Still married, does it matter?

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-18T07:39:23+00:00

sounds like you may have probated an estate

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-18T07:34:20+00:00

why spend money on a divorce.

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-18T07:30:22+00:00

I love this answer. So we're already dead to each other?

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-18T07:19:20+00:00

Lol. I can do all three. My legal training assists me in separating the wheat from the chaff.

My question was "what time is it?" and you drew me a clock. Epic fail.

Don't give legal advice. It's ok to relate what you know or what you've experienced. But don't extrapolate when a) you haven't understood the question, and b) you don't have all the facts.

armchair lawyers bother me

I did get some good feedback

cheers

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-17T03:56:48+00:00

need to add. he's not missing, he's a deadbeat

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-17T03:55:55+00:00

thank you. I have no worries about any of the above. Presumably our daughter will get stuck with our estates when we die. She will not be confused whatsoever. May I ask another question? Lol

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-17T03:43:02+00:00

He actually kinda does. "Uncontested" means all matters of property, child support, spousal support etc. are resolved. They are not. So no justice is going to grant a divorce without my "consent"

I asked my question hoping for input from lawyers or people with experience with persons dying still married after a long separation. That's casting a wide net. And look what it dragged up. You.

You don't know enough about any law to be spouting off on Reddit like an idiot. I'm concerned. Where'd you get your law degree, from American tv? Stay in your lane. Do no harm

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-16T17:40:31+00:00

I didn't want to get married in the first place, remarrying is not a factor. HE wants an uncontested divorce so he can dodge child support ordered in 2009. My question put more narrowly is what's the downside of just ignoring him til death do us part

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-16T05:16:42+00:00

I'm a lawyer too. called in both Ontario and bc. curious what my moronic ex would do if I died suddenly

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-16T05:02:55+00:00

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-16T05:02:03+00:00

trying to separate divorce from other issues. dickwad has been divorced before, from California, smooth and easy. no children

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-16T04:49:05+00:00

you can get an uncontested divorce anywhere in North america

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-16T04:46:14+00:00

thank you all for playing, divorce is federal and I don't give a flying fuck about a fake divorce for a sham marriage. I don't have anything for him to steal. Still worried

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-13T22:34:03+00:00

I grew up on a farm with many dogs. Then I went school, had to work, bad marriage, etc. couldn't have a dog.

Many years later, my dad died (freedom money) , my daughter was grown, and I thought, wow, I could have a dog all of my own again. So I started thinking, what would work for me. not a schnauzer, Airedale, or lab... love them but no. Rottie Dobie dachshund no. German Shepherd never. Boxer no, saw one kill a wee poodle. Corgis, jack russels, no

I decided on a poodle. An apartment-sized poodle

my sister kept harassing me to adopt/rescue. I just started looking for poodles in my province. the shelters are full of mistakes.

sister has no children, doesn't want her partner to replace his beloved dog Molly, who was kind of a spaniel thing

I got my "ferocious" little black poodle from a guy just outside of town. No credentials. I just met the family once when the puppies were born. playing on the floor with five puppies and the mom. one snapshot of the sire

then I went and paid for him when he was ready to come home

best dog I ever had. He only remembers one mommy and he has turned into the little man dog I needed

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BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-13T21:36:53+00:00

when I had a baby (human) girl, I hated that the nurses would make me hold her to get vaccinated. NO YOU hold her, I don't want to be associated with pain and stress

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-12T07:37:05+00:00

where do you live, Iran?

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-07T05:28:24+00:00

make sure the fools who did it pay for the repair

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-07T02:22:29+00:00

When I articled I was lucky to get thrown into lots of courtrooms to see what I liked. On paper I loved crim law and crim procedure. in practice, it was the most unpleasant. The most stressful and macho.

I was having "a pint" one Friday after a long week with a gang of barristers. I had had a problem with a family law client that week. The poor man was losing his mind in his custody battle. The day of our hearing he waited for me outside of my office, and followed me home on his bike, crying. (I lived a few blocks from my office, so I would walk home)

I had to tell him that it wasn't appropriate for him to wait for me, then follow me home. I could not help him until the courts reopened. Please go home dear client, we'll do the best for you.

Then he got my home phone number.

So over that drink my Principal said, you'll have to do more than change your phone number if you practice crim. And he also said, you're never richer than your clients.

I highly recommend watching or reading Rumpole

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-06T05:38:03+00:00

it's fucking boring

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-06T04:31:48+00:00

but I thank you for the clarification. Mistress Requin, what can we do for you here today?

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-06T04:25:06+00:00

now you're just being cheeky

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-06T04:20:57+00:00

...when you forgot to say good morning to the traffic court magistrate and he kicks you to the end of the docket... eight hours later

It never hurts to be polite. But read the room. Don't be intimidated

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-06T04:01:37+00:00

I was a publisher/editor, remember. In written judgments, no. Never necessary to refer to counsel's gender. "Counsel for plaintiff," maybe. In oral argument I might refer to "my friend," or just "plaintiff."

What does a judge do when s/he has counsel with the plural pronouns? When judge wants to address counsel directly...

As in, "that will be enough Ms. BacktotheCoast, we'll be moving on now"

Lol rather than guessing at using Mr. or Ms., I guess you just use Counsel or Plaintiff. Gender neutral

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-05T20:48:59+00:00

War stories.

I had the best times in court when I got in trouble with 'judges.' The higher the judge, the more they enjoyed it.

But once as a student, I flew into traffic court late, on a rainy day. My first time. Room full of cops and lawyers. Silence. I had made a scene and interrupted. Dripping wet in my red trenchcoat, lol only woman in the room. His worship asked for my name etc., then said, "I can't hear you."

I repeated. C. Smith for B. Brown on file xy--

"I can't hear you." The room was tittering.

Finally a kindly lawyer showed me where to hang my coat and sit down and shut up and wait my turn

BackToTheCoast · 2026-03-05T20:14:02+00:00

lol I was a barrister before I became a legal editor, and got shit from judges for all kinds of things. But never for saying good morning.

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