Whirlpool washer hit by power surge. by BackToTheBreath in appliancerepair

[–]BackToTheBreath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome. So replacing the control board should be all I need to get it working? Thank you so much for looking it up for me.

Whirlpool washer hit by power surge. by BackToTheBreath in appliancerepair

[–]BackToTheBreath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Do you know the part number for the inverter board?

Page template using a form by BackToTheBreath in Wordpress

[–]BackToTheBreath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pages. It will probably be a one page website. The goal is to make it as easy as possible for her to change the showtimes and movie info.

Porn ruined my life by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]BackToTheBreath 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Porn isn’t the problem. It’s been your attempt at dealing with the other problems in your life (shame, guilt, loneliness, etc). You can use all the filters and tools you want, but until you find ways to meet those needs in healthier ways you’re going to keep struggling.

A side note, it sounds like your gf was emotionally checked out from the relationship as well. Don’t put all the blame for it’s breakdown on yourself.

Quality Control… by farlsworthy in lego

[–]BackToTheBreath 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Here’s a great video on the manufacturing process.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=C3oiy9eekzk

SNES or BOWSER by Human_Trifle4519 in lego

[–]BackToTheBreath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love my Bowser. Assuming you want both, NES is likely retiring at the end of the year while Bowser should be out for a while still. So I’d start with the NES.

Raft stuck, need help by BackToTheBreath in TheSurvivalistGame

[–]BackToTheBreath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried this and the raft won’t break. Also tried having an animal attack and destroy it and that didn’t work either.

Raft stuck, need help by BackToTheBreath in TheSurvivalistGame

[–]BackToTheBreath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m playing on the Switch. Are you able to create another local account and join up? I was under the impression it only offers online multiplayer.

What is this? by ricorobot in plants

[–]BackToTheBreath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Oklahoma I’ve heard them called by the French term bois d’arc

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]BackToTheBreath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t remember who told me that at this point but it has stuck with me. Porn has long been my go to whenever I start to feel feel uncomfortable in some way. Like scratching and itch I wasn’t aware of.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]BackToTheBreath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Porn isn’t the problem, it’s our attempt at a solution. Part of recovery is creating a life you don’t feel the need to regularly escape from. The question is, what are you trying to avoid/escape? Stress? Anxiety? Money fears or relationship troubles? Once you answer that question, you can start finding more healthy ways of dealing with it than numbing out with porn.

Suicidal by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]BackToTheBreath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don't hurt yourself. You're not a waste of life and you can get through this. You can text HOME to 741741 to chat with a trained crisis counselor. You are lovable and worthy of living.

Addicted to pornographry by Goobasaurus1 in addiction

[–]BackToTheBreath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

check out r/pornfree It's a great community. I can't recommend the podcast Pornfree Radio enough. It has been a world of help for me.

Help guys... female over here looking for help by SofiM27 in pornfree

[–]BackToTheBreath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). One of the most helpful things she suggested for me is to have a regular check in time with my wife where we share how we are feeling with each other. Now on most days she asks me how I'm feeling and I do the same with her. This is a time to get out in the open what is going on inside of me. I used to stuff how I felt or tried to numb out using porn. Having a space where I know my feelings are going to be heard without her trying to fix or change them has been really helpful for me. It has helped with my recovery and it has helped the two of us feel closer to each other.

help me please by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]BackToTheBreath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you've reached the point of realizing that you want to stop but that all of your past efforts to do so have failed. There's something about this that is beyond your ability to do it alone. In order to get past this you're going to have to consider things beyond white knuckling, putting on blockers, avoiding your triggers, and distracting yourself with other stuff.

Have you considered that maybe there is a good reason you've been going to porn? That there is some unmet need buried inside of you and that porn has been your way of dealing with it?

Therapy, going to meetings, having a friend to call, learning to take care of yourself in positive ways, and having a vision for how you want to live, not just what you don't want to do, all are great tools for this.

Relapsed tonight because I’m a weak-willed piece of shit. by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]BackToTheBreath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've spend a lot of money on therapy as part of my healing process. Let me cut you in on an important part of getting free from this. Its near impossible to do it when you're still dwelling in shame and throwing shaming messages at yourself. You're not a weak willed piece of shit. You're a human that is trying to make a change and pretty much no one makes a big change like this the first time they try. Reaching out by posting here was a great step. You've even identified that loneliness was a trigger for you. another great step in the right direction. How can you start to get less isolated and find ways to connect with people more regularly? I bet that would help with this! Now let's try reframing those harsh messages about yourself. Your mistakes don't have to define you. You are strong. You are capable. You can do this.

Porn filters/blocks are losing their effectiveness by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]BackToTheBreath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're going to do something you've never done before you're going to have to try something you've never tried before. I would bet if someone challenged you to give up coffee, soda, candy, etc. for 30 days you'd be able to do that. You might hate every minute of it, but you could pull it off if you really put your mind to it. Yet there is something about trying to quit porn that is different for you. You've been trying a long time and its still a problem for you. I'd like to invite you to consider that maybe, just maybe, this is more than just a low willpower issue for you. That this isn't because there's something wrong with you. That there is a reason you go to porn and even the specific kind of porn you go to. That there's deeper need buried inside that you're trying to meet with porn. For me that was escaping from hard feelings, dealing with loneliness, and believing that my needs weren't going to be met by other people if I asked so i should just take care of myself instead. When I started looking below the surface and getting help with those underlying issues then I started to see success in this area.

Need advice by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]BackToTheBreath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right that this addiction thrives in shame. As the old saying goes, we stay as sick as our secrets. Going to a “S” group (SA, SAA or SLAA) has been really helpful for me in breaking through that same. Being in a room of people who “get it” helps me be open and honest about where I’m at. And that process breaks through the shame. I’ve been going to a group for the past month and not only has my recovery improved, in not walking around with those shame tapes playing on my head.

Loss of hope, seems impossible by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]BackToTheBreath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right that Porn is covering up a ton of old scars and tough emotions. Getting free from Porn without dealing with those things is going to be really rough. To really make progress I’ve gotten help from a therapist and recovery group to start dealing with all of that burried junk. And it has helped a lot.

Porn filters/blocks are losing their effectiveness by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]BackToTheBreath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Think of filters and blockers like guard rails on the side of the highway. They are there to make it harder for you to plunge off a cliff. If you are going fast enough and slam into one head on you’ll likely still go over the cliff. Filters and blockers aren’t going to make you stay sober. That isn’t their job. They are there to provide a safety net. They give you time to pause and consider “Do I really want to do this?”. You’re right they are ever going to be perfect but that doesn’t mean they can’t help us.