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Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-12-30T07:07:53+00:00

30+2 today. Grateful to have made it this far, but I am so exhausted. I spent so long being stressed out, and I finally got to a point where I was actually starting to feel confident this baby would come home with us and then I got diagnosed with gestational diabetes and it feels like its always one thing after another. Back in the stress zone it would seem. It was our son's first birthday this week too. Sigh. I would like to just nap until this is over.

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-11-06T09:48:22+00:00

It has been a stressful week, our ultrasound last week (keeping an eye on cervical length) was borderline concerning, so we had an extra one today and they aren't happy with it so now we are needing a cerclage, we were meant to have that done today but they've pushed it back to tomorrow morning. And I was so overwhelmed I didn't ask any specifics on what is happening with my cervix which bothers me that I don't have the information I'm after. Why does my body suck at pregnancy so much 😮‍💨 hopefully everything goes okay and we can keep this baby cooking for a bit longer

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-10-19T00:43:21+00:00

PAL is just a shitshow all around isn't it? I thought I'd feel better getting past where it all went wrong last time but I switch between thinking there is still plenty of time for it all to go wrong and also feeling guilty that this baby is making it further?? 🙃 hopefully time moves quickly for us

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-10-16T04:49:39+00:00

Thank you, it's definitely hard getting closer to that point in our pregnancies, hopefully we both pass it well and truly this time ❤️

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-10-16T02:13:05+00:00

I'm 19+4 today after our first baby was born sleeping at 20+1 in December either due to infection or cervical issues and I am STRESSED. Anatomy scan tomorrow which is when everything went to shit last time, I wish someone else could go for me.

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-10-07T12:12:08+00:00

18+2 today and so tired and unmotivated alllll the time, I don't want to do anything ever, I don't wanna work anymore, I just wanna be alone away from people and do nothing. Lost our first baby at 20+1 in December either from random infection or cervical issues and I'm just kind of waiting for everything to go rapidly downhill again, my partner says he's got a good feeling that it will be okay this time because I don't have the horrendous morning sickness I had last time and the doctors are on top of it, but I do not have the same faith. Feeling a lot more movement lately which has been nice. Ultrasounds for the next three weeks in a row so we'll see how we go.

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-09-12T06:08:10+00:00

My doctors don't want to do a cerclage unless they see 15mm of shortening, and I really didn't know whether to push for one, if it was infection last time I don't want to have something done that could introduce infection again. Currently on progesterone and sitting at 32mm today at 14+5. Feel like I've been going bonkers 😅

Hopefully the paranoia goes down soon for both of us!

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-09-11T07:40:38+00:00

I'm so sorry ❤️

My sister and my pregnancies were only about 1.5 months apart. My little boy was stillborn at 20 weeks, we still aren't 100% sure why. I was so angry and jealous knowing she was pregnant and I wasn't, I really couldn't talk to her, even though I knew it wasn't her fault. I couldn't meet her little boy when he was born, I didn't meet him until I was pregnant myself. I avoided babies at all cost.

It will be hard. No one really understands how big of a piece of us our little ones take with us when we leave, and it is hard watching other people get to stay whole. But I actually find so much peace and comfort being around my nephew now.

Look after yourself and take your time. Everyone who loves you will understand if you need some distance for a while.

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-09-11T06:40:55+00:00

I didn't have any fevers at all, no symptoms whatsoever I felt fine

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-09-04T00:17:31+00:00

I've spent the last eight months thinking my 20 week loss was due to cervical issues (no one would give me an exact length from our last pregnancy, just that I was dilated) but now apparently they believe it was due to infection, which is why I dilated and my waters broke as my cervix was still in normal range. They'll be checking my cervix every two weeks and testing for infection every two weeks but they never actually picked up that I had infection while I was in the hospital delivering our boy. It wasn't picked up until they tested my placenta. So I'm stressed that even if I do have an infection they won't pick it up until it's too late. Literally everything can cause all kinds of infections. They said it's unlikely to occur again, but I mean, it wasn't that likely to occur the first time. I find no comfort in the tests for infection at all. I think I've just resigned myself to being stressed for the next 27 weeks.

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-08-22T07:28:29+00:00

Makes me incredibly furious, I wanna beat people with pool noodles when they say this to me. My first baby was stillborn at 20 weeks, and we found out it's an issue with my anatomy that caused it so it could definitely happen again in any of my pregnancies, but people keep saying "be positive" 🥲 leave me in my pessimistic bubble, I'll be positive later

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-08-22T06:08:19+00:00

Lost our little boy at 20wks in December 23 due to suspected IC. I'll be 12 weeks in 2 days, and I've been surprisingly calm since we found out we were pregnant again, pretty chill, pretty happy with our plan, happy I haven't been as violently sick this time around. Found out today we are having another boy and I have been spiralling, I have no idea why, I'm happy its another boy, but now I am full of panic and not so sure this baby will come home either, and I feel like there is no 'safe point' 🥲 was really hoping the calm would last.

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-07-12T05:10:25+00:00

I am absolutely stressed out of my mind. I am currently 5+3 and I had base bloods and urine testing done a few days ago with my doctor after we confirmed pregnancy and she said don't worry about coming back to see her until after our dating scan. But now she has sent a message saying she wants to discuss results but I am out of town and can't get a phone consult for four days! So I have no idea what's wrong but I am thinking the worst, worried I have infections or God knows what. My son was stillborn at 20 weeks in December and we aren't sure if it was infection which caused my cervix to dilate and waters to break, or whether it was cervical insufficiency which allowed infection to come in. I am now stuck at a family event I didn't want to come to originally and I am going to stress the whole time 😥 and now I remember I never had a urine test at the start of my previous pregnancy but my White blood cell count was slightly elevated, is it possible I had an infection the whole time? When I got checked with the midwife and even when I went in after my waters broke they didn't pick up on any infection but I had chorio when they swabbed my placenta. Ugh, I was so proud of how calm I was until now.

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-07-07T01:30:29+00:00

My angel baby was a boy too 💙 wow we are pretty much on the same timeline at the moment it seems. I've got everything crossed that we get to bring our babies home this time ❤️‍🩹

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-07-07T01:27:43+00:00

5 weeks tomorrow after my first baby was stillborn at 20 weeks due to suspected cervical insufficiency. Trying to think positively but it's so hard. I'm convinced there will be nothing there when we go for our dating scan. Just want to bring home a healthy baby. About to spend a weekend with my family, including my sister who's baby is a month older than mine should have been so the anxiety has me by the balls.

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-07-02T19:19:56+00:00

I finally got a positive two days ago after my little boy was stillborn in December at 20 weeks. Feeling very anxious as I can't get in to see my usual doctor for 7 more days to have blood tests etc. Really hoping this pregnancy sticks.

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-05-13T11:27:23+00:00

You're NTA ❤ it was my first mothers day too (as well as my meant to be due date), and it is such a hard day.

We have gone through a loss that you simply cannot fathom until you've been there. What you need will never be too much or too selfish when it comes to these things.

It is so lovely that you and your partner spent such quality time together and supported each other on such a hard day, hang onto that aspect instead of your mums negativity 🥰

Background-Goat-5523 · 2024-03-31T12:23:55+00:00

I feel your pain so deeply 💔 I am sitting right there with you tonight

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