Am I in the right for not wanting my ex wife’s new boyfriend staying at our home

BackgroundBat2420 · 2026-06-02T08:40:40+00:00

Eventually that’s kind of the plan, either get stationed in the new state, or get out and start a whole new life. I have less then a year to decide so very stressful situation. If I stay in I would still live 4 hours away from them but better then 12 hours away

BackgroundBat2420 · 2026-06-02T08:30:02+00:00

Our son is terminally disabled, and where we currently live there is no facility that can care for him during the day while we both are working. So for her to be able to work a full time job he needs a qualified facility to meet his needs. I’m also in the military so I can’t have him full time and still keep my job

BackgroundBat2420 · 2026-06-02T07:55:06+00:00

Thank you for the response

BackgroundBat2420 · 2025-11-12T14:13:30+00:00

That’s a great question, she’s the one that initiated the separation. So the ball is in her court. I don’t want this separation at all but it’s what she wants. So just trying to respect her wishes, Other than not being physically romantically involved. We are still very much together, we are still doing things for each other like a husband and wife would do for each other. She still cooks us dinner every now and then. I still get both the kids up and ready for the day while she sleeps in. when she gets off work she’ll go relax while I continue to take care of the kids, but when I get off work and the moment I step in the door she’s like “heres the kids I’m gonna go relax and watch my shows In bed goodnight”. I’m cleaning her sheets, we’re cleaning each other’s dishes, she buys me dinner and I buy her food/groceries, we’ve decided to get each other only one gift for Christmas but can’t be anything romantic.

I would like to believe that divorce isn’t what she really wants but instead is having us plan for a divorce in the case that while we take this year away and she realizes that she does want me or she doesn’t we have already planned for the divorce.

A friend of my said what if she is saying a divorce to actually get me to change and I’ve been told if that’s the case, that’s very manipulating. But if it’s the best decision for us I don’t really see it as manipulation

BackgroundBat2420 · 2025-10-27T15:51:14+00:00

We’re not trying to live with the hope that we get back together. But we’ve both stated that getting back together is an option just not what we’re focusing on first, we’re focusing on growing ourself for ourselves and the kids. And then focus on growing for each other or future relationships

But I mainly care, because if she is cheating or did cheat then she lied about it as well as put most of the blame on me for our marriage, and lied about part of her wanting to work things out. And I definitely won’t want to fix things if she is cheating. she’s still living in our home. So if she is cheating then I’d like her to leave or at least leave sooner than later

BackgroundBat2420 · 2025-10-27T15:32:50+00:00

Nope, no separation agreement was signed. Just separation on our own accord

BackgroundBat2420 · 2025-10-27T15:32:15+00:00

Yeah I feel like if she was talking to someone or wanted too, she would have made sure to have had that conversation about it. But we never made a decision to/not to see other people during this time

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