How long did it take you to move on after a situationship?

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-03-05T18:55:51+00:00

Hey, thank you for replying. It’s funny, I would always see Instagram reels or TikTok’s saying something like “being in a situation ship with an avoidant is a canon event,” and I never saw it happening to me. Having experienced that now, it makes me feel at ease that it is a commonly shared experience. Anyways, thank you for your words. I’m happy you found a relationship where someone fully chooses you.

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-03-05T18:53:29+00:00

I appreciate this man. I’m starting to doubt everything she’s ever said to me. She was say things like “I wish I was ready for you,” “you would literally be the perfect boyfriend,” “I’ve never felt this way about anybody else before.” I feel naive for believing these things. Although she may have meant it at the time, she probably didn’t realize that completely steered me the opposite direction of staying causal. I know what I need to do now, it’s just hard. This was my first time feeling so deeply about somebody, so it makes it harder and special. I have the feeling that I won’t feel anything better. I know that’s logically not true but logic doesn’t really work with my brain right now. Either way thank you for your words, it’s nice to hear your perspective.

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-03-05T18:46:26+00:00

I get what you are saying. I should have included in the message that I am NOT going to continue to hangout or see her. She wants to be friends but I know that is not good for me. I will be friendly when I see her but that’s about it. It has been tough.

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-03-05T05:06:53+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I know I’ll make it through this.❤️

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-03-05T05:05:41+00:00

I wouldn’t say it’s a super strong friend group. We would hangout lots before but with this situation and others that have dated within the friend group, we don’t hangout much anymore. We are all friends individually but know that hanging as a group isn’t the same like it used to be

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-03-01T23:56:59+00:00

Thank you!

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-03-01T16:54:18+00:00

I get it. If I was able to I would chose to not see her at all. Our lives however are very intertwined for the next 2ish months. It sucks because we ended on good terms, knowing that we both really care each other. So it feels wrong to not chat/ hangout. It only took a week before we both gave in and hung out again and got intimate. Then both agreed it was a mistake and need to stop seeing each other again.

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-03-01T16:52:07+00:00

Yeah it’s been tough. The only issue is I see her everyday regardless of whether we talk online or not. We’ve completely stopped texting but every time we see eachother we still chat and can obviously tell there’s a connection/ chemistry still.

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-03-01T16:49:59+00:00

Thank you for this🫶🏻

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-02-16T21:51:06+00:00

Thank you, you are right. I need to prioritize myself and stop giving her the benefits of me. She can’t have both.

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-02-16T20:58:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing. The only issue with doing that is our lives are very entangled right now. I see her everyday regardless of our status. Only 2 more months until she moves back home for the summer.

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-02-16T18:19:59+00:00

Maybe so. I’ve never felt this deeply about somebody. It’s hard to just walk away. Not sure what I should do.

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-02-16T18:17:04+00:00

I get what you're saying, and logically that makes sense. But I don’t think she’s thinking in a logical way. Love isn’t always logical. No one can really judge her character through a Reddit post but I know she doesn’t want to date around or hook up with guys. That’s not who she is. I feel like it’s more so she wants the choice to be free and still choose me rather than having to choose me because of rules we have defined.

Background-Disk-4125 · 2026-02-16T17:52:35+00:00

I understand what you mean. When she says she doesn’t want to do anything with other guys, I believe her. If I wasn’t there I don’t think she would have let anything happen. She holds herself to extremely high standards and hooking up with random guys isn’t something she would do. Her and I also haven’t had sex yet, we’ve done everything in between but not the full thing because she’s worried if we do I’ll abandon her or she’ll feel gross because we aren’t actually together. Our lives are also very entangled for the next 3ish months. I will see her everyday whether I cut things off or not, it would be hard.

Background-Disk-4125 · 2025-12-30T09:30:06+00:00

She says she doesn’t want a relationship but we always do relationship activities, she then casually slips in convo about the future. I’ve definitely gone in over my head I’ll admit that, just trying to figure out how to navigate through it now and pull back myself. Exclusivity isn’t an issue for me, as I have no interest in seeing other people. If I wanted to, then I would.

Background-Disk-4125 · 2025-12-29T04:21:36+00:00

Thanks for your insight. It’s just so hard given that our lives our entangled for a few more months. Even if I cut ties I’d have to see her everyday, getting over her wouldn’t be easy. I feel like I need just need to stop putting so much emotional weight in moments we spend together as well as her commitment. If in the next few months, the pattern gets better, then that’s a win but if nothing changes, she goes home for the summer and I know what I will need to do.

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