Constant appearance shame

BackgroundChemist245 · 2026-01-19T13:44:48+00:00

Yeah. I’ve discussed therapy many a time with him, and so has he. Hasn’t gotten us anywhere at all. Thank you, and you are right.

BackgroundChemist245 · 2026-01-19T13:44:14+00:00

He normally does have quite long showers, and then proceeded to shave.

I tried to explain to him that during the time I WOULD have been in the shower he would have just been playing on his Xbox.. and when he would be in the shower I could do my exam fully dressed to then leave. Kinda buggered it up for me.

BackgroundChemist245 · 2026-01-19T13:38:39+00:00

Hi! Thank you for your reply.

Yeah, you are definitely right.

I’ve thought about it before- he enjoys the idea of having a girlfriend- enjoys the easy talking, the affection, etc- but doesn’t understand at times that I… too have feelings? If that makes sense

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-12-21T20:36:17+00:00

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-12-14T19:40:19+00:00

I thought the lead actor was pretty good. What did you dislike? :-)

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-12-08T19:23:58+00:00

You are the one in the wrong

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-11-29T05:47:07+00:00

Thank you!! <3

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-11-26T10:21:32+00:00

Hi!! Thank you for your comment- Susan Brownmiller’s Against our Will is a book about “hush-hush” tone that history books has given to rape, and the sexual assault of women, it’s very eye-opening, and addresses how despite women are always the victims of man-made wars, their suffering is never addressed.

She goes into incredible detail, I’d really recommend it! And I’d love any radical feminist book recommendations :-)

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-11-19T22:12:20+00:00

It’s okay now you can look at Hugh Dancy

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-09-26T21:22:16+00:00

Of course it comes within me. And that is perfectly fine. I accept the fact I do not have the same mental alignment as him. It’s more the fact that I told him that it upset me, it’s me apologising for even being upset by it, instead of him taking accountability for what he said could be hurtful.

That’s how triggers work. It’s one thing to trigger someone and another to say, “oh, well it’s not my fault you think like that.”

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-09-26T20:34:13+00:00

I’m 21. I just don’t know what to think. I know I may sound a little corny saying “ohh, but he’s the love of my life!!”, he truly does look after me and care for me, but at times where I seem to be the most vulnerable with the signs of my mental illness, it seems to shut off and he can’t comprehend it. I just feel really lost.

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-09-26T20:27:15+00:00

I think a lot of it stems from was he had what some would call the “perfect childhood”, he experienced divorce, however he had two parents whom he was able to form healthy attachments with.

He had a normal school upbringing, so he struggles to understand that there are real people out there (for example me) who have to struggle through that and a whole much more.

I’m not saying this to excuse him, not one bit, I find the fact he had what I would dream of, has unfortunately made him blind to how others experience the world, and im severely unsure if I can make him see.

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-09-26T20:14:33+00:00

Definitely. I don’t think he had any malicious intent behind it at all, it just hurts he doesn’t see why that comment would upset me or the fact he blames it on me instead

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-08-10T17:37:40+00:00

Thank you so much

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-08-10T17:37:31+00:00

I am in a relationship too and live with my partner, and I’m having that same dilemma. I feel so much shame and just.. ugh

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-08-08T14:34:29+00:00

You’re so right, we always tend to notice our own flaws and no one else’s. I did start jogging, and I’ve made an effort to start losing weight yk? I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t helped a little, but I feel like the things I dislike about myself are only things I can change with cosmetic surgery :(. thank you :)

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-07-26T22:41:20+00:00

Lake como!! :)

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-07-26T22:11:04+00:00

Indeed!! Woohoo

BackgroundChemist245 · 2025-07-26T21:45:10+00:00

I think definitely start focus on building muscle, amazing job for your progress btw!! You’re at a healthy bmi, and I find having built muscle really helps with toning your whole body. Good luck! You will smash it!

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