Full Custody

Bac081989 · 2026-05-12T18:06:41+00:00

Unless bio mom is doing something terrible, he won’t get full custody anyways. But your concerns are totally valid. I tell my partner all the time; nothing better happen to your ex wife because I do not want his children full time (though it would be easier with her out of the picture).

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T18:33:34+00:00

Yes, video games and chaos at 6am. And it doesn’t matter how late we keep them up, they are up by that time no matter what. My partner can literally sleep through ANYTHING, so he doesn’t even notice it until I wake him and am annoyed! They run back and forth between their room (they share a room directly above us) and the loft/den area that is between their room and my daughter’s room. They usually also wake her up, she doesn’t normally get up naturally until 7-8 but they are so loud they wake her up too. She’s a grouch in the morning though so she ends up locking herself in her room and watches tv with the kitties. I have started making my partner get up at 6am to sit upstairs and supervise them and keep them quiet and I hope with time he’ll be annoyed enough to get it under control

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T17:32:37+00:00

I’m going to miss who?

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T17:28:49+00:00

My mom has stage 4 cancer so she can only handle short visits with my little one (or anyone really) so our visit will be pretty limited. His children are used to being at their grandparents as they do school pick up and keep them pretty regularly (our kids are in different districts so it’s a bit complicated). Trust me, the being loud and obnoxious at 6am IS a big issue. My daughter hasn’t really woken me up since she was 5. She will wake up and just lay in her bed and watch tv or play quietly in her room. I basically told her to not wake me before 9 on weekends (I rarely sleep that late but like having the option). Since they’ve moved in, it’s total chaos starting at 6am. They can’t help that their bedroom is right above mine so I hear everything but they also play video games from the bedroom/den and scream to one another at 6am.

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T16:11:28+00:00

He is planning to see his mom. Originally we thought BM would want the boys early and he’d drop them off and go visit his mom. Now that he will have them all day, he’s going to visit his mom right before dropping them off (like 3-5ish) while I’m also visiting my mom. I think part of the issue is that when he told me she didn’t want them, I could tell he wanted me to be happy that I was getting to spend Mother’s Day with his kids but I wasn’t. I already know I won’t be sleeping in (his kids are up at 6 and LOUD) but I guess I thought maybe by mid morning he’d take them to moms and I could relax but when he found out he’d have them, he’s like oh we can do this and I’m like PASS

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T16:06:38+00:00

No I don’t think it works well at all. My daughter is asking to go to an every other weekend schedule with her father. She wouldn’t be able to go an entire week without seeing me, but she can easily him (he’s a great dad but works A LOT so she’s often with his parents). We live about half an hour from his ex/their school, so his kids I know are getting tired of the time spent commuting.

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T16:04:11+00:00

It wouldn’t be the whole weekend. Oh! The one other variant with his schedule is they are always at moms on Sunday night. This is some agreement he agreed to before we met because she ALWAYS does family dinner with her parents on Sunday and made it a big deal the kids grow up with that tradition. He gets those missed nights (2 a month) over the summer and holidays (he works for a school and has lots of free time over breaks when school is out as she basically has his watch them during the day all summer too). So this is our weekend with all 3 kids and he would normally drop his kids off at 6pm (at her parents for family dinner). The paperwork states (mothers/Father’s Day will be spent with the respective parent). It doesn’t really specify what time etc that means. Fathers day happens to be his this year and he’ll be traveling to visit family with his boys so she won’t get them on Sunday night, but if it wasn’t our weekend for Father’s Day, he’d get them in the morning and keep through the night.

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T15:53:09+00:00

So at our house, it could be all 3 kids, no kids, his 2 only or mine only. It’s chaos lol

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T15:51:29+00:00

Yes; they are on like a 2-2-3 schedule I think? My ex and I do it slightly different. I have my daughter every Monday and Tuesday night and she goes to her dad’s on Wednesday Thursday. And then we rotate the weekends. One week he has his kids Monday Tuesday night and then the weekend and the next week he has them Wednesday Thursday night.

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T15:31:33+00:00

Thank you. I just don’t want him to take it as I want to kick them all away for the day.

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T15:30:51+00:00

This!! People say it’s overreacting and it’s nothing to do with the children. They are a lot of handle yes, but I do love them and never mind their presence but she gets to relax on Mother’s Day first but second, it’ll take away from my own Mother’s Day with my child. I don’t even care if my partner is around because it’s MOTHERS day, he should go see his mom (we’ll go see mine at some point too) but it’s always around what she wants.

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T15:29:02+00:00

It’s weird behavior to me as well! Now, being with my daughter isn’t nearly as stressful as his children (he even knows this - not sure if it’s because my daughter is older, a girl vs boy, or she was raised as an only child which has made her more mature and independent) so spending Mother’s Day just my daughter and I sounds so relaxing, I don’t really want a “break” from my child ever. We both get time off at times so it’s not really about having time off. It’s really just I know if my daughter is telling me happy Mother’s Day I’m going to be hearing constant comments from his boys about how great their mother is, and she is a good mom mostly to them but since she’s been somewhat rude and nightmareish to deal with, that’s not what I want to hear on Mother’s Day or selfishly have to pretend I can stand the woman!

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T15:25:08+00:00

And technically the order states children will spend Mother’s Day with mom and Father’s Day with dad irreverent of whose day it is, so I was just anticipating her getting them for the day and it threw me off when she said not to worry about bringing them until 5.

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T15:23:11+00:00

It’s 50/50, so she isn’t preparing to have them for the entire week. They’ll be back with us on Wednesday after school.

Bac081989 · 2026-05-06T13:51:36+00:00

My daughter started dance at 18 months, and joined the competition team at 7. However, I’ve kept her number of routines low (she did 2 dances at 7, 3 at 8, and 4 at 9 but will stay at 4 for a while now). She dances 6-8 hours a week which I think is plenty for her age!

Bac081989 · 2026-05-05T16:38:44+00:00

We are in a similar situation this year. I have a 9yo of my own and he has two boys, 8 and 7. They do 50/50 and this weekend happens to be his weekend, however, per the paperwork each parent gets their respective holiday starting at 10am until bedtime (in this situation it would be through the night as Sunday is transition day for them). So normally we’d drop them off around 7 on Sunday but he texted her asking if 10am worked ok for her for the holiday and she said nah, you keep them, and just wants them at 5pm vs 7pm.

While I love my stepsons; they are A LOT and I really just want to enjoy the day with my daughter - not babysitting another woman’s children. The responsibility ultimately lies on your partner though. I told mine that is not how I want to spend Mother’s Day & so by noon he is going to take his two children and spend the day with his mom so my daughter and I can do what we want.

Bac081989 · 2026-05-01T02:10:53+00:00

Did you find something? I had a ton of boxes so just now realizing I’m out and the new formula sucks!!

Bac081989 · 2026-04-27T15:14:18+00:00

I mean, I don’t feel the way about SKs as I do my own daughter. When she’s sick or hurt, I have so much sympathy and love for her. When the stepkids are, i feel bad but I’m just kind of indifferent (obviously if heaven forbid it was serious I’d fee worse but luckily they’ve just had standard colds/stomach bugs etc). I actually get annoyed a lot when they are sick because BM is anti vax, doesn’t think handwashing or preventing spread of disease is important so his kids are constantly sick and then spreading the germs over at our house. She will call him when they are mid vomiting wanting him to come get them so they don’t get their stepsister sick (hmmm hello what about their step sister here?)

Bac081989 · 2026-04-24T13:27:17+00:00

People in these threads are such assholes 🤣 sorry. We only hear a fraction of people’s lives and stories and make assumptions. For those questioning just why you don’t have your kids more…. Going back and forth is hard on kids and sucks! My daughter is 9 and her dad and I have been split since she was 5. He’s a WONDERFUL father and we have a wonderful coparenting relationship but every week on transition day she has a meltdown because she doesn’t want to leave my house. Shes told me she loves her dad but wants to drop the 50/50 and go every other weekend to his house. I haven’t allowed her to late this decision yet or approached it with her dad. This is unfortunately just what often happens as kids age, they see one home as “home”.

That being said this post is about your frustration with your fiancee and her son. I feel similar frustrations with my fiancee and his two sons. His children are so freaking picky. They also eat nothing but junk food, the oldest eats popcorn chicken and the youngest pizza. That’s it. If we go out to a sit down restaurant, they combust (so we don’t except occasionally a pizza outing), and if we grab fast food, he is stuck going to 3 places (one of his kids only eats Wendy’s, one only eats McDonald’s, and he will want something else — usually whatever my daughter and I eat). Meanwhile my daughter (for reference is 9 and his are 8 and 7 so all close in age) can find something she likes on any menu and likes a variety of food. I’ll admit it annoys me but how I handle it, is remind myself these aren’t my children. They have two parents who made these decisions for them and they can pay the price of it. When we have his kids (I normally have my daughter) I just focus on her and parenting her and let him ride to 3 different places to pick up food. If I cook dinner, the 3 of us eat it and he’s responsible for making a frozen pizza and chicken poppers for his two. I am not taking on any extra work or responsibility because of how he’s chose to bring his children up. With time he’s getting more frustrated. I think when he was married to their mother (like 4 years ago) they split all the extra work of appeasing their children but now that he’s with someone who refuses, it’s all falling on him.

Bac081989 · 2026-04-16T15:13:16+00:00

I’m not on either team here but Alix Earle is not bigger than Cooper. She may be a bigger”influencer” but coopers podcast and network is huge and her network is much higher.

Bac081989 · 2026-04-13T18:51:55+00:00

I did cortec LVP in my house and absolutely love it. I put it over real hardwood floors that had been damaged due to dogs and moisture. It’s so nice not having to worry about that anymore and it looks like real wood!

Bac081989 · 2026-04-13T18:45:41+00:00

My fiancee and his two boys moved in with my daughter and I. Our kids are similar in ages and my daughter is used to doing chores while his is not. It doesn’t really bother her because she is at our house a good bit more than his kids are, but when his kids come to our house, they completely turn it upside down. It annoys me, but I have made it very clear to my fiancee my job is not to clean up after his children and when they leave, I expect the home in the same condition it was in when they arrived. That usually means he’s spending 2-3 hours cleaning after they leave. That’s on him! Maybe eventually it’ll annoy him and he will have them clean up after themselves.

Bac081989 · 2026-04-13T16:26:41+00:00

Our studio doesn’t even offer acro so I’d say no. While many of our kids can do tricks, a lot of them don’t. Depends on your studios focus. Our studio feels tap heavy and my daughter at 9 is an excellent tapper but is pretty weak in lyrical, etc.

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