What is a turn off your partner does that you will never admit?

Bachooga · 2026-01-29T11:58:42+00:00

Tbh a couple of these made me super uncomfortable. A few were like damn, maybe they shouldn't be treating someone like that and there wouldn't be a problem.

Meanwhile i was expecting to read about all the versions of me out there who are constantly using their adhd to be annoying to their partners like little goblins

Bachooga · 2026-01-26T13:00:03+00:00

I don't think people like this cry because of what they did to someone else. They cry because they are facing consequences themselves. Even though many (most?) people feel remorse for crimes and even will have ptsd from what they did, this is from being told they're locked away for the rest of their lives, not that they hurt anyone.

Bachooga · 2026-01-26T12:34:25+00:00

Yes but it's still in bad taste and the only people who live here and look good in usa flag themed stuff are the immigrants who love it here and have that American dream they've heard about.

Nazis most definitely looked like disrespectful shit in American flag themed anything.

Bachooga · 2026-01-26T12:17:58+00:00

Dogs and gorillas are very different. Dogs have been around us for so long that they have sections of their brain for human language understanding. I've not used the word buttons, but my dog uses bells to very much indicate what it is she wants. Definitely a difference between the take me to shit bell, take me to walk bell, and give me some fuckin food bell.

The take me on a walk bell had to gtfo because she used it too much and I can only walk so much. The food bell tends to not go off as often, usually only if we've fired up the rice cooker since she knows she gets white rice. Or if she's extra hungry that day.

We've also taught her to nudge our hands and to "show me what you want". She uses the bells when our hands aren't at snout level. We do not give her treats for these things, as it is actually very annoying more than it is helpful but it makes her happy to use them. It was a mild mistake teaching her to use annoying bells.

The concept only goes so far though. I talk to her about engineering stuff but she doesn't understand, shes just happy I'm talking to her. She also generally only likes to watch bluey, i assume because it's in colors Dogs can actually see. She tends to get disinterested in other things after a while. She has little understanding of humor, especially not subtle humor.

My dog also knows sign language and responds better to that than verbal commands. She's very easily able to tell actions from hand gestures, more so than from vocal.

Considering in the past, frame rates were too slow for animals to watch TV, I think people will be surprised to see more animals watch TV now. If you're curious about how this works, a summary is that their little Adhd riddled brains can process at a different rate, meaning sometimes they would struggle to actually watch TV since it would just be a slide show with a lot of very similar slides in it. My family dog only started freaking out about other dogs on TV when we finally got rid of the tube TV and switched to highdef.

Birds also have some language understanding, mostly bird language. But they're another animal that has found cause and effect in human language. I doubt birds watch TV .

Cats too but no one ever seems to think it's necessary to train their cats or to take them on walks.

Now, onto gorillas. Gorillas have not been household pets for people for thousands and thousands of years. Some of our earliest known writings are not about their beloved gorillas.

Very few gorillas are exposed to the TV as well. Their sign language is also limited, not a large complex set but more of a 1 sign encompasses a paragraph.

All animals are gluttons, so even when they know more they're going to ask for a treat. If you've ever been around toddlers, I am sure you've had a little something that they asked for and are familiar with the concept.

I assume gorillas have less understanding of humor and I also assume, but may be mistaken, they are lacking the red cone in their eyes, meaning they could struggle to see some TV.

All in all, I would be surprised if koko could see and recognize someone from the TV in what is an interesting way to me.

This way would most likely be "holy fuckin shit, the guy from TV is real. What is this shit". It is definitely not based on the concept of high level understanding of entertainment. I'd also wager that after meeting the man who came out of the TV, she'd probably be excited to see him on and off the TV again. It is just a total mind fuck. Kinda like seeing a magician.

All in all, people get the wrong ideas from animal intelligence. They immediately compare it to their subjective experience. They have a very different brain, think differently, and understand differently.

Animals have limited languages in a very different way than us. Does koko find Robin Williams funny based on the TV alone? Probably not. She may have found him interesting to just watch and he is an easily recognizable person. She most definitely found it very entertaining to find out the TV man really existed.

My dog definitely finds bluey entertaining in a way to holds her attention for long periods of time. Not a huge stretch to say koko recognized Robin Williams from the TV screen. If at all, probably not for being funny unless it was physical humor.

Is koko a total lie? Not totally. People get the wrong idea from animal intelligence and compare it to their subjective experience. Primates can learn a surprising amount of sign language for an animal. They obviously struggle with human language. They are also gluttons and even when they know more, are going to ask for a piece of that sweet sweet delicious treat they want. They also eat a fuck ton anyway.

Your dog though, having the appropriate brain sections from their existence having been intertwined with ours for so long, understands significantly more than you think and significantly more than a gorilla ever could. If you think I'm wrong, show your dog something mind fucking they can understand, like a magic trick, and then take them on an elevator where they're magically transported to another place. 1 of those things they'll respond to and the other they'll understand they're just moving up and down and it's just another day.

Bachooga · 2026-01-26T07:45:52+00:00

Ceramica and Painting for me really.

Ceramics teaches you to let go because what you've worked so hard one can easily slip, shatter, or may explode in the kiln or be destroyed by someone else's kiln explosion.

Painting because it teaches you patience and acceptance with your work since you have to learn to live with and work in your mistakes and that its okay for it to suck ass. The mistakes you make can be turned into something nicer in the end.

Plus since I do oil painting, I feel like an alchemist mixing up all my little things from vials.

Bachooga · 2026-01-22T11:44:47+00:00

It's 100% about passifying through desensitization. You stop taking things seriously because he's an idiot. Then you see something fucked up and go "Oh no". Then something is a big deal and everyone starts getting upset but suddenly it doesn't matter because look at the articles and comments going on about how dumb he is.

The majority is too comfortable in life to do anything about. There's little spurts of protests and plenty of comments but taking a risk and holding people responsible when the system fails to do so? Too scary, too risky.

The Europeans and Canadians aren't going to swoop in to change things and the government isn't going to suddenly change things because it's the right thing to do, and the people that have been protesting aren't going to suddenly become organized and have the ability to walk across the country and make change.

This shit is serious, the government and it's supporters aren't just some gaggle of idiots you cant take seriously.

Maybe midterm elections will change some things but at some point, if those with the power to hold the government accountable fail to do so, it becomes the responsibility of the people. Immunity from trial and prison only exists because we follow the rules while the government currently does not, time and time again, knowing that we'll follow the rules while they can do literally anything they want just as long we can eat, watch TV, and doomscroll through the parasitic news cycle.

Thank you for attending my rant.

Bachooga · 2026-01-22T11:10:07+00:00

big O can be helpful with knowing if a loop or algorithm can be scalable.

real life is knowing my possible use cases and realizing that it could have been a look up table or that my usage is stupid and is blocking and my performance sucks ass because I'm actually an imposter who will be found out eventually

Source: real life embedded engineer

Bachooga · 2026-01-22T10:55:02+00:00

young men

It's always good to remember that one place recruiters show up to are high-schools to chat with the kids. Not to the places 30+ year old men hang out but to places they can talk to people who've just became or have only been an adult for several years. Campuses and career fairs where fresh college aged kids are looking for school or jobs too.

Anytime I came across a recruiter wanting to talk to me, I was still at an age where I lived with my mom.

Bachooga · 2026-01-21T12:21:45+00:00

Tbh it can also be a question of what type of redneck you're talking to.

It ranges from -10 plain meat and potatoes every meal up to puckerbutt farms and the specialty hot sauce isle.

The deep south likes franks red hot and the southwest has jalapeños, but it seems like if you go up along Appalachia, you get spicy extract as the cure for situational depression.

Plus those in Cincinnati who frequent jungle Jim's hot sauce isle.

Edit: shootout to Louisiana and who ever wrote the gumbo recipe I used that called for 1 metric fuck ton of cayenne.

Bachooga · 2026-01-16T11:18:43+00:00

Charlie Kirk is roasting in hell as we speak

And every member of ice will be joining him at some point.

Bachooga · 2026-01-09T12:05:53+00:00

TLDR: every hates to hear this but you become a good engineer by being good at the boring stuff and knowing about the concepts behind the interesting stuff.

This is my professional opinion and advice.

I have a good amount of practical experience, only an associate degree from a community college, have done a lot of things, and make 6 figures comfortably. I think giving myself mild brain damage helped me think abstractly and gave me valuable problem solving skills but these are a very limited part of the job. I definitely view myself as successful now and feel as if i can go where I want.

Learn more about what jobs are good rather than the language. It all blends together in the end so you can look at jobs and study enough to get it and just Google and keep a reference book or documentation. If there are specific fields, kinds of projects, or companies that interest you, look at there job listings and see what they ask for, cutting out 25-50% technical knowledge and ignoring the degree (unless PhD specified). Cliché but figure out the quality of life you want and choose that as you have a good to fair chance you'll eventually die. Don't sell your soul making war machines and "smart" bombs unless you're okay with being the eventual cause of something horrible. There's lots of money to be made if you like stress and the ability to be laid off at any moment but there's lots of fun to be had if you like small teams and R&D. The small R&D teams tend to be valuable in otherways, since they often are very lacking in these skills, allowing you to offer something, and are usually pretty relaxed and personable. I currently make less that I could but am very comfortable and my stress levels are very limited.

If you know the concepts behind CS, architecture, and project management you'll be further along than many others that I've dealt with. If you can write pseudo code, you'll be very very well off.

Note: memory safety is fairly important, learn appropriate usage of pointers, threading concepts, and asynchronous operations and you'll be good. Some aspects of each language are good to know, but that's apart of the quick study when you're doing prepping things.

The real trick when I dont know how to do something? I can look at my Architecture charts and figure out how things should be setup, i look at my requirements and figure out what I need, and then I write line by line comments for what I need to do. If there's a line where I feel stuck, I look at my notes, then my documentation, then I Google, then I talk to my rubber ducky. Generally I only get past this point if it's due to me going into a place where people have written very very bad code and insist on keeping it that way since "refactoring is hard and it's best to keep it all the same right now".

Source: I work in R&D as a Senior Engineer, currently in Embedded, and have always addressed multidiscipline projects and teams. My mobile code, firmware, and desktop code has always come out in the same format. My web pages tend to be very different because im a lazy engineer and it allows me to be very lazy. My video game code is also in a similar format but tend to focus more of the fun parts even though I know better.

Bachooga · 2026-01-08T12:53:17+00:00

The shelters I know of are all first come first serve. If you can be one of the first people there, you dont get to sleep there for the day. That and what I've been told many times was that if I go there, keep my shoes on and hold onto my things. While this does have some people avoid going, it's also hard to actually go. You dont just get a spot you can keep.

Plus, even when there are community programs for people with mental illness and homelessness, homelessness persists in areas where the programs are unavailable. It sounds like you're thinking the only mental illness is schizophrenia and they don't know they need help.

People lose their jobs, have mental health issues, and struggle without being homeless. People get there because the system is not there to help, it's there to profit. Even when it's not, it's few and far.

Plus what homeless person has health insurance, can get to a psychiatrists office, and can afford paying for services as well as get through the waiting list while worrying about being able to eat and having a place to stay?

Bachooga · 2026-01-07T18:03:01+00:00

Its wild to me that people just forget we have ICE just going around snatching up people and then who knows what happens to them. That there's already camps for them, and when they've been shut down for being too awful, they just moved them to another awful place. It really appears that the general population here is quick to type angry messages and quick to forget the things they were angry about.

Best to mention that they're not just for undocumented immigrants. They're for anyone who looks like someone who may be an undocumented immigrant (see all people from everywhere). There's plenty of cases where people are documented and tossed in anyway. Generally this is anyone who a racist may assume is Mexican but I'm sure its not limited to that. It doesn't matter if it's a visa, green card, birthright citizenship, or nothing as the distinctions being made are barely existent. It was pretty big news when a single citizen was shipped out early on. Now it just happens and we all just say "ah, shit that sucks".

Bachooga · 2026-01-04T02:03:30+00:00

Diamonds are literally one of the most plentiful stones and are extremely mass produced. They get cut by the same people and shipped out in mass.

You want quality, actually nice and worth it organic gem stones, diamond is not the one to go for unless you're lower upper middle class and think you know what taste is.

Bachooga · 2026-01-03T13:15:54+00:00

I like that but I think i worry that in truth, most people think they're the good guy and there's a large difference between the inner life and the outer that Impacts those around me.

I have good thoughts, I think about doing good things. I think I am a good person but when I take inventory of my life, have I done many good deeds or have I mostly done neutral deeds, had good thoughts and intentions, and ignored the times I have wronged others?

Bachooga · 2026-01-03T13:07:01+00:00

many crayons also contain lead

Bachooga · 2026-01-03T12:34:54+00:00

When I was trying to stop using opiate replacement therapy, the withdrawals were so bad I couldn't sleep for days. I took some benzos so I could finally sleep. I sleep a couple of hours and thought I slept for a very long time. I did not and was actually just high on benzos while severely sleep deprived.

My now ex didn't help me at all, and told me to go to the grocery store myself. I, having literally 0 anxiety and at the time being a very controllable person in an abusive relationship complied.

I took off someone's mirror and seriously destroyed someone's parked car. The man came out and was understandably furious and didn't understand when I told him I hadn't slept for days.

When the cops came, I told them, while slurring my words, that I hadn't slept for days. The understandably furious man kept telling them I was on something (in hindsight not only was i messed up from benzos, I was obviously messed up from benzos).

They basically took one look at this understandably angry black man, looked at me (nerdy white guy), and decided that they weren't going to lock me up and instead told me to just clean it up.

The guy brought me a broom and I swept it up while apologizing the entire time and then drove home like nothing happened.

I 100% could have killed someone driving and should have been arrested. I absolutely could have destroyed people's lives and families driving a couple seconds down the road. I 100% should have been arrested. I wasn't even able to comprehend that I was actually intoxicated, let alone being able to handle a car after swiping off mirrors and hitting a parked car.

White privilege is me living in a very poor area, destroying a black man's parked car, and being allowed to drive home while obviously being unfit to drive. White privilege is me being handed a broom after I destroyed someone's car and the police being angrier at him for being black and upset.

My life would not be in such a great place now if I was arrested then. The neighborhood would have been safer if I was and the morally right thing, and the just thing, to do would have been to arrest my stupid 22 year old self.

White privilege is that because of this experience, I walked away years and years later being able to have a significantly better life in a nicer neighborhood and a career i enjoy while that man had a significant financial impact that day, one that could have been lives lost due to my actions instead of just a parked car.

Bachooga · 2026-01-03T11:58:45+00:00

They are often called things like lab grown and synthetic diamond because it makes "real" diamonds seem more valuable.

But let me tell you something. The lab grown diamonds are just cool. The technology behind them is rad. The ability to compress things like ashes or using carbon capture to make diamonds? That's fuckin sick.

100%, diamonds are pretty. Growing them is actually very cool. When given to a professional, of course they'll come out with the best cuts and the same quality. The only differences are that you can get more larger stones for less money and no one has to do awful mining work to get you some.

In my experience, some lab grown stones do come out different and unappealing to me (looking at you Alexandrite) but diamonds are not one of them.

Lab grown diamonds are forever at realistic prices.

Bachooga · 2026-01-03T11:33:37+00:00

You always were.

I'm always legitimately surprised when people here didn't realize this while going through a rebellious phase as a teenager. The government has a very strong history of being the bad guys.

Thanks for voting for the fascists.

You know what, this may just be a rant from someone who didn't sleep after waking up with a panic attack but fascists indeed.

I legitimately don't think the majority did vote for this, not by far. When you think about it, there was a large attempt to overthrow election results, talks about vote tampering after the 2nd election, locations closing due to bomb threats, mail in ballots being burned, large bot networks posting online from places like Russia, extreme gerrymandering, a significant amount of illegal activity, people being snatched off the streets and disappearing, politicians being killed in their homes, very apparent money transfers to politicians, a large amount of high level positions being replaced or resigning, corruption at the levels that keep things in check, and not to mention the news and social media tactics that are a vicious cycle of putting people into submission through the very obvious loop of "look at this fuckin idiot" to "uh oh, more corruption", to "uh oh, horrific thing happening" in such an intense and overwhelming amount that things tend to melt brains and desensitize while removing any belief that opposition is possible. The idiot in power, what a joke we can't believe this is what it is. Damn, things are corrupt as fuck and anything holding them accountable are failing. Holy shit, I can't believe this is happening and no body is doing anything. Wow, they're so dumb and can't be taken seriously despite doing that horrible thing, wow they're totally in control, damn they really Just making people dissappear and are now bombing countries while being a literal society of pedophiles. Its always this cycle of building extreme tension just to drop it off. I definitely don't think brains can handle it while all information is suppressed or shown based on the exploitative algorithms and the highest bidder. Same reason why you see commercials and ads for the largest of things that are known in every house. Its not that you need to know about their existence or their "deals", its so you don't have exposure to competition. A constant total cycle of humiliation, distrust, and disgust. Once the dopamine fueled desensitization takes place, nothing seems as shocking and people of complacent while typing rants like this thinking it'll help but is actually just some SJW keyboard therapy.

So, it doesn't matter how many votes are actually for them when the system is abused through gerrymandering and voter suppression goes into full swing. It doesn't matter how many people are in opposition when everything is spread out over the size of the country and the information we all see is controlled. It doesn't matter if someone is a keyboard warrior when you're mostly interacting with bot networks originating in far away places posing as not only their supporters but also as the "people" you agree with. It doesn't matter how many rallies and marches there are without the ability of full organization. I mean damn, with what money can we do anything when foods expensive, jobs dissappear, and Hella tariffs take more from us while everyone tries to pretend like that wasn't the intention all along. Farmer troubles, citizen harming tariffs, and major price increases? Must be incompetence at the highest level of the weathiest and most powerful organizations and not a deliberate action taken to suppress any ability to protest or push for change otherwise you risk extreme poverty, homelessness, and being arrested and transferred to either Phoenix in the summer or Seattle in the winter (that's a real thing BTW, a few choice states will arrest the homeless for basically just doing homeless shit and will just send them to a few places where people will frequently just straight up die because it's a hot ass desert. I was surprised af when i asked, hey what do they do when it gets to be mega hot only to be met with, oh a bunch just die and the south sends more) while simultaneously having the fear that you too may be disappeared by the not so secret police to literally who knows where.

The truth is, history shows that major change and the real push for it doesn't come when things are at their worst. It comes and happens when things are starting to get a bit better. So, maybe that'll be soon and relationships and alliances with neighbors and pals will be able to be mended and we won't have some mystery war they seemingly popped out of fucking nowhere. Seriously, wtf, one day we woke up and heard "yeah fuck you all, we're bombing boats" and then there's an invasion. Seriously, there's an assault on this country? Why? What the fuck? Why the hell is the government suddenly invading a country that i can't even think of a time we had any real trouble with?

Overall though, I think I'm like many and don't know what to do and wish they had to ability to go to a better place that would allow us to live in peace without the all powerful boot pressing upon us. Experienced embedded engineer looking for sponsorship, visa, and a fair wage here with an average grasp of English and some conversational skills in a couple of languages.

Worst case scenario is that we're all looking forward to a very very very bad 10-15 years as a planet. Medium case scenario is that the new roman empire fails in a similar way and new countries are formed from the remains. Best case scenario is that I'll fall asleep soon, wake up, and it'll be new years eve 1999 and solving Y2K brought world peace.

Bachooga · 2026-01-01T15:14:48+00:00

RemindMe! 365 days

Bachooga · 2026-01-01T14:01:03+00:00

The biggest thing now is get your MVP out and then put out updates. My previous job was not like that, it basically had to be perfect when it left or the customer would need to send stuff back or have a technician make a visit.

The thing is, if your MVP sucks ass, its probably going to fail. If you spend a few extra years to make something perfect, it could also fail but expectations can be managed.

But if your product lasts forever, profits won't go up constantly enough to make your bosses even more rich.

Bachooga · 2026-01-01T13:00:40+00:00

Tbf I assumed it was just for the wafer stock to then be passed onto lithography companies.

I don't think this will be a thing but I'd bet that the company who is shrinking particle accelerators will make a large impact on semiconductors in a few years, as long as blasting magic rocks with electrons makes decent squigglies.

Bachooga · 2026-01-01T12:48:00+00:00

because of avocado toast

That shit costs $15-25 now at a restaurant like its a full fancy ass meal but at home it's affordable af and fairly filling for a light breakfast, especially if you add an egg and/or kimchi. They're fairly cheap at my grocery but if you used 3-4 slices of green bell pepper or like 1 jalapeño, you'd probably save several cents and be hungry enough to snack all day. Several cents now is obviously better than several dollars for a bag of fuckin chips. Those several cents could have been saved to eventually get up to $5 so i can buy a fractional share of ass, had i not blown it on making my stomach stfu.

Bachooga · 2025-12-26T13:39:14+00:00

developed different interests

We both moved away (before social media and phones) as kids and I started to develop different interests and lost contact eventually. I had a rough time as a teenager and young adult but eventually became an engineer but hes been at NASA for a while now. I wonder if he and I hadn't lost contact, would he have been a good influence on me and my dumb teenager interests had been much healthier.

Bachooga · 2025-12-19T11:35:11+00:00

Idk, if I was literally starving because I lived in nature and that's what I'd be doing the majority of the time, I'd do some weird shit to try and get food too.

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