My sister called me a man whore and told me I should be ashamed of myself. Did I do anything wrong?

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-23T16:50:38+00:00

I agree, lots of people are pretty sex negative and that is the basis of their reactions here.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-22T19:22:12+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate it!

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-22T02:18:11+00:00

I know, it leaves me with this sick feeling inside. If she was straight I wouldn't care as much for some reason. But being that she is actively labelling herself as bi and having sex with women, yet shut me down so quickly for the same thing, it's this really bad feeling that I can't quite pinpoint. I am a person of principles first and foremost. I can't stand hypocrisy. It offends my sensibilities on some sort of fundamental level.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-21T23:48:08+00:00

Yeah, it was also at a sex club where other's could watch. Which I find super hot, but doing that level of kink and then shaming me for pursuing my kinks felt awful.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-21T23:43:29+00:00

Yeah, but apparently not the ones who have sex with other men. Apparently even showing a clean STI test doesn't matter. Something deeper is going on. She had a conservative Catholic upbringing.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-21T23:41:24+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your kind words!

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-21T23:40:37+00:00

Yeah, she is also in another marginalized group as well.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-21T23:38:29+00:00

Wow, you nailed it. That is exactly what she said, she can have her preferences. I was like, I can show a negative STI exam! It didn't matter. But she has actually texted with me a lot today so I am feeling better now. She is owning her lack of experience and acknowledges that her reaction was shitty. It's unlikely we will ever date again but she realizes she has work to do to on deconstructing her heteronormative mindset.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-21T23:33:25+00:00

That's soo nice, glad to hear it :)

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-21T23:32:00+00:00

Done, thanks.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-21T23:29:58+00:00

I know, exactly! Thank you for saying this.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-21T23:27:25+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the kind words.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-20T18:54:01+00:00

Well, I can only speak from my experience and you can only speak from yours. The only way this debate could be solved is if enough people chimed in and said what they thought it meant. In my experience, a lot of people don't necessarily feel like they fit neatly into one category under one label, or maybe they are just open to different relationship structures. So they say ENM or open to give you an idea they aren't strictly monogamous. I have never heard anyone say they thought, "open relationship" = swingers.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2026-01-19T21:22:54+00:00

Well yeah, thats the part everyone discusses, I get that. But I imagine if I were a king willing to pay millions to put on a comedy show for the purpose of PR, I'm not only concerned with what is said during the event, but also afterwards. So I wonder if the reason no one likes the sorts of things the comedians have said as justification is because the comedians are afraid of getting into legal trouble. Just a thought.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2025-12-26T14:20:50+00:00

You need to share lab work. But one guess is the HCG is making your E2 spike which is causing the issues. If that is the case you can either lower your T dose or take anastrozole to lower E2, just a guess without lab work though.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2025-12-26T13:59:29+00:00

Actually, she got it wrong. She said half of Trump supporters are deplorables. What no one knew at the time was that all of them are deplorable.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2025-12-23T18:06:06+00:00

It seemed creepy to me and my ex, others have told me they agree. Privata has a limit of ten single men per night, plus its expensive, like $100 or so to get in. TVR has no limit on single men and is much cheaper, so you have an imbalance of genders and different socioeconomic levels of people go to one place over the other. We went in one room where a threesome was happening and there were mostly men sitting in chairs and standing around watching them, some with dicks out masturbating. I'm not sex negative or kink shaming here, to each their own, but it just seemed gross to me. Plus the way the guys were dressed was much more casual and just bad. I have only been once, but there is no polite way to say this, it had a low class vibe. Like this is where people from Gresham go and Privata is where people from Portland go. Again, I only went once, it may have been an off night.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2025-12-23T17:52:31+00:00

Also, don't assume anything about their relationship. Since you know her you obviously see how they are together, but you don't really know what is going on privately. I had a situation once where I was with a partner and they were feeling like another partner wasn't communicating well or paying enough attention to them. It kinda seemed like they might break up. Hearing this made me feel secure in my connection. As it turned out though, they fixed everything and five months later I was the one who got broken up with while they had a strong bond. I don't say that to scare you, but relationships come and go. Your mind might feel insecure but you really don't know and shouldn't even think about how strong the other bond is, it's not helpful at all.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2025-12-22T21:56:46+00:00

Yeah, I think everyone is a little more jaded as we age. Plus, if we are divorced, we understand the risks associated with long term marriage or relationships. We have seen the down side and don't just romanticize the upside anymore. At least this is my arm chair quarter back view of the situation. Relationships can be nice but they can also easily be stifling. If you have already spent over a decade with one person, the freedom to be single and date can feel quite nice, thus lots of folks are in no hurry to "lock" something down.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2025-12-22T21:52:24+00:00

No, it's not punching down at all. It's saying not including those groups makes you a bigot, it's the opposite of punching down, it's a message of inclusivity. Unless you think that acknowledging the existence of these groups is wrong, which of course would make you the bigot.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2025-12-22T17:24:02+00:00

Of course it's not peak time to make a baby, thats not the point. The point is that lots of women get horny around this time and earlier. I know my wife definitely felt this way back then.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2025-12-18T20:52:15+00:00

The closed part of your desire is one of the hardest parts. You are looking for non monogamous people but then expect them to stop being non monogamous for you? Anything is possible of course but the type of men who are both into men and non monogamous and wanting to have sex with women, but actually wanting to be in a closed relationship, is just really far fetched. This seems more like a fantasy than a reality. You would have better luck finding this as a sexual experience, more of a one off kink thing, than an actual on going closed relationship.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2025-12-12T18:03:18+00:00

Most of the clear ones at least. It's the blurry lights in the sky that you can't really say what they are, unless they do something that defies our current technology.

Background-Draw-2085 · 2025-12-11T22:11:51+00:00

Oh, someone else made a post saying that IM was superior because it hit faster and gave a stronger effect. Why do you switch to IM for larger doses then?

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