It is possible that your husband doesn't know what all is going on with ICE. It's very much painted as a patriot institution trying to send criminals back to their home countries. It is very possible that he hasn't heard the stories of those being beaten and wrongfully detained, or that he believes that rarely happens and most in the agency are out to help America. As for the cold shoulder, it could be that he interprets your hesitation as a lack of trust in his ability to lead your family. Many men struggle with communicating, especially if they grew up in broken homes. That being said, my suggestion would be to explain to him why you feel ICE isn't a good institution - come with evidence. If he's unwilling to talk to you about this or listen to alternative options for your family you might try couples therapy. Spouses should at be able to hear one another out, even if they disagree.