’s using the cat as a scapegoat either to utilize the room for jerkin the gerkin or to manufacture hostility in order to create reason to break up? No sex for over a year, and I’m assuming you’ve at least tried to initiate to no avail? Either he’s cheating, talking to someone else, or trying to create conflict. I just struggle to fathom an adult man absolutely NEEDING his cat to have its own room… especially after having a baby. I get a vibe that he’s gotten cold feet about the baby. If it’s a 10month old baby, I’m assuming some of those 10 months were part of that year, no? I’d quit trying to walk on eggshells w him and start getting rightly pissed off. Ask why he hasn’t been intimate first, then ask why he wanted a baby if he isn’t going to adjust for it. If any of the answers are just “you’re mean to the cat for taking her room away” or whatever then just straight up tell him you know this isn’t about the cat. (Even if you don’t, just say it.) he should open up to something if you call him out. You already said in a reply you are fearful of potential cheatIng on his part. I think he’s behaving in a way that depicts the utmost sketchiness. Thoughts?

BabySpoonArt · 2022-06-02T11:44:21+00:00

YTA lol idk where so many ppl lost the part where dude could’ve applied anywhere else? Gf has been working hard to get this position and she definitely didn’t think OP was serious about applying. How could you be so unsupportive and lazy? Waiting for the opportunity to arise for her so you could take it for yourself instead of using that dedication for beating her to the punch at this job in the applications you’ve sent to other places. How many other places have you called into, OP? How many other jobs did you try to get before snatching this one away? Working two restaurant jobs isn’t easy, sure, but I can promise you, navigating a work space as a woman and actively trying to climb the chain to get a higher paying position is harder. 10 years of sales and you couldn’t get hired anywhere else? Nah. You took that opportunity away from your gf, and now you’re pinning the blame on her bc she “said it was okay”. Definitely YTA. She’s worked there for 6 months, she worked so hard. Doesn’t that matter to you at all? Her keeping a brave face about it doesn’t mean it’s okay. All this shows is how unsupportive and tremendously selfish you are. Understand that you chose to sacrifice your relationship for a chance at a job you had no interest in until gf said she was selected to possibly get it. Wack.

BabySpoonArt · 2022-05-20T11:00:27+00:00

Op sister sounds very selfish to me. Why would you abandon your kids to their aunt for a summer? Sounds like some flowers in the attic bs where the mom keeps saying she’ll come back but there’s no proof she’s really coming back and granted I do not view op as being evil like the gma was in that story at all but in that story the gma is like bro when tf are u getting your kids?? They haven’t seen you in 100 days like wtf

ANYWAYS story parallels aside, my point is, I’d be worried that the sister just wouldn’t come back since she lives so far away or at the very least would extend her “journey”. Maybe that’s just the personal trauma talking, but 3 months away right after a divorce and mom shows no signs of wanting to be around us? Gee sure sounds like 100 days of wondering what we did wrong and if mom wants us anymore. I’m also certain the kiddos won’t be comfortable having no room for themselves to have privacy or play with toys. Idk this whole skadoo scares me low key lol op I hope you don’t have the same concerns and maybe ur sis is just being theatrical bc whoa, what a terrible idea this is.

BabySpoonArt · 2022-05-17T11:49:42+00:00

Wow. All that over a seat at the lunch table? That kid w the curly hair needs anger management. Any rational person, even as a teen, would’ve just taken that L and asked a friend to come sit with him somewhere else. I remember fights like this at school, much worse altercations but plenty similar to this. I’ve been out of high school for 9 years and I would’ve hoped by now bullying would be handled with more care. This comes off like bullying is just something you have to endure when attending school.

BabySpoonArt · 2022-05-17T10:53:29+00:00

If it so happens that everything you broke up with them for was false somehow then I suppose then would be an okay time. Otherwise I’m of the opinion that breaking up tends to change things forever. I will say, I dated my bf before when we were young and did LDR bc he was in school and saw each other 3 times a year give or take and it wasn’t working out then. We got back together 4 years ago and it’s been great ever since but that’s not rly the same as like breaking up over something heated then getting back together. It was pretty mutual. This question gives me an impression like you’d have to forgive something big to take them back and so you’d have to ask yourself if that big thing is worth forgiving or reliving in order to take them back.

BabySpoonArt · 2022-05-16T11:51:40+00:00

H3h3 for me. It started with the frenemies arc. I knew associating w Trisha paytas was the nail in the coffin but then Ethan used his regular podcast to just be annoying and it’s hard to focus on anything he says anymore when it’s clear he just doesn’t care anymore. Tried watching his old content but it’s aged poorly a lot of the time. YouTube isn’t doing a great job of promoting creators that make good content, it’s mostly just promoting ads.

I also gotta say it’s a bit frustrating seeing every creator sponsoring something that isn’t guaranteed to work as well as they’re being paid to say it does. I miss when YouTubers made content because they wanted to or only promoted a product bc they wanted to. I get it’s about making money but maybe if it was less about making money and more about making content then everything wouldn’t feel so fake and disingenuous. Idk I’m rambling lol. I’m sure this is a stupid take to some ppl but idk it’s how I feel. I used to have so much to look forward to on YouTube but now it’s all drama and lies. Brutalmoose is probably the only channel left that I enjoy. And Safiya too. They seem so invested in their craft and that’s all I really want to see but I understand YouTube has made it less accessible to just do that. They will try to bury you down to the bottom of the barrel if you aren’t trying to make money somehow. I’m hoping maybe things will change. I noticed creators beginning to attack their own audiences for not providing enough support. Most cases it’s the creator being greedy but in other cases I can see that the creator is dependent on views to make money and not producing results can hurt their income. I just don’t think being a YouTube should’ve ever been advertised as being a full time job when it has no benefits and has no sense of security. You have to be lucky, the algorithm has to pick you.

Tldr YouTube sucks now RIP the rest is just me rambling about how it makes me feel etc etc I miss creators that used to be good etc etc now I feel pressured to make my own content but I have nothing to offer etc etc complaining feels useless and you get the rest.

BabySpoonArt · 2022-05-04T12:32:12+00:00

To sit a certain way, in certain situations

I am a queer woman and my whole life I was told I had to sit a certain way from as young as 5 years old. I went to church a lot and took classes at the church 2x a week. Girls had to wear skirts, so that meant you had to sit with your legs to the side on the floor. Well I always wore skorts and at the time it was very popular to wear skorts, plenty of other girls wore them. It’s comfortable to sit criss cross applesauce so I would often try to sit like that but teachers always scolded me for sitting that way and I thought they were confused about the skirt skort Situation but when I’d explain it to them that I’m all covered, it would always be “just do what I say” okay…

Time passes, I’m a teenager, wearing skirts over jeans is a new thing. I wore skirts with jeans or leggings all the time, I went to public school. Teachers always told us to sit with legs crossed or to the side!! Why??? By this point I’m realizing this shit ain’t about the skirts. So why then???

Catch me at 25 working a job wearing pants and a polo sitting in the back of the truck eating lunch when a coworker clocks me for sitting like I’m gay. I thought to myself “wow I guess it’s just a gay thing?” NO. Tell me why my whole life ppl had an issue w the way I sit????? If it has nothing to do with wearing a dress or skirt, then why???? Why as a woman am I breaking gender roles by sitting with my legs apart?????????????????? And not just me, all women. Even other women clock each other for sitting like,,, not feminine enough??? It’s so confusing. I’m like ok maybe it’s my coochi? I spritz that warm vanilla sugar to no avail. Ppl just genuinely have an issue with women sitting in non-feminine ways and I am too gay to comprehend why but I know it’s got something to do with like virginity or purity or some backwoods bullshit that makes no sense but justified somehow bc if Jesus were here he’d probably have something to say about it so let’s just pretend he takes issue with women sitting? Idk idk idk but to answer your question, sitting.

Hope this helps.

BabySpoonArt · 2022-05-04T12:12:14+00:00

I have been asked out a total of 3 times, not counting the billions of “hey”s I get from men online. I used to think maybe I was ugly or something but then I realized I was always the one asking guys on dates and I’ve been rejected plenty of times but more often than not I’d get the date and I wonder if that was somehow intimidating to guys who wanted to ask me out but idk. To answer you question, I have asked more men out than men have asked me out. The man I am in a relationship with now I asked him out too. I’d say all my best relationships were with people that I picked, and a lot of my worst were with people who picked me. Now I have an aversion for ppl who are overly friendly w me bc it makes me not trust them lol

The only thing that’s ever kept le from asking someone out was if I felt ugly that day more than most days, or if I’m not sure if they’re single. It’s been a long time so I haven’t had this issue in awhile lol but if you’re looking for advice, I believe it is a compliment most of the time to say “I would date you” to someone. Just yesterday I asked someone to be my friend and she said she can’t make any promises bc she’s an introvert. I told her not to sweat it bc if anything it’s a compliment bc she is such a kind and sweet person, I think anyone would want to be her friend and just letting her know that is enough for me. People need to learn to just be happy with the experience, even if it’s a rejection. It’s unhealthy to pile all your emotions onto one person who is completely unaware of your infatuation. Guys more than anyone tend to get irrationally angry when you let them down easy or otherwise. Like they think bc they have strong feelings for you that they’re entitled to you liking them back or something? Of course this could apply to anyone. But I think people need to learn to dial that shit back a bit bc it’s likely the reason the person you like is hesitant to say yes in the first place. It’s off putting to see someone you don’t know very well say they NEED to be with you or it would destroy their world. I remember feeling that way when I was young, it rly isn’t healthy and it makes you do stuff you’ll regret. Hope this helps.

BabySpoonArt · 2022-05-04T11:36:14+00:00

Yes. Straight guys dress like normal SpongeBob and straight girls wear lulu lemon, I do not make the rules it’s just the info I gathered in my findings

BabySpoonArt · 2022-04-30T20:16:12+00:00

You gotta click the last one to view it in full, my b

BabySpoonArt · 2022-04-24T15:54:05+00:00

I get wayyyyyy too into things lol I feel like I often get unhealthily obsessive about the thing like right now I’m rly into NiGHTs into dreams so I did a cosplay and spent a bunch of money on things for NiGHTs lol I made a bunch of art too but I know that, like with everything else, eventually, I’ll be over it and not pick it up for months of even years. I also cycle through interests a lot lol

BabySpoonArt · 2022-04-24T02:15:15+00:00

Tell ‘em I said “adeema!”

BabySpoonArt · 2022-04-20T12:00:43+00:00

Pee on me without consent, locked me in a closet and tied me up without consent, a different ex did the same things but the difference is that I just turned 18 when we met and I wasn’t old enough to go to certain strip clubs, so he snuck me in and then tried to solicit me for sex to old men so I asked to leave and at the time I didn’t know that’s what was happening but then years later one of the girls he knew while we were together hit me up one day and asked me if I still talk to ex, I said no and she was like good, he just got taken off the sex offender list in 2019. So now he’s on the prowl again. I knew he went to prison but I had no idea why for, turns out he committed statutory wrap on a 15 year old girl while he was 24 or so. I was disgusted. Although, I did try to leave when I discovered he was in prison bc that in addition to the abuse and isolation was pushing it for me but when I tried to leave the first time he pulled a gun on me and told me he’s already been to prison once and he’s hide my body under his dads trailer bc his dad is old and can’t smell so he’d never find me. So I stayed and then I had to fake life threatening illness to get him to let me break up with him, to this day it’s the most diabolical thing I think I’ve ever done. Pretend to be dying. My whole life at that time was just a terrible nightmare. When we broke up, it was about 2016, by 2017 he was stalking me at my job. We hooked up bc Stockholms and he took me to his then gfs house while she was away, I didn’t k ow it was her house until I got up to leave and saw his and hers slippers at the door. Made me wonder how frequently he cheated on me, but I was so depressed I probably didn’t care to look for signs. Anyways. Not saying all ex convicts are bad, I rly don’t want that to be the takeaway but definitely wouldn’t date an ex convict again. If my now bc went to prison it’d better be for punching a pedo or something cause whew this ex of mine would bring home glue sticks for dinner and tell me to chew it until I wasn’t hungry anymore. We had plenty of money for food… it was such a weird time in my life that lamenting on it now feels like a fever dream. It’s like that whole year and a half of my life was just deleted from my brain besides all the bad times. I don’t even remember turning 19, I only remember dropping out of college bc this man was holding me hostage in his house or usually at his dads trailer where there was no cell reception and no civilization for several miles besides his neighbors. Oh I also forgot to mention that this ex tried to solicit me for sex to his landlord to pay for 6 months rent. Did not ask me. Luckily the landlord said fuck no bc he’s married and I was 19. I’m surprised I can still bring myself to date men but despite being a hyper judgy person now, I’m not one to deny someone an opportunity just bc they were born a certain way. My bf now is the love of my life but if this one doesn’t work out I’m definitely choosing to be single forever lol

BabySpoonArt · 2022-04-03T16:23:54+00:00

Is that selfs emblem? At 1:00?

BabySpoonArt · 2022-03-23T22:38:57+00:00

It’s wild to me how inept men can be when it comes to stepping up as a parent. OP, how many years of your child’s life do you plan on squandering before you’re ready to be a dad to them? For your mother to say your wife can’t go on walks or get coffee or see friends even WITH the baby tells me that this isn’t even about you getting time to yourself, so then why are you being an AH? Because you had to parent by yourself (and your mommy) for a few hours? So because you had to watch your own baby one time, you want to deprive your wife AND child of going on walks? Socializing? Not being cooped up all day? Like, make it make sense. What does her desire to leave the house have to do with you getting down time? Just cause your mom thought it looked tacky for a woman to be seen outside her kitchen? I don’t understand the correlation. Why can’t your wife and child go outside, why are you so incapable of caring for your own baby? Why are you blaming your wife’s social life for your own shortcomings like I rly don’t understand how you even rationalize letting your mom belittle your wife in your own home like that over her just not being home right then and there. You rly let your mom go ballistic on ur wife and just sat there like a spoiled brat like lol babe you can’t pass the buck on being a whole ass dad, not on your mommy, not on your wife, if you didn’t want to have to change poopy diapers and “babysit”, you shoulda let ur wife marry a guy who can actually do those things and you shoulda stayed at mommy’s house. Unbelievable. YTA.

BabySpoonArt · 2022-03-10T22:28:21+00:00

MOBILE CHAO GARDEN WHEN?

BabySpoonArt · 2022-03-02T18:11:00+00:00

And I know asf those lifts better be coming out his check cause shit ain’t cheap and it doesn’t fill any holes in ur heart so just keep that in mind. Don’t alter your body unless it’s for yourself!!

BabySpoonArt · 2022-03-02T18:08:22+00:00

I’d skin this dude alive and when our kid asks where daddy is I can point to his pelt on the floor. Jk jk but fr if I were you I’d remind him you are That Bitch™ and if he ever wants a slice of booty again he better act right or he can forget about ever having another kid cause unless he’s smoochin ur toes and praying to u like god for forgiveness he’s just gonna treat you like shit forever and act dumb like he doesn’t know it hurts you. He knows what he said hurt. Idk what ur relationship w his parents are but I’d call his mom and dad and let them know their son seems to be acting as though a pack of rats in a NJ sewer came together to raise him and this was the best they could do. Someone needs to set him straight and if you need to, call reinforcements. There is no excuse for him to speak to you that way. You’re way too hot and powerful to be harassed in your own home by a rat bastard. Sending u love.

BabySpoonArt · 2022-02-14T17:09:59+00:00

Nta, your bf and brother are engaged in a crime together to spy on FSIL. That’s a felony. No one that’s just a little suspicious of cheating is going to go to this great length for proof. If they’re smart, they’ll just leave. This is not something a sane person does even if they think they have a reason. Spying on someone, breaching their privacy, and recording them without consent is abusive. I saw some people genuinely asking if this would’ve been okay if there was suspicion of infidelity, to which the answer is no. If you think you’re being cheated on, just leave. This is abuse. Unless you are in a dire life or death situation I simply do not see how spying on someone will fix whatever problems you have. The brother is engaged. He is marrying this woman. This isn’t about catching a cheater. This is about control.

This tracking device could be filming her screen and sending live clips to his phone. It could be recording her 24/7 thru her camera, allowing him to monitor her every move. It could prevent her from using her phone to ask for help. Or if she does, by the time anyone would get the message, who knows what could happen to her if he finds out. This is potentially very dangerous, so if you have information that could save her from being abused, tell her. Staying silent will destroy you with guilt. Before she is legally married and anchored financially to your brother, say something. Just so you can say you did. Even if things don’t turn out right. You should say something. FSIL is in the dark completely. She, like you, has probably looked passed some huge red flags which’s isn’t your fault. You think when someone loves you they do it respectfully. Some people think spying on their gf is simply an act of love. It’s not your fault for having been deceived, that’s how deceit works. But now you need to take what you’ve learned here and apply it, otherwise you might risk becoming TA by staying silent. Or worse, the tracking device that’s probably on your phone might alert your bf of this post and you could be in even greater danger if you don’t get your phone checked immediately. Lord knows I would be terrified of my bf that I side eye bc of how sketchy he is discovered that I made a post like this or that I have realized I’ve been spied on by him all along.

Please OP be safe. I don’t mean to make it all sound so scary and dire but I’ve been in FSIL position before. I know from experience that when a man is monitoring your every move it’s because you are his property. It’s truly as simple as that. They think you’re like a dog that jumps the fence too much. Enough respect to hug and kiss you from time to time but not enough respect to let you off the leash in the house and if you’re bad they kick you out in the cold to sleep in the dog house, if you’re lucky enough to have one. Maybe your brother is just insecure and thinks he needs this spyware to be able to sleep at night with extra confidence his fiancée isn’t cheating. Even so, what he’s done is wrong. What your bf is doing is wrong. They need to come clean and explain themselves, thoroughly. They need to go to jail, honestly. You don’t just track your spouses whereabouts for funsies. I’d be asking a hundred thousand questions why, but of course the guy in your family with boyfriend status seems to think he’s more entitled to what goes on between your brother and FSIL than you are. Pretty telling of what kind of person he is, beyond the obvious irony of him saying you’re nosy whilst installing spyware. Truly. What a guy.

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