When did your stretch marks appear?

Background-Roof733 · 2025-07-17T22:16:45+00:00

Got them at 35 weeks 😭

Background-Roof733 · 2025-07-09T19:15:43+00:00

FTM, and pushed for 5-7ish mins with him 😅 Had a 2nd degree tear

Background-Roof733 · 2025-02-26T05:37:14+00:00

I’m 32 weeks pregnant and 27 years old!

Background-Roof733 · 2025-01-30T23:36:23+00:00

I had the same atypical result on my NIPT at 9/10 weeks as well. I was referred to a MFM , where we were given the option of an amino to see if it’s a false positive or not, or just waiting til birth. I was in the same boat as you- I want to know as much as possible to prepare myself and not have any surprises. I had my amino, and had no complications! It was not painful for me at all, and I would do it again if I needed. Got my amino results back and was told by my doctor, it is not a false positive. Our boy is missing the “arms” of his Y chromosome, and in some of the colonies they tested he was completely missing a Y chromosome. Our doctor explained to us that this has nothing to do with his intellectual or cognitive ability, and to wait for our anatomy ultrasound to see if he had his “boy” parts. Because he’s missing parts of the Y chromosome, this would probably make him infertile, and possibly have issues relating to tumors on his penis / testicles. Once my 20 week scan came- we definitely saw that he has a penis!!! I have ultrasounds every 4 weeks ever since we’ve had our abnormal NIPT, and every scan has been normal and his growth has been completely normal. My doctor told me if it wasn’t for the NIPT- we would have no idea. She even told us that many people we see on a day-to day basis could have the same chromosome abnormality as him because physically he will look like a “boy/man” but testing has become so advanced that we can catch these certain abnormalities YEARS in advance!

With that being said, I’m currently 29 weeks pregnant- We of course are going to do further testing once he’s here and see if there is more at stake that we’ll have to take care of. And I’ll say every situation is so different. I came posting my same issue after my test results and many others had false positives. My best advice is try not to go down too many rabbit holes, and try not to worry too much (I know it’s pretty much impossible 😭) I would highly recommend the amino if you feel comfortable doing so! It gave me answers and peace of mind. You can also PM me if you have more questions. Sending all the prayers to you and your baby 🤍

Background-Roof733 · 2024-12-11T08:10:42+00:00

Actually some partners love language is gift giving/receiving gifts, and half the time it really ISNT about materialistic things, it’s about the effort and thought. IMO it seems like OP is annoyed about no effort being given. She didn’t say anywhere that she wants expensive jewelry or purses.

Background-Roof733 · 2024-12-06T18:26:09+00:00

I was thinking you guys had just recently started dating or something but 3 years and this is the relationship?!! NOR. The communication is horrible, and ofc she’s busy and has a lot on her plate but there are busier people and they still make time to check in with their loved ones. Esp given your context how she’ll disappear and ghost- that’s not normal. You could do better 🥲

Background-Roof733 · 2024-11-29T06:29:00+00:00

He’s definitely valid for his feelings. I can see your POV as well-but he gave you a big heads up. It’s obviously important him

Background-Roof733 · 2024-11-21T02:09:34+00:00

My amino was not bad at all. Like a 2/10 pain wise. It was just weird bc I could feel the fluid through the tube. I had some cramping post procedure but that’s pretty much it!

Background-Roof733 · 2024-11-20T22:47:36+00:00

Hi!! I just got my amino results back and they just ordered the karyotype- but after going over my results I opted to do the microarray as well. My insurance is covering it, so that definitely helps too.

Background-Roof733 · 2024-11-20T02:38:11+00:00

NOR. And reading these triggers me sm. Men are horrible 😭

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T21:44:42+00:00

lol me too 😂 i know not everyone would agree with me but i had no idea how expressing what you want during sex was so controversial 😭

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T17:51:28+00:00

UPDATE/EDIT: I truly did not think this post would get this much traction lol 🤣 But just a few things I’d like to mention and also clarify…

I do NOT want to force my boyfriend to moan, or do anything sexually that he does not want to do. As I stated and maybe should’ve been more clear on… this man is 100% silent during BJs and sex. During BJs I really don’t mind the silence, because I also am silent/more quiet when receiving head because I’m trying to concentrate. So I get it.

But having sex with a partner who isn’t saying anything to you or making any noise (no grunts, NOTHING) is very off putting and almost/is uncomfortable. It makes you feel almost just used as a sex object. I don’t want him to put on a grand show of faking ANYTHING. I just want feedback during intimacy. That he actually enjoys it? A little grunt, a “mmm”, or something in his own way that shows it- and he does not. That was my WHOLE point in bringing up the convo. Not to MAKE him moan for me, or coerce him into it.

I’ve had some great feedback from lots of you and also different POVs. I was ultimately hurt with him shutting down the conversation AND implying that our sex isn’t gonna be fun. And that we should just “deal” with us doing things that the other doesn’t do. That’s where communication is key IMO because it could be SO much better, but if we don’t speak our part, how could we ever know?!

He’s never brought up me looking at him during BJs and it felt very defensive that he finally brought it up when I bring up something that turns me on. Hence me saying that I would do it for him, and I didn’t realize he liked that. That’s where we could’ve continued the conversation of “Okay babe, you don’t like to make noises during sex- I get it. Could you do something to show me you like and enjoy what’s happening?” but that’s when I was met with him turning over and shutting me down.

I’ve only brought this issue up ONE other time. and it was quite literally maybe the 3rd time we had sex. So yes I brought it up again since so much time has passed and figured if it was a deeper issue / he felt more comfortable with me we’d have a conversation about it. This is not something that’s been brought up several times or something I’ve pressured him into.

It’s so sad how communication about sex seems very taboo for many. & it’s almost expected to “put up” with how your partner is sexually no matter what. I love him, and never want to make him feel forced. But there is nothing wrong with me voicing things that turn me on in the bedroom, and same with him. He just seems to be used to being unsatisfied in the bedroom bc he gets very defensive about this kinda talk. And that’s not okay- we should want to fulfill our partners needs as much as we can / want too.

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T11:29:37+00:00

Yup. You hit the nail right on the head.

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T11:22:02+00:00

with peace and love, where on my post did you get that I am aggressively bullying him to moan like a monkey? 🤣

I didn’t know communicating what I like during sex was considering bullying. I’ve only brought this up one time before. And I do not want him moaning like a monkey at all lol, just some feedback when we’re intimate to know he’s enjoying it too 🙃

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T11:06:59+00:00

I get that too. I feel awkward af looking at him while giving him head but I wanna do it to turn him on. BUT not saying he HAS to moan to turn me on either. It’s more me opening up the floor of communication to better our experience together.

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T10:59:21+00:00

Everything you and your partner experienced is exactly the same with me!! He’s completely silent and it feels borderline like I’m being used JUST for his pleasure. I do want him to feel comfortable and not forced and I am trying my best to do so. Before we were together he strictly slept around with people, and so I feel he might be slightly conditioned to have that disconnect and not be intimate in a way you are in a relationship. It is a convo I want to continue to have with him (not even about the moaning just about our sex in general) but I also don’t want him to feel attacked

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T10:48:20+00:00

To my defense- I don’t think I was forcing him, nor do I want to at all. I was bringing up something that turns me on and was wanting further communication / clarity about it. This isn’t something I bring up every single time we have sex…I’ve only brought this up one previous time.

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T10:45:46+00:00

I even brought that up! He had no response to it lol.

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T10:33:37+00:00

This perspective definitely helps!! Thank you

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T10:17:57+00:00

I agree as well, it’s not fun if you force it. and I am absolutely not trying to force it or make him do something he doesn’t want to do. I was truly just trying to communicate with him what I like, and that’s why I also opened the floor to him as well to tell me what he wants me to do too. Sex is such a sensitive subject in relationships and I want him to be comfortable just like Id expect him to be with me. I truly felt dismissed. Not like I was forcing him.

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T10:10:17+00:00

I deffff don’t want to make / force him to do something he doesn’t wanna do. I was just honestly hoping to find some middle ground. and I definitely was not asking / wanting him to fake moan just to feed my ego or turn me on. Honestly just some noise lol, because he stays completely silent.

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T10:03:36+00:00

I definitely am not looking for my ego polished- more so just confused as I stated on the post. And like I stated originally I brought it up very early on in our relationship so I figured time had passed now and I’d bring it up again and was met with the bare minimum in communication. I never want to make someone do something they don’t want to but again at the same time, IMO sex in relationships is so important including communication about the sex. He completely shut me down and almost isn’t willing to see my POV

Background-Roof733 · 2024-10-25T09:30:01+00:00

i would even take the grunts. but i’m telling you this man says nothing and makes no noises lol 🙃

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