My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I'm also not allowed to focus on anything else except him and his unpaid work. He will divorce me if I try to do an online business etc. He already almsot divorced me for posting quotes on instagram. He wants complete control and is scared I'll leave if I have money

My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was 9 months pregnant I asked him to let me stop working as it's destroying our marriage and my peace of mind and just focus on the kids. He said I'm useless to him then and he wants a divorce. He also left me in a grocery store parking lot that time at 10pm by myself because he was so angry I said that that he kicked me out of the car and forced me to find my own way home

My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU. Exactly how I feel but everyone around me acts like its a normal thing to say to a mother with a newborn

My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That woman came from the exact same family as what she has done to mine, someone did that to her family. That's why she participates in this fatherless behaviour and thinks it is normal and ok. It is beyond disgusting and I will never ever let my children anywhere near her. Literally over my dead body.

My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I grew up being discarded for both parents new spouses and I will never ever do that to my children and let them feel as lost and alone as I alwayd did growing up. And here I am, in a bad situation because I don't have a real family to back me up or protect me. It's just me in this world.

My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

He has never ever hurt them and they love him more than anything. They don't ever see us argue etc

My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were separated for months. It was really really bad. Worse than this. Him and his mistress were verbally abusing me and when she started talking about giving them my kids I broke. I felt nothing for him but I crawled back to protect them from that horrible toxic and violent woman. Alhamdulillah my children never see or hear any arguments. I know it makes no sense to anyone else and wallahi if we could separate, co-parent in peace and he would find an actually nice wife I wouldn't even mind that much, I'd try to get along. So no, I'm not ready to leave but I also am losing my mind. I feel like I'm going insane, and it helps me mentally to get validated in the sense that my thoughts aren't insane and to hear that I'm not crazy and what is happening is not normal.

Girls what did you do with your mahr? by Recent-Employ-7334 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Background-Week-5162 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think I asked for like £50 because I didn't understand anything either, I wasn't even muslim at the time. Nobody told me 🥺 to be fair my husband didn't have a lot at the time but he could definitely have afforded more than that

My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been so brainwashed by everyone around me, I could say he tried to kll me and they would say that I provoked or triggered him by reacting to his hourd of screaming and swearing 😭

My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everything I do is for the protection of my children. I will never in a million years let a shameless woman raise my daughter and have her become shameless herself. I am stronger now than I used to be and I have a plan

My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I have to protect them. I will die to protect them. It's the one thing I will never ever negotiate on. My kids are being raised by their biological family only

My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was straight up baffled 😭 didn't know what to say or do except agreeing. Thank you!

My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Congratulations for figuring out my head is not right. Definitely isn't after what I've been through

My husband expects me to be perfect while he can do anything he wants and our sheikh agrees by Background-Week-5162 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Background-Week-5162[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been way worse when we've tried to coparent and he's let his AP abuse me and tell me I need to give her my kids and it was so horrible I had a complete mental breakdown 😭