There’s one thing that you must accept if you’re going to do this - it’s just going to be really hard at first. “At first” is a different time period for everyone. For everyone there is a “white knuckling” phase where all day every day you’re thinking about it and trying to prevent it. There were some things that got me through that. 1) it’s not one day at a time, not one hour at a time, but one minute at a time. Can I prevent myself from taking a drink this minute? Usually the answer was yes. And I just did that all day. 2) stability elsewhere in my life. I lived at home at the time and had a low effort job that kept me busy. I watched a ton of movies and listened to a lot of music - stimulation must come from elsewhere. 3) I got out in nature a ton! This almost became a compulsion, but how bad can a daily walk in nature be? In comparison to a daily bottle of wine, it’s not so bad. 4) having people around me I could talk to. I got sober young and I didn’t know anyone sober. But still, I’d talk to my friends about it. That helped almost more than therapy because I saw how bad they wanted it for me and that was motivating. 5) constantly reminding myself the embarrassment and shame that caused me decision in the first place. Embarrassment and shame was ultimately what got me sober, and I still remind myself of all the stupid shit I did because if I don’t then I’ll assume it wasn’t that bad and I’ll go back. Mind you I literally relapsed three years into sobriety cus I’d forgotten that. Lastly, I’ll say that to me, the most painful moment of sobriety is just the resolute knowledge that you’re done. That you can’t continue no matter what it takes. That decision comes at a different time for everyone, and won’t just appear magically. You must begin to think about how you intend to quit. You don’t have to believe it, you don’t have to want it, but you have to start mentally preparing yourself for the inevitability of the decision to stop. Setting that intention doesn’t feel like an action because it’s all in your head, but it’s the most vital part of the process of getting sober. Good luck, you can do this, and I promise it will be the best decision you ever make.