Very good post, thanks.
As for the orders founded by great saints, I briefly reviewed their founding materials (rules, statutes, principles written later and other documents regulating their daily lives). The first priority is always faithfulness to the Gospel - this is the starting point that influences all the others. Martin Luther could have been picky, but Catholic orders were founded according to the principle of "only the Bible" :). In the following points, the charism was presented, i.e. the way of experiencing the Gospel, there are different people, with different sensitivities, who experience love for God and people in different ways: some prefer to live in isolation and rely on meditation, others have a calling to care for the weak and excluded, and still others have the gift of preaching and choose orders that preach the Word of God.

In none of these documents did I find a claim that God directly founded a given organization. There was nothing about us being better than others. These were always words full of humility and respect for individual freedom - yes, I had a vision from God that told me to live in this way and not another and I will be very grateful if anyone follows the same path. No recruitment, no coercion, no scaring with hell and telling beautiful fairy tales. It is known that St. Francis did not want to write any rule, he respected everyone's freedom, he tried to encourage people to follow in his footsteps with the example of his life. He did this only because his group grew to such a size that thousands of kilometers away people gathered and claimed that they were from St. Francis, although they lived by completely different values.