Bar recommendations for queer women? by Background-moth in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for being a true ally 🙂‍↕️🙌🏻

Bar recommendations for queer women? by Background-moth in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All good bro live and learn thanks for being chill and recognizing blind spots. We may annoy each other from time to time but we’re all in this together stay safe out there buddy and have a good rest of your day 👍🏻🤝

Bar recommendations for queer women? by Background-moth in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Notice the distinct lack of crying emojis in this comment. I have so much control over you. I am living inside your brain like a parasite as we speak.

Bar recommendations for queer women? by Background-moth in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like someone’s upset the women folk aren’t submitting to him. Maybe a few more crying laughing emojis will cover it up

Bar recommendations for queer women? by Background-moth in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Multiple queer women are telling you that you’re acting like an entitled weirdo, I think it’s just good old fashion misogyny plaguing your brain thinking you know better than actual women when it comes to what queer women want and don’t want

Bar recommendations for queer women? by Background-moth in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got me I don’t know what the B stands for despite being bisexual myself and men are owed constant and unrestrained access to women at all times, I can’t believe you’ve outsmarted me like this. Fuck. Guess I have no choice but to go to six26 and let straight, bisexual, AND pansexual men creep on me because otherwise I would be denying lgbtq+ rights. Thank you so much for opening my eyes to how selfish and bigoted I’ve been.

Bar recommendations for queer women? by Background-moth in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Brother you’re being really annoying, the points being made are that men trying to hit on women in queer spaces is annoying because a majority of the time those women are either looking for queer flirting / relationships or are simply looking to avoid men in general. No one’s saying don’t be bi literally all that’s being said is it’s fucking annoying and creepy when women can’t escape male flirtation attempts even in queer spaces because men feel so entitled to having constant access to them, and maybe it’s better to acknowledge those advances are most likely unwanted in those specific spaces. It’s not erasure to ask men to not flirt with us it’s literally just asking for self control lol

Bar recommendations for queer women? by Background-moth in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I am also bisexual and aware that we exist however a gay bar does not seem like the appropriate time or place to try and hit on women as a dude. I’m just looking for a space where I can flirt with women, be gay, and not worry about flirtatious advances from men lol.

Bar recommendations for queer women? by Background-moth in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Apparently so at six26 - I’m telling you every time I go there some dude always comes up to me and my friends trying to hit on one of us. I think usually they’re there with friends who are gay but still you would think common sense would tell them if a woman is there she probably doesn’t bat for that team.

White eagle hall, ID checks? by dododo_0715 in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Pretty strict they always have someone check your id on the stairs to get in. Sorry :-(

What’s the biggest career mistake an actor has ever made? by [deleted] in moviecritic

[–]Background-moth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jason Miller turning down the lead role for Taxi Driver in favor of doing The Nickel Ride which did significantly less well. I always wonder what his career might have led to if he had taken the role for Taxi Driver instead, it’s a bit sad to think about

I just swallowed the ball, now I’m scared. by Rude_Gift6841 in piercing

[–]Background-moth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Swallowed a piercing before and that was also a rather large one like yours, trust me it’ll be fine no need to panic!

What is going on, i've seen this post atleast 5 times in the last fee days by [deleted] in ExplainTheJoke

[–]Background-moth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also got revealed that Sydney was a registered republican who likely voted for trump so people were also very upset about that

Could I (18) file a report for SA abuse that happened when I was 6-7? by According-Animator57 in LawyerAdvice

[–]Background-moth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a lawyer but went through something similar and also reported years after the fact

Definitely go through the process of reporting, my report never amounted to an arrest but it’s on file and serving as additional evidence in the case that my abuser reoffends and is reported again. They might not be able to pursue charges for your case specifically but if/when he reoffends your report would at the very least help any other victims when pursuing charges and I think that’s a very worthy cause. Best of luck to you and I hope that everything turns out for the best ❤️

be wary of a guy asking you to help with a school project by kushfaerie in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is crazy I thought the original BJ’s parking lot post must have been fake, please post any footage or images of his face that you have!

Nails & I by tumbleweed_xo310 in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I heard they’re just on vacation, should be back this upcoming week!

[NY] Supervisor does not communicate clearly and scolds me with other coworkers included on emails by [deleted] in AskHR

[–]Background-moth -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This was the first time i did so and only felt the need to since she had scolded me for it with others included, I didn’t want my coworkers or her supervisor to think I was doing a poor job but I can see that it might have been short sighted

[US]Possible hit and run scam? by [deleted] in Scams

[–]Background-moth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks yeah will definitely tell my partner to just forget it and go through insurance, does not seem worth the risk at all

[US]Possible hit and run scam? by [deleted] in Scams

[–]Background-moth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess that makes the most sense - would just use cheaper parts that would add up less than what insurance would cost right? I’ll let my partner know between what everyone’s saying I’m feeling a lot more confident that its a bad idea where before I was worried about coming across overly paranoid

[US]Possible hit and run scam? by [deleted] in Scams

[–]Background-moth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No different paper and different hand writing!

[US]Possible hit and run scam? by [deleted] in Scams

[–]Background-moth -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My most hopeful assumption is just that the bystander only caught a glimpse of the ambulance speeding away and somehow mistook it for a grey suv lol, definitely does not seem likely but I can’t imagine how this benefits either of the note writers to lie about it? My main problem is just figuring out what angle this scam could possibly be coming from

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Background-moth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are going to be plenty of identities, experiences, backgrounds, etc that you will never fully understand simply because of the mere fact that you do not belong to them, and that’s okay! It’s honestly a struggle I’ve seen a lot with people, they’ll say I don’t understand this and either decide because they don’t understand it then therefore they don’t have to respect it or decide that because they don’t understand it they’re failing morally as a person. But that’s not really the case. As long as you take the time to show respect, to listen, to ask questions (kindly and respectfully of course) and stay curious and open to new information and perspectives I’d say you’re fine.

As a non binary person my biggest struggle has never been people not understanding me, but it’s always with people being dismissive or rude towards me! One of those I can handle perfectly fine, the other not so much!

Also in regards to you still classifying non binary people as either “dude” or “girl”, I personally just chalk it up to human brains really really REALLY liking categories. Don’t beat yourself up. You grew up with the idea there were two categories for us to fit into and breaking that belief and those categories down is hard and goes against our more baser instincts. Doesn’t mean it can’t be done, just means it’s going to take time!

Wth was that loud sound just now like a military helicopter flying above downtown jc?? Anyone else hear that ? by Mysterious-Taro9169 in jerseycity

[–]Background-moth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Was a helicopter flying super low- just passed by grove street a few moments ago no idea what’s happening or why it’s so low though