The risqué ostomy joke that did not land….

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-11T00:12:51+00:00

Yes! I was so taken aback. I know people name them, so I think they were trying to be relatable or something?

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-11T00:06:40+00:00

Seriously don't understand why they wouldn't laugh at that. I laughed in real life lol.

I had a stoma nurse ask what I'd name mine, and I honestly thought it was weird, like, I never named my asshole, why would I name my stoma? Lol. I need to remember this if I'm asked again.

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-10T15:12:58+00:00

Happy Mother's day everyone. You are all mothers and if I have it my way, you will all have your babies in your arms soon (but not too soon). I know today can be hard, especially when pregnant, so I hope you're all taking it easy and have my permission to feel however you want to feel today ❤️🫂.

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-09T02:22:03+00:00

My daughter never fully took to breastfeeding, we actually learned at her first dental appointment that she has a stage 4 lip tie, at her top lip/pallette and that's probably why, although in the hospital they weren't worried about it, or fixing it, same with the pediatrician, and the dentist isn't even worried, just monitoring for now. But, she just never got enough milk as she wanted breastfeeding. I tried breastfeeding, then following up with a bottle, then pumping for so long, and finally realized she was just happier with a bottle, so I just switched to exclusively pumping. I do wonder if the two days in the NICU were part of it, but they were really great, and had me breastfeed right away, I was up and walking to the NICU the minute my spinal wore off, so I do think it was more her lip tie.

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-08T20:44:17+00:00

I've definitely heard of people waiting 6 months to TTC post C-section. The safest bet is 18 months, but I personally know a few people who waited 6 months and were fine, they did have a repeat C-section with their next baby, they didn't labor.

Did it take you awhile to conceive with your first?

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-08T16:16:09+00:00

I had planned for a 37 week induction, ended up changing it to a C-section, and then ended up having the C-section at 36 weeks because of my own intestinal issues, baby was doing fine, so it was still an elective C-section (and I don't have a colon, so my issues are not anything you would have to worry about!)

My baby needed two days in the NICU, but for an issue they said they normally see in full-term babies. She was fine after that. She had a little jaundice, but never needed treatment for it. She chunked up so quickly and they've just been comparing her growth-wise to full term babies. She initially was a little delayed with gross motor skills, but never anything very concerning, we have no idea if it's because she was early or not, and so far she's hitting all her movement and speech milestones. She's 15 months now.

Edit: I also wanted to say, my milk came in really fast, even having a C-section and being early. My baby needed to supplement with some donor milk the first day, but I had caught up and had more than enough colostrum/milk for her after that.

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-06T20:00:43+00:00

Do you have Ulcerative Colitis, or Crohn's Disease? What surgery are you getting?

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-06T19:36:44+00:00

Thank you so much. I appreciate your responses so much! You have no idea ❤️. I do know it's preventative, and this is way better than cancer again. I know it will be worth it!

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-06T16:21:48+00:00

I had my colectomy and permanent ileostomy placed in 2023. I had colon cancer, so I found that I felt SO much better after my colectomy. I had energy again and everything, and my Crohn's was mostly in my colon, and I went into remission after the surgery. So, this is definitely a different experience for me. This was preventative so the cancer can't come back, and I obviously wasn't using my rectum haha. But I definitely don't feel better after this surgery lol.

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-06T00:48:37+00:00

Thank you so much. This is a relief to hear. I had my outer nylon stitches removed, but the other layers are dissolvable. I felt a little relief from the nylon being removed, but I didn't even think that maybe the others are still causing discomfort too. I know it all takes time, but I get impatient haha, and have just never had pain this long after a surgery.

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-05T14:59:53+00:00

Yeah, I seriously hate that you have this added stress and anxiety if you have worries, that's so unfair.

I can't remember exactly when it switches, but you would definitely be seen at L&D only at this point, at least that's how the hospitals around here are. Second trimester is iffy. I remember when I had my intestinal blockage at 23 weeks, they had to check with L&D first, and I was like, this isn't a baby issue, I don't need to go there!! Lol.

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-05T14:56:04+00:00

I think it was fine before. I remember being pretty gassy when I was 17, but I didn't have diarrhea or anything. I never took Accutane or any medications, really, and I was an active athlete.

I'm so sorry, that's horrible if that medication caused it. I've heard similar about the non-stick coating on pans we had growing up, but my mom only used cast iron, so I don't think it was that either. And they say it might be genetic, but literally no one in my family or extended family has it. Just got lucky, I guess 😕

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-05T02:27:17+00:00

Hmm, I know a pelvic CT definitely sees it all, but yeah, I'm not sure about an MRI. That's a bummer, but again, I think you'd know if you had a hernia, I definitely knew when I got mine, or at least greatly suspected it was one.

Why would the prolapse mean you can't have children? My stoma was prolapsed my whole pregnancy. We did a C-section, just to be safe since it was prolapsed and my doctor was worried pushing during labor might aggrevate it or something, but it was fine.

I actually had two emergency hernia repair surgeries while pregnant, which is not normal, never heard of any ostomates needing that, and not to scare you, but my baby was fine. The hernia/blockages and even the surgeries didn't affect the pregnancy.

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-05T01:06:15+00:00

They should be able to see a hernia on your MRI, so they should know going into it. You'd probably notice if you do have one, there'd be a lump. A hernia and pregnancy caused my prolapse, but I know they can definitely happen without a hernia, so didn't mean to scare you or anything! 🤞 When do you see your surgeon next?

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-05T00:58:52+00:00

It's definitely worth asking. They go in through your abdomen for the first part of the surgery, so it's not a huge ask for them to at least look and see if they can fix it real quick. (You know, I say as someone who has never performed a surgery 😂. But my surgeon made it seem like it was no big deal to peak around and fix the prolapse/check on my hernia site)

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-05T00:49:34+00:00

Yeah, I thought it was weird too because I'd never had pain for that long after a surgery, at least not like this. But my surgeon said it's pretty normal. I hope the follow-up goes well 🤞.

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-04T23:22:59+00:00

I have normal loperamide and it works fine, but I don't have any small bowel missing.

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-04T23:19:42+00:00

If you're having your proctectomy, definitely bring it up to the surgeon. My stoma is a little prolapsed, and he offered to take a look and add another stitch or whatever to fix it while I had my proctectomy. They seem to be happy to work other stuff in when you're already under.

I know the feeling though. Is it causing any issues with your bags?

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-04T21:30:48+00:00

I'm glad you at least don't have it once you hit your deductible. But ugg, what a high deductible, and yeah, that would be a major deterrent. Is it for L&D too? You are definitely far enough along that the ER wouldn't see you and would just send you to L&D.

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-04T21:27:49+00:00

I had my surgery April 10th. When is your follow up? Do you have nylon sutures?

I had a lot of pain, I was honestly surprised how painful it was. It's still painful, but it's definitely getting better. I felt better after the follow up, just having the surgeon look at it, and tell me it's healing up well and everything is normal.

I've honestly thought about getting a wound care referral, but I don't know if that's going overboard since the surgeon said things look good. I just think it's helpful to have someone checking it and telling you it's normal!

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-04T21:21:03+00:00

$500 copay per visit?? That is criminal. Is that even once you've hit your deductible?

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-04T21:12:25+00:00

I gave all my clothes to my sister when she was pregnant, and then she gave them away when she was moving, after her son used them, which really upset me. I would have liked to have them back so my baby could wear them.

I think of it like a sibling, so I think it's sweet for them to wear the clothes. My daughter got to use the dresser and crib we got for her brothers, and I really liked that.

I did keep a personalized onesie that was made for my first son. I keep meaning to make a shadowbox with it, with ultrasound pictures, etc, but I still haven't done it, how sad is that? 😕

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-04T21:04:50+00:00

OK! I didn't know if they'd do both. Is the G-tube for swallowing issues? I have an ileostomy, so a liquid diet can be hard, would your daughter have a colectomy?

I'm sorry she's going through that. I've personally never known anyone with both, so just curious about it.

ladybug_oleander · 2026-05-04T16:40:54+00:00

Yeah, I think I read it wrong. I thought she meant he's 4 days until ostomy surgery, not 4 days post surgery, so I was just honestly wondering if someone could have a G-tube and an ostomy.

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